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I just feel like giving up

Monday, November 12, 2012

I can't seem to lose an ounce, yet everyone around me is so successful. One friend lost so much weight, you can see her ribs, but she denies "trying". It's hard to be the fat girl among the skinny girls. I have friends that are bigger than me and get mad when I call myself fat. I AM fat. I'm not obese, I'm OVERWEIGHT so that makes me FAT! Quit telling me I'm not.

Just because I can dress to de-emphasize the rolls, that doesn't make me thin. Just because you can't see the fat rolls around my waist....I just give up. I'm waving the white flag.

I am 50 and fat. No matter what I do, I can't change either one of those facts.
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  • LAURIE160IN2013
    It's very unhelpful for people to comment on our weight and weight loss efforts, but we need to stop encouraging it by discussing such things with them. That's one great thing about Sparkpeople--we come here for support, and we get it. We are all different. My daughter lost about 100 pounds in about a year without even trying. It was just her time to lose weight. She's been at a healthy weight for several years now, but some "friends" tell her she's "too skinny." So much negative input that we need to fight against! As for the rest of us, I think some of us need a LOT of exercise in order to lose weight, like at least an hour a day. And maybe some people need more cardio, while others need to focus on something else or change their routine often. Also, different diets work better for different people. Personally I need to stick with Atkins. If something isn't working for you, you can try something else. Good luck!
    1832 days ago
    I appreciate the advice. I eat lots of fruits and veggies, I avoid fried foods, I don't eat a lot of meat or processed food and I don't drink soda or any sugary drinks. I've focused on cutting back on the sugar.

    As for exercise, I run three times a week and try to fit a bike session in when I can. I had a trainer for a while, but that didn't seem to help with weight loss either.

    I'm stuck in that 15 pounds rut.
    1832 days ago
    Hi Molly,
    I'm 56...I joined SP back in July. It is great that you are already active. That will help a lot. Every person is an individual. Every person looses weight differently. For the first 3 weeks I "sparked", my scale did not budge. Not so much as a hair. I was tracking my food and drinking water and working out every day. My body was in shock! I can still hear it...what are you doing??? lol THEN, it started to come off, slowly but surely. You can not compare yourself to others...it isn't fair to YOU. YOU have to do what is best for YOU. PJ had a good idea about picking just ONE thing to focus on. Maybe it's eating more fruits and veggies; maybe it's drinking more water. It doesn't matter what you pick, but it IS important to stick with it!! You've only been with SP since September. Re-assess your goals and your plans. You want to make a change or else you wouldn't be here, right? You can do it!! There are lots of folks here willing to help you too, as much as we can!
    1832 days ago
    Don't put yourself down, there are a lot of things you can do. Dressing with style is a real skill :-)
    You can also change. Decide to start. First take a baby step (like writing this blog) and then take another. Spark people are here to help eachother. Pick a small goal that you can do and see the result/success- like eat a fruit or vegetable at every meal or move for 5-10 minutes. Pick a goal a day and keep track online or with a calendar- even give yourself stars. At the end of a month, you will be surprised at what you have done. Just think of where you will be at the end of a year. Don't forget to give yourself a reward; just a little something just for you- like a new nail polish or a book :-)
    You are worth it- go for it! emoticon emoticon
    1832 days ago
    You cannot change your age. You CAN change your weight!! At my heaviest I weighed probably over 400 (I avoided scales once I was over 360, and I was WAY over) this time 2 years ago when my dad passed away, I was still around 330. At the end of august this year, I found Sparkpeople. I am down to 290. Part of that is due to having a knee replacement surgery and not being up to eating for a couple of weeks, but its mostly been tracking food, getting my big caboose moving, and a LOT of support and cheering from my amazing SparkFriends!

    Every little step you can take in the right direction will help. It really will! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1832 days ago
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