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My Gift or Curse for Those Who Must Endure My Attempts

Monday, November 12, 2012

I believe we all have gifts, like the gifted artist, singer or musician. My gift is that I see humor in most things. I attempt to present that humor to others. Sometimes my gift is a curse also, since I have learned that there are times when you should not bring attention to or share what you think is funny. School is in the “not funny” category and I spent many hours in the detention and suffering other punishments learning this. Eulogies for family members and good friends however……

I delivered the eulogy at my Mother's funeral. I did not write anything. I simply told and acted out funny stories that my Mother was involved in throughout her life from childhood stories to a few days prior to her passing. My family and friends were not surprised and I had them laughing hard in the aisles of the Catholic Church. I know my Mother was smiling and laughing with us from above. After I finished the eulogy (or as a comedian would say "the set") I turned and told the Priest he could continue the service.

The Priest rose from his seat, turned his head as he watched me take my seat, then announced to all, "Thank you for that very unconventional eulogy!"

My relatives and family friends laughed at the Priest's comment, startling him. I hope when my Father passes, the service is performed by the same Priest so I can remind him I do a very unconventional eulogy.

In my family there are a few of us that have this gift. My Paternal Grandmother and Grandfather were very funny and saw the humor in life. They were a laugh riot at times. A few of my cousins and I possess our Grandparents’ gift.

Years prior to my Mother's passing, one of my Father's sisters died and her youngest son delivered a eulogy that had us rolling with laughter. My cousin Andy possesses the gift.

My youngest daughter possesses the gift. When I pass, I look forward to peering down upon the service to hear her funny eulogy of my life. Of course I may have to look up to hear her funny eulogy. I would bet however that if you go below they don’t let one look up. Heck, I might be better off hanging around on this earthly plane for a while so I can be there in spirit.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
AKELAZ 11/20/2012 1:23PM

    Glad you got to write this blog Marty - it's a pleasure to read - second time over notwithstanding.

You are so gifted in making people laugh - whether at your Mother's funeral, here on Spark or in your home situation. I really envy your wife and children - I know you must lighten many moments.

It's certainly not a curse. Don't ever stop Marty - it's a privilege to know you - even virtually.


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ARCHIMEDESII 11/16/2012 3:08PM


you have a wonderful sense of humor that I wish more people possessed. I'd say you're the type of person who knows how to made lemonade when life gives you lemons. Of course, if you're in the mood, you could always toss those lemons back at people too !


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INFLATED 11/15/2012 10:04PM

    I love to laugh and laugh when I am nervous. I don't mean to be disrespectful, but that is how I am.
Most of my family sees the humor in life and when we get together, we have fun. I am glad you were able to give a good eulogy for your Mom.

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LINDA! 11/13/2012 10:12AM

    emoticon I enjoy your humor. I believe giving a humorous eulogy is awesome. We so often are so solemn at the funeral. If only we could reflect on the enjoyable moments of the deceased life. I can just imagine the priest. LOL He must have really been surprised.

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CELESTE_B 11/13/2012 5:49AM

    Life is humorous...Death...well, it's expected....and I think it's wonderful that you remembered the good happy things at your mothers funeral than lingering on the sadness of her passing.

Big hug to you Marty. Your mom raised a wonderful son!

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TATTER3 11/12/2012 9:56PM

    I'm right there with you. My family believes that life lived should be celebrated in and out of this world! Why be formal if there was joy throughout each day. We teased about taking the whole funeral line through Micky D's when my father passed...he visited every day for a cup of coffee. We didn't ...but we enjoyed the thought. We did have everyone who wanted to stand and share a mem'ry for other relatives and some of the sharing was great. Pet pigs, special tractor rides, chasing away salesmen by using their own techniques, running from moonshiners, and crazy family stories that were great to relive!! I appreciate you! Blessing to your family and you! Keep Sparkin'!!

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DABLUECAT 11/12/2012 8:50PM

    I always thought I'd like an Irish wake - some keening but then lots of food & laughter remembering the fun times. Crying from laughter.

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CRYSTALJEM 11/12/2012 8:12PM

    I only we laughed more. Life would be so much better. Keep us laughing. Glad you've passed your gift along.

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DARLY55 11/12/2012 7:44PM

    Thanks for this blog, Marty! My husband died several months ago, we had the best service for him, similar to the one you described. I asked the officiating minister to keep it light and to invite people to say whatever. It was fun and amazing to see how much joy his life brought to so many people - he had the best sense of humor ever!
Thanks again Marty for bringing this feeling of joy back to me! emoticon

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DEBBIEANNE1124 11/12/2012 5:09PM

    it's a wonderful gift to ahve.

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JEWELMOTI 11/12/2012 4:56PM

    Thank you for your Blog! I wish I could have beeen there!

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LJCANNON 11/12/2012 4:07PM

    emoticon Keep Laughing, Marty!! The BEST Eulogies are the one's where I laughed at least a little bit. I hope someone laughs at my Funeral!! And NOT just because they are so happy I'm Gone!!!

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CHUBRUB3 11/12/2012 3:55PM

    Laughter is a gift Marty.
It is one to be cherished and enjoyed.
Love sharing your gift with you in your blogs.

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SAMBIDEXTROUS 11/12/2012 3:30PM

    I'm so glad you can give that gift to your family!

My family wails and cries....and then we laugh until our sides hurt.

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DONNABRIGHT 11/12/2012 3:04PM

    I don't have the gift but I so enjoy people that do - keep it up. I can't think of a better way to celebrate someone's life than to share the love the laughter they enjoyed.

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ANATASHIKI 11/12/2012 2:59PM

    endure? emoticon I'm laughing most of the time and behaving like the monkey I am(really , chinese monkey) . nobody dared to complain yet emoticon

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JACKIE542 11/12/2012 2:54PM

    I do like this, it is great to remember the fun people brought to our lives.
I love your humor! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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TXTOAD9970 11/12/2012 2:41PM

    It sounds like you have a great sense of humor. Keep telling your stories as I am sure people love to hear them!

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MIDROAD 11/12/2012 2:39PM

    Love your blog, there should be humor in eulogies! What a great tribute to your Mother.

A legacy of humor, what a great gift!

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DIANAHALLOCK 11/12/2012 2:39PM

    You are so, so lucky! I said something funny, an endearing story, at my father-in-laws's memorial service. The family hasn't spoken to me in three years! They thought is was disrespectful to him and them. Well, I'm writing my OWN eulogy and it will be as funny as I can muster. I have a saving relationship with Christ and I do not fear death. I hope my family will celebrate, laugh, be silly and overeat healthy stuff followed by a chucnk of glorious favorite! Let's hear it for the funny folks! I can't imagine life without laughter.

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LAURAAT 11/12/2012 2:37PM

    Marty, you keep us all laughing. Thank you so much!! I look forward to your blogs and comments.

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