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Freeing myself from what's been holding me back

Monday, November 12, 2012

In today's podcast lesson, Renee asks us to think about our objections to releasing weight and stopping overeating.

Well, for me, overeating has been my drug of choice, my method of checking out, of getting a break, of soothing myself when I feel stressed, afraid, angry, frustrated, overwhelmed, tired, confused, vulnerable, self-conscious, and any other uncomfortable emotion. So ending the cycle of overeating means a lot - it means facing these feelings head on, and it means breaking a very old habit (30 years now).

But when I stop and think about it, overeating never helped me release any of the uncomfortable feelings. In fact, it only made me feel sick to my stomach, self-loathing, disgust, and whatever other uncomfortable feeling I was having.

The next question Renee asks is what is the gift being overweight and overeating has been trying to give me.

I think it's been trying to give me comfort, a pause, quiet, security, energy, love, compassion, tenderness, a sense of peace. I say trying because it's never been able to do that. But it's wanted to. The part of me who wants to overeat is searching for some very valid and necessary emotions/states of being. It's not malicious, it just doesn't know any better.

So I say thank you to that part of myself, but also, now please leave. You've tried but it just isn't working. There are better ways to find rest, comfort, security, peace, compassion, and calm.

I can take a walk.
I can call a friend.
I can breathe.
I can watch junky silly TV.
I can get a hug from my daughter or husband.
I can read a good book.
I can knit.
I can play my flute.
I can do a hard workout.

I can sit with the discomfort and notice it and let it pass...
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

KANOE10 11/17/2012 10:07AM

    Great blog. Oddly enough if you brush your teeth and rinse with mouthwash, that also takes away the desire to eat.

You made lots of good observations on how to stay healthy!


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RUNNERRACHEL 11/12/2012 8:45PM

    Yes, many alternatives. Keep this list close by if you need to remind yourself!I think many reading your blog will do the same. Well said. emoticon

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GOODGETNBETR 11/12/2012 3:38PM

    Great blog especially that last line.

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LE7_1234 11/12/2012 3:31PM

    "But when I stop and think about it, overeating never helped me release any of the uncomfortable feelings."

But I bet it did a good job of distracting you from them.... Protecting you, even, from feeling those feelings. This is why I really like the last item on your list....

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WILLOWBROOK5 11/12/2012 3:08PM

    Excellent blog! emoticon

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BUSYBEE37 11/12/2012 1:48PM

    very insightful blog.

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