Tuesday, November 13, 2012
I refused to type up a paper for the husband today. He has gotten himself into a legal financial tight spot regarding a credit card which has been on going for 3 years. He has now been subpoenaed. I have offered him my advice, help and support up until today. Once more he has decided not to respect nor follow anything I have to say on the matter and has ended up in more trouble. Today I finally drew the line and told him he was on his own. He can type up his own response to the attorneys or find someone else to do it for him. It was a small line in the sand, true but I don't feel I should help him out again only to have him not listen to sound advice and therefore dig the hole deeper.
Well all hell broke loose! He called our daughter and asked her to do it for him. After a small hassle she decided to help him out. At the same time the two of them came to the conclusion that "I" was the real problem. I wasn't being a good, dutiful wife. So for that the daughter decided I was not allowed to see my grandson today as planned. I was being punished for saying no to typing up the paper. UNBELIEVABLE! I lost precious time with my grandson over this.
After trying in vain to get both of them to see the error of their ways I realized there was nothing I could do. My daughter had made up her mind. Like I have said before she will use any reason to hurt. Her view on the subject is that I should have done "my duty" as DH's wife even if I was frustrated with his stupidity. Her words! I look at it in terms that it is a paper for God's sake. Not a huge deal breaker in my book and certainly not something that should have been tied to time spent with the grandson. DH refuses to listen to anyone's advice, especially mine, not only in this instance but in others, and keeps making poor financial choices. I have had it, and feel if he wants to continue making bad choices than by God he needs to take full responsibility for them and can type up his own responses to attorneys and such. At the moment however he is over at the daughter's, having her do his work for him and I might add, seeing our grandson.
Frustration and anger are but two of the feelings running rampant in me at the moment. Sadness at missing out on the little guy today is HUGE to say the least.