Standing up for myself, and for Ben
Monday, November 12, 2012
I have housemates. One of them is narcissistic, which, believe me, is triggering as all get-out. He's been treating other people in the house very badly, including his wife. But she's a grown woman, if she wants to do something about it, she can.
He's been mostly ignoring me; the only time he said anything since he got back from his monthly Michigan trip was to ask me for something, once. But during the few times he's interacted with Ben, he's had an attitude with /Ben/, and that's not acceptable.
If he does it again, I'm going to say something. He may be able to treat his own family badly, but he can't treat MY family badly. Ben is 5. He's learning. Yes, he's annoying. He's FIVE. If people can't understand that this is his house, too (especially since he was here first), then maybe this isn't the place for them. And I'm going to stand up for myself, and for Ben, and tell him that.
This is scary stuff; I'm not great at confrontation. And I don't know when it's going to happen, but I do know it WILL happen, and there will be consequences. I wish I had some idea what they'll be, but I don't really know, other than lots of yelling and me having to be calm and firm. But it has to be done. I'm not going to live my life afraid of raising my voice at all in my own house, and I'm not going to teach my son that it's ok for people to treat each other like this.