Saturday, November 10, 2012
Stress/anxiety is not easy to overcome. It takes work but hopefully this blog will help.
Getting stress under control is important because if you are stressed, your weight won't go anywhere. It is going to take a lot of hard work and dedication but with patience, we will get there.
Anxiety is bad enough but You know what's worse than being stressed?
Hearing this: "Just relax!" "lighten up!" "breathe! :O Remember, people are just trying to be helpful and nobody probably ever told them that those are the things not to say so don't get too annoyed. It's nice that they are trying. :)
Strategies for coping with anxiety:
You have to make time to do at least one thing you enjoy, even if it's just for 5-10 short minutes. Hope you like something from the list. Overcoming stress isn't simple. It's something you have to work at and I believe everything on the list is a healthy coping mechanism.
Listening to music
Reading positive quotes/redecorating your thoughts
Watching a movie
Petting your pets
Talk to a friend
Playing a game
Reading a book or magazine
Taking a hot shower
Anxiety busting activity (I found this online)
Draw a circle. Draw a line down the middle and across to make the four sections
In the upper left hand corner, write your self defeating thought or what your anxiety is about. In the upper right hand corner, write something that defeats the negative. Turn it into something positive. In the lower left and right hand corners, write two more positive thoughts.
Here is an example ( I can't draw the circle on here so just imagine it in the circle.)
Anxiety/fear: "I am afraid to drive."
Positive thought: I have the potential to be a good driver!
Positive thought: The car will not be in control. I will be in control of the car! Positive thought:There is no reason to be afraid if I am cautious. I can do this! :)
You can also write it out as shown above if you don't care to draw the circle.
I love how this activity helps to change your thinking. It takes time to actually start believing the positive thoughts but personally, this is one of my favorite anxiety busting activities. It is very helpful. :)
"Redecorating your thoughts."
I read an article about this a couple days ago. Now, I am going to write this how I interpreted it because A) Due to spark rules and B)I can't find the link to the article.
I find it very interesting. I always heard about changing your thinking but I have never heard it described as redecorating. See, we think about decorating cakes and Christmas trees but not our own thoughts. It's basically the same idea as the circle activity. The article also explained how stress begins with two words: "What if."
Here's a way to cope:
"What if the job interview horribly wrong?!"
"What if the job interview goes well."
"The job interview could go well." (No what if)
"I prepared for the job interview. All I can do is try to do my best." (No what if)
REALITY may go like this:
Maybe the job interview didn't go as well as you would have liked but the negative thinking wasn't going to help and with redecorating your thoughts, you probably did better than your last interview. Even if things don't go your way, keep with the positive thinking. :)
*You prepared and answered the questions the best you could.
* You can learn from this and do better next time
*Sometimes, even with preparation, you never know what to expect so
don't blame yourself.
*Some interviewers miss the potential of an applicant. You probably would have done an
excellent job but what matters is that you tried!
If you have constant anxiety and you have the $, I highly recommend seeing a Psychologist who specializes in anxiety disorders. A psychologist is just there to listen and give you some ideas about how to cope. If it could help, why not? There may also be some low cost places in your area so check those our before you shell out too much. If you have health insurance, it may cover a referral to a therapist so don't forget to check and see if it's covered.
If you don't have the $ or your health insurance doesn't cover it or you don't have health insurance,
keeping working at it. Write in a journal and find articles and websites that talk about coping mechanisms. You just might find a helpful activity or helpful advice.
Good luck everyone! :)