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Am I making excuses?


Tuesday, November 13, 2012

As I mentioned on Sunday, I decided to start a C25K program and did my first run. Well, okay, I didn't decide this on Sunday. Several things had led up to it and Sunday was a beautiful day so I went for it. I knew I wouldn't be going on Monday. Primarily because it's bad to go on consecutive days when you're a total newbie! Also because I knew it was going to rain pretty much all day (which it did).

So I decided Tuesday would be my second day. Until Monday when I talked to one of my daughter's teachers and we schedule a conference for Tuesday. Well, fine, then. I guess Tuesday isn't a good day to go out again.

Now here it is Tuesday evening and I find myself thinking "what's going to keep me from going for a run on Wednesday?" It's supposed to be chilly but clear and breezy. I have this beautiful walking path just half a mile from home. There is an office I'm thinking I need to go to but it's right where I get on the path anyway!

So I go to the office first and then (unless it takes all day there) run the path, right? I hear it in my head already "but what about lunch?", "what if...", "but the TIME"!

I can't go on Thursday because my son is having his wisdom teeth out that morning. I can probably get out on Friday, though. Unless his extraction goes as horribly as mine did back in the day. Then I'll be spending a lot of Friday sitting with him at the hospital. But I'm sure that won't happen.

So... am I making excuses to avoid doing something challenging? Or was this just a bad week to start? Is there such thing as a "good" week to start? Nobody ever said being a single mom of 2 kids with ASD wouldn't be time consuming! emoticon

But, no, I don't regret leaving their father even for a second. I only regret that it took me so long to be ready to do it!
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HEALTHYLADY12 11/14/2012 12:45AM

    you got some busyiness ahead of you but often we fear will make an excuse not to exercise and the mind likes that so we go with whats comfortable. Girl your going to run tomarrow and if you dont the other days its okay because so far you ran two days and thats good.

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1STATEOFDENIAL 11/13/2012 7:30PM

    There are several things you can try. Schedule your workout and stick to it like a doctor appointment that you can't miss. Don't schedule anything else for that time no matter what. Get in extra movement whenever you can. If you can only do a 20 minute workout instead of a 45 minute workout, DO IT - anything is better than nothing. Don't psych yourself out or jinx yourself by thinking up reasons you won't be able to do it. Come time to do it, you'll just be thinking of those reasons and not do it. Any real complicaitons like eating lunch can be easily planned for: bring a cooler with a light lunch then walk after eating. Or, better yet, can you take a walk THEN go to the office? Bring along some perfume and baby wipes to clean up in the bathroom quickly before heading in.

As for the extraction, call the dentist and ask about the procedure so you know ahead of time what to expect. From what I've heard, there have been incredible changes in the last few years that make extractions relatively easy, so you may be worrying over nothing. This will help you explain what will happen to your son and let you know what to expect afterwards. Also, if there is anyone who can say with your son for a half hour or if he's doing well enough to be left alone (with a phone nearby) then you can go out for a walk while he's resting.

Also, be aware of what's happening when you say "I can probably get out on Friday, though. Unless his extraction goes as horribly as mine did back in the day. Then I'll be spending a lot of Friday sitting with him at the hospital. But I'm sure that won't happen." You're saying you want to go out on Friday, then saying 'but maybe I can't', and following with "but I'm sure that won't happen." When I say something like that it means I'm pretty sure something will happen but I don't want others to think I believe that. So check in with yourself to find your truth; do you really believe you can find a way to walk or are you trying to convince yourself you can do it when you really believe you can't? Step back and find ways to deal with what 'might' hold you back. Set up someone to watch your son so you can schedule a workout and stick to it. Your son may be on painkillers and want nothing more than to sleep, so you can either sit around the house watching tv or you can get in a few short workouts.

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SKEPCHICK 11/13/2012 6:17PM

  No, I think you had some bad luck. Try again next week.

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ARUSHING2 11/13/2012 6:07PM

 
I believe that you may well have found the culprit, and the culprit is you!

You sound as though you are dreaming-up any and all excuses NOT to work a program.

IF you are going to work it! NOW is the best time to start it!

IF you are going to waste your time dreaming-up excuses, there will be no time left for getting started or making progress or doing anything proactive and positive.

You may wish to think what and when you can do your program, AFTER or BEFORE any other stuff.

Most people have more "down-time" than is neccessary.

Many people never do make any of their "down-time" into "up" and active time!

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R>Years ago when I asked a great, new friend how he managed to accomplish so much and be in such good shape. He just said do the work before the play and do the work and the play before the procrastination!



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MS_HEATHER121 11/13/2012 5:51PM

    Girl i can only imagine what its like to have 2 kids with ASD... I have 1 so I can sort of sympathize. Anyway, it sounds like you're sort of psyching yourself out for the c25k. Make up your mind to go tomorrow and do it. Take a light lunch or protein bar just in case the office visit goes longer than expected. As for the dentist... I had extractions last year and it wasn't bad at all. They're much better now than they were years back. They'll give him meds for pain Plus an antibiotic, so he will be fine.. Sooo there's your Friday run Right there. You're like me... you know you want to do it, but you work yourself up with the what-ifs and you become preoccupied with something else. Put your mind to it and emoticon

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ARUSHING2 11/13/2012 5:39PM

 
I believe that you may well have found the culprit, and the culprit is you!

You sound as though you are dreaming-up any and all excuses NOT to work a program.

IF you are going to work it! NOW is the best time to start it!

IF you are going to waste your time dreaming-up excuses, there will be no time left for getting started or making progress or doing anything proactive and positive.

You may wish to think what and when you can do your program, AFTER or BEFORE any other stuff.

Most people have more "down-time" than is neccessary.

Many people never do make any of their "down-time" into "up" and active time!

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R>Years ago when I asked a new friend how he managed to accomplish so much and be in such good shape. He just said do the work before the play and do the work and the play before the procrastination!



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