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Sunday, November 11, 2012

Every Day you Stay is Wasted Time
IF YOU ARE THINKING OF STAYING, PLEASE RUN FOR YOUR LIVES! The effects this has on our spirits is huge. The longer we stay, the less we feel we are. I have robbed the world of my spirit for 8 years now and I die a little every day. IT BREAKS MY HEART TO KNOW HOW MUCH YOU MAY HURT, BUT IT NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER CHANGES. It gets worse until you don't feel like even combing your hair, because you don't matter. Because it's futile. Seriously, we are chumps if we stay, they don't give a damn if we are ok. Start Over now! Look at it like this Ladies... If we are being hurt, our spirits are being wounded and we are not able to do the things we were intended to do with our lives, and we are wasting our time with men that will never cherish us. They are cheating us, we are cheating the people in our lives of the best US that we can be. The world needs us too. THEY DO NOT STOP! THE PAIN DOESN'T GET EASIER, WE JUST FEEL LESS. Contact a women's shelter for help. 1−800−799−SA
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DEBBY4576 11/12/2012 5:52PM

    There is nothing we go through that we can't later look back and see what we learned from it. Learn from this, and move on. You are strong, and will be even stronger in the future.

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STHAX10 11/12/2012 10:57AM


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TONYVAND1 11/12/2012 9:22AM

  No woman should have to go through that.

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GOLFGMA 11/12/2012 8:52AM

    Having never been in this type relationship I can't begin to feel your pain. I have seen women who were put down by their husbands verbally and I don't even like to hear that . For a husband to strike his wife goes against all I believe in! Praying for all women in situations like this! emoticon

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BECCABOO127 11/12/2012 8:20AM

    Verbal abuse can oftentimes precede physical abuse.

You don't have to take it.

You can have your own happy life.

Great blog and thank you for sharing it.


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GINIEMIE 11/12/2012 7:29AM

    I'm glad you're taking action and getting away. I pray you stick to it and grow from the experiences.

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PATTYKLAVER 11/12/2012 7:07AM

    This sounds exactly like me two years ago. I'm still trying to finalize the divorce as he is being his usual controlling self. But now I have a different way of looking at things. Glad you're getting out. Good luck to you.

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PATTYKLAVER 11/12/2012 7:05AM

    This blog sounds like I could have written it two years ago. I'm still trying to get my divorce completed as he is being his usual controlling self. Thank goodness I can now look at things from a different perspective. I'm glad you're taking control of your situation. Good luck to you.

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MEDDYPEDDY 11/12/2012 1:50AM

    You are so inspiring - celebrating soberness and progressing with your life! Thanks for sharing!

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-WRKNG2ABTTRME- 11/11/2012 11:09PM

    Thoughts & prayers are with you. emoticon

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TONYTHETSANGEL 11/11/2012 11:00PM

    Please don't forget about the effects on your children. To stay in an abusive relationship for the sake of the children is not helping them, for they will forever be negatively impacted. I still recall all the times when my father abused my mother and how scared I was. I never understood why my mother stayed. Please get out for the sake of your children so they won't have bad nightmares and memories!

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EATVEGAN 11/11/2012 10:54PM

    I'm glad you got away and thanks for sharing with others who haven't yet had your courage. emoticon

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BLUE42DOWN 11/11/2012 10:45PM

    A very important message.

I'd add: If ever you hear yourself say "It was my fault." emoticon There is nothing that a person can do that makes them deserve to be hit by a loved one or make those hits the victim's fault, whether those hits are physical or emotional.

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WALLAHALLA 11/11/2012 10:26PM


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MAYBER 11/11/2012 8:33PM

    Powerful blog with a good message
All men are not abusive
Accept what you cannot change
Change what you can
And have the wisdom to know difference
One day at a time
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NEVERORNOW 11/11/2012 8:17PM

    emoticon and prayers for your safety and well-being.

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FAVALL 11/11/2012 7:13PM

    Get to a safe place. There is help and a life that is free of oppression and pain.

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BRAVEONE92 11/11/2012 7:03PM

    I've never been in a relationship like yours, but I
feel the kindest thing you could do, is to get to
a safe place for yourself before it's too late.
Praying that you know the Lord and that you
will go to Him in prayer. I hope for your sake
that you stay in the Women's shelter until
you are feeling like being out on your own.

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DIET_FRIEND 11/11/2012 6:43PM

    So blessed to have never been in this situation. Prayers for those who are though.

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NESARIAN 11/11/2012 6:13PM


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67YKCEB 11/11/2012 6:02PM

    I grew up with an abusive alcoholic father. My mom had 5 kids and was too proud to leave him and go back to her family that would have taken her and us in and took care of us. And she did love him. But he really messed us kids up ... in our heads more than physical. I know that if she had left hem sooner I would be different, we all would. She finally left him when the youngest finished school. Remarried 5 years later to a wonderful kind man. (though he drank to much too. But he wasn't abusive.) He passed away 15 years later.
I swore that I would not spend the rest of my life in that fear. The man I married is wonderful, kind, living (and he doesn't get drunk.) I don't think love is enough reason to say in an abusive relationship. You can find love with some one else.
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MDMARSHAL1 11/11/2012 5:48PM

    Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not to your own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him and he shall direct thy path. ~ Proverbs 3:5-6

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GOPINTOS 11/11/2012 5:06PM

    Thank you very much for sharing with others!


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NELLIEC 11/11/2012 5:01PM

    After 17 1/2 years of marriage to someone who regularly "reminded" me that he didn't love me, I left with our children and our pets. It was the best decision I ever made. That was over 20 years ago.

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TECAVINESS 11/11/2012 4:59PM

    My heart goes out to all the abused women and children out there. Please get help. I was fortunate not to have to endure any of these situations but have a few friends that have. All I can do is be there for them and help when needed. I admire those who have the courage to leave.

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ASOBFALLS 11/11/2012 4:59PM

    emoticon for Blogging....I am hearing some pretty strong feelings.
We are Daughters of the King emoticon And have princess resources...but you are so right that verbal abuse makes a woman forget these things.

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TEDDYTEDDY 11/11/2012 4:55PM

    I was abused in my first marriage and I hung on "for the children, etc." I was scared I wouldn't survive on my own...however, I have felt free, like a huge weight was taken off me from the first day I left to this day (which is over 20 years now). I am a much better person and my self esteem is very good. I got tired of "walking on eggs" and many other impossible feats when I was stuck in that bad marriage. I got tired of forgiving someone for abuse that just was not going to end and recall saying to everyone at that time, "I have run out of forgiveness."

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