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Caveman Revolt

Sunday, November 11, 2012

Okay, there has been a massive revolt in my household and I'm sorry to say that the Paleo/Primal/low carb lifestyle has been overturned. We've had good run but I've realized that it's many restrictions have had an unintended consequence and it's just not worth it to continue.

You see, for years I've kept my compulsive eating/binge disorder under control by legalizing all foods. Because there were no forbidden foods, I rarely felt the need to overeat. That is how I've been able to keep those 70 pounds off for 10 years.

Unfortunately, it seems, all the healthful exclusion of the Paleo, has inadvertently caused my eating disorder to resurface AND is now triggering the same behavior in my children.

My kids grudgingly eat Paleo at home but outside of the house (school, sports events, etc), they are binging on any and every non Paleo food they find. They are also sneaking stuff into the house, I'm finding hidden junk food wrappers everywhere and it's breaking my heart because I know that behavior all too well.

As a child, my mother (quite overweight herself), in an effort to control MY weight was very controlling and restrictive of my food. Because of the constant deprivation, every non-diet food was a "last supper" to be hoarded and/or gorged on. Knowing that is most likely the reason I developed my eating disorder, I can't do it to my kids. It was a valiant effort but I'm perfectly at peace with my defection.

I'm not going crazy and becoming a Hamburger Helper mom. I think now know too much to ever do that but the way we are eating now, though still fairly healthful cannot by any stretch be labeled Paleo. I still believe in the movement and with what the government is doing to our food supply, it is a necessary one.

Anyway, for us, we're back to honoring our hunger with whatever and we're at peace. I'm not thinking about food all day and the scale is happy. I'm tracking for now because with carbs back in the equation, "calories in/calories out" is back in play so I have to be careful but so far so good.

So that's where I am and if it all goes horribly wrong, you know I'll be back to whine.
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  • A*L*P*
    I think that if the beliefs of this way of eating for you are deep, being intuitive will inevitably lead you back to it. I have found this to be true with clean eating mainly. I have had to just shed the labels because of the craziness it gives me and the obsession that it leads to. I think sometimes there is a freedom in just shedding the labels and just eating...

    Forbidding foods leads to the forbidden fruit syndrome. I have forbidden chocolate for so long that now, as I turn back to intuitive eating, it is what I have been the craving the most, so I have just allowed myself to have ti (unconditional permission to eat is VERY, VERY hard for me) and I think the cravings are subsiding. I love the process of IE, it really is eye opening!
    1955 days ago
    It's really great to hear from's been a while and I can see you've had a lot on your plate but you're taking away a wonderful lesson. The food industry has done, and still doing, a number on what we can eat and still be considered healthy, but finding a balance is so important. I pull in as much paleo as I can but I stay away from restrictive meal plans. Like Paleo and Michael among others who provide meal info I use the info they give and work it into what will work for me and mind. The Paleo headset has valuable info...use it, mix and match it with the rest of your meal plans, it has value!

    Stay strong! The power is in YOU to make your goals happen! emoticon
    1957 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/12/2012 1:03:19 PM
  • ALLISON145
    Don't feel bad at all! Everyone's bodies are different and let's be honest, our psyche's are, too. I have to be very careful about restricting too much, as well. Binging is something I have not yet figured out how to cope with, other than allowing myself to eat what I want within boundaries. It's more complicated for me now because of my gluten intolerance, for sure... I have to weigh letting myself eat something against GI distress. But to be honest, sometimes the short term satisfaction wins.. and if I can "let" it win in tiny amounts every now and again, that's better than going off the wagon entirely. 80/20 seems to be a good rationalization to me... I know the most hardcore Paleo folks would say that the 20% should consist of sweet potatoes or rice. But I don't believe my body can tell the difference between a sweet potato and a snickers, so I just watch my carb count over all.

    I'm glad you've found a more "peaceful" place for yourself and your family!

    1958 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/11/2012 8:04:57 PM
    I think it was the right choice. I have read many things saying paleo low carb is not for kids and way better to avoid ed. You can still eat clean and healthy without a lot of restrictions
    1958 days ago
    emoticon Hey Sue, thanks for the blog. So far the Primal Blueprint/low carb way is working for me. I have to eat lower carb overall anyway in order for me to lose weight so it's not a big deal. I cycle my carbs and eat more or less depending on the intensity of my workouts. If I want to eat something that is not considered primal, I eat it in a controlled manner and follow the 80/20 principle.

    Do what works for you, whatever that may be, I am glad that you have found that sweet spot for you and your family. Family meal time should not be a battle, you have to enjoy what you eat, and as long as you are doing your best to eat as healthy as you can, whatever that may mean for you and your family, that's all you can do, and that's ok!

    You have been missed and I am so glad to hear from you. Take care and don't stay away so long... ~ Dee emoticon
    1958 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/11/2012 7:00:54 PM
    I have been following Chris Powells Carb cycle and in this plan there is no such thing as forbidden food in fact lol...yep its true he encougrages you to eat a cheat meal 3 times per week or save it and have it all in one day..I tried both all in one day or 3 cheat meals through out the week and I prefer the 3 cheat meals...he encourages these cheat meals because not only it keeps your body from plateauing it makes us think we are not missing out on our favorite love Chris Powells carb cycle saw it on the dr.oz show. And it works great...yesterday was a cheat day and today I start it all over again. But I think I will have 3 cheat meals instead as I don't feel so sluggish.
    1958 days ago
  • SMILES4383

    I’ve tried so many different ‘eating patterns’ over the last 20 years… some worked, some didn’t. NONE worked over time.

    I’ve decided to stick with what worked for me in the past before I started running the gamut. I’m now back to the original plan (for me)… 3 meals a day - Whole Foods - Plant Based. Breakfast like a king, lunch like a queen, and supper like a pauper. It isn’t the most popular plan, but it does work for me.

    I have many books and DVD’s by Dr. Joel Furhman. In fact, that is the reason I went back to the original-plan-for-me.

    The food supply is laden with chemicals - intended to bring the food moguls money both at the market and in ‘making us well’ with their pharmaceuticals and investments in the modern ‘health system’.

    I, like you, am done with trying new things.
    I just want to get my health back.
    Weight gain from menopause and the 5x/day eating is still lingering…
    BUT, I will fight it with all my might - unto my last breath.

    Do what you have to do to keep YOUR PROGRAM going strong.


    1958 days ago
    Some foods are worth forbidding, like Cheetos, where a serving is about 5 pounds. The concept of Paleo eludes me, though. I prefer civilization and all its attributes. Are Cheetos and Reeses legitimate fruits of civilization?
    1958 days ago
    Forbidding foods never worked for me either. I had the same reaction of losing it one day and pigging out. Although having treats in moderation is a struggle as well, it still works much better for me than deprivation.

    You had a system that worked for you. Go with what you know. emoticon
    1958 days ago
    I think you are making a smart decision.
    1958 days ago
  • ALICIA214

    Check out your local library for a book written by Dr Joel Furhman M.D.
    called Eat To Live You may find it helpful. emoticon
    1958 days ago
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