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How to celebrate an anniversary? - 3 yrs of maintenance

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Wednesday, November 07, 2012

How appropriate that Thanksgiving Day will be the date that I’m scheduled to join that special 5% who keep the weight off for 3 years. How ironic that it’s also a day we traditionally celebrate with food, lots of food.

What can I do to mark the occasion? Maybe:
Find a “Turkey Trot” race to run. That’s an alternative to a morning of cooking.
Plot a route through the mall to hit all the sales on “Black Friday”
Find a fancy restaurant that charges a lot for very little food – enforced portion control.
Volunteer to help serve Thanksgiving Dinner to the needy

My husband and I don’t have a good record with anniversary celebrations.

The problem began 45 years ago on our wedding day when the priest didn’t show up. He FORGOT the date. There I was standing in the back of the church, with the organist playing “Here Comes the Bride” and this bride wasn’t moving. There was no clergyman there to make it official.

Fortunately, it was Brooklyn in 1967. Finding a substitute priest was easy although the delay did cause a stir among the guests who were wondering which one of us was having second thoughts.

The marriage went well, but each anniversary was a bust.
Recalling a few of them:

#1 - DH got his orders to active duty in the army. Lots of tears, no celebration.
#2 - DH got orders to Viet Nam. Same reaction as last year.
#3 - DH was in Viet Nam. Baby & I were alone, very sad

#5 - 6 months pregnant pulling a U-Haul across the country with a 3 year old throwing up in the back seat

#10 – There was a gruesome murder in our neighborhood.

#20 – DH scheduled his elective hemorrhoid surgery. Why not, right?

#39 – I tripped over a planter outside the restaurant and fell sprawled out face first resulting in a frozen shoulder that took 6 months of rehab

If you’re familiar with the songs of the sixties, our anniversary, June 3rd is noteworthy for another reason. According to Bobby Gentry, it was also the day that “Billy Joe McAllister jumped off the Tallahatchie Bridge.” (Ode to Billy Joe, August 1967)

Maintenance is a different kind of anniversary and even if I don’t plan anything special, I will be very thankful just as I am for 45 years of marriage. In both cases I’m in this for the long term. One bad day doesn’t matter in marriage or as we work toward a healthy lifestyle.
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GINIEMIE 6/9/2013 12:29PM

    Love it! Ouch no priest!!!!
didn't read it first time around. My husband had lost his job 1 months prior to our first anniversary. We had a 1 month old at the time. On our anniversary he was still unemployed and was contemplating selling Rainbow Vacuum cleaners. If you knew my Steve you'd have died laughing. I did several months later.
Like you said a few bad days does not make a bad lifestyle or marriage. It's what you do about those bad days that count.
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NUMD97 1/11/2013 11:31AM

    Catching up on some of your blogs, this one, belatedly, but well worth it. Fun read. You've weathered a lot and come out of it all, in great shape [no pun intended]. I'm only a few years younger than you, and remember some of your events very well. Truly glad for you, that it worked out well.

Keep up the good work!

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SUSIEMT 11/27/2012 5:54PM

    Woo Hoo to you! Good blog. Keep up the good work!

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EATVEGAN 11/23/2012 1:49AM

    It's always good to hear about people being successful maintainers. I've never in the past made it all the way to goal before I started gaining back. NOT THIS TIME!!! Thanks for sharing.

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MAGGIEROSEBOWL 11/22/2012 11:56PM

    Wonderful and funny blog. Hope this maintenance anniversary was a little less eventful than some of your wedding anniversaries were! But I think the important message in all this is that you are still married to the same guy -- 45 years --WOW!--and you are still maintaining--3 years---WOW! I hope to hit both your achievements. I've been married to the same guy for 42 years and have maintained my 178 lb. weight loss for 19 months now. So I'm only 3 years short on the wedding anniversary thing and more than halfway to the 3 years maintenance anniversary thing. Maybe I can do both! I sure hope so! Congrats to you on a very significant achievement!

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RUNNINGYOGINIRE 11/22/2012 4:32PM

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CM_GARDNER78 11/21/2012 11:49PM

    Oh my gosh what a story! Don't worry about old Billy Joe! :-) At least you can look back now with some laughter.......

I KNOW that you're weight maintenance anniversary will go MUCH better!!! Keep at it - and keep your wonderful attitude. :-)

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WELLNESSME09 11/21/2012 6:56AM

    You did emoticon and I love your story!
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POPSY190 11/20/2012 1:48AM

    Congratulations on all your anniversaries, but especially on 3 years' maintenance.

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BROWNCOFIDDLER 11/15/2012 9:31PM

    Outstanding blog! Loved it and at least this year you don't have to worry about DH getting deployed. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CARRAND 11/15/2012 6:23PM

    Great blog!

I've been married 40 years. My anniversaries have been pretty calm compared to yours!

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BABES-R-US 11/15/2012 6:08PM

    Congratulations and Happy Anniversary!

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LIVIN2LOVE1 11/15/2012 5:31PM

    Keep Calm and Carry On...

Congrats on your 3 year maintenance! You have now crossed over the tracks to better stats!


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PRESBESS 11/15/2012 4:12PM

    My take-away from your blog is "keep going... keep pushing forward". Thanks for sharing your story!
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TUBLADY 11/15/2012 2:24PM

    Congratulations on 3 years of maintaining and 45 of marriage. Both take work and dedication.
I plan on making that 3 years mark in 2014. Same year I will be divorces 45 years.
I'm excelling at maintenance, wasn't so good in marriage.
Take care,
Be strong, stay positive.
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JEWELY_ROADS 11/15/2012 1:33PM

    emoticon You are an inspiration to me, I like your story. I managed to "carry well" extra weight. No more! I hope to follow in your tracks and reach the 5% too! emoticon

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CELIAMINER 11/15/2012 1:07PM

    Yet another entertaining and informative blog. Have you considered a follow-on career in writing? :-)

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MILLIE5522 11/15/2012 1:00PM

    Congratulations on your fantastic achievement!
Wouldn't it be a good idea to mark each maintenance year as Wedding anniversaries are marked eg. year one could be a wooden spoon, year two could be a coffee mug, year 3 could be some new scales....you get the picture???

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GETFIT2LIVE 11/15/2012 12:16PM

    Congratulations on reaching the 3-year mark for keeping the weight off AND on 45 years of marriage--both significant accomplishments these days. Your philosophy and attitude are what makes the difference in both, keep it up; you're beating the odds and doing awesome!

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SLENDERELLA61 11/15/2012 11:20AM

    Congratulations on 3 years of living at goal. You've broken the odds and raised your chances of significant success. Hooray! And you are so right about one bad day not mattering in maintenance or a 45 year marriage. Wonderful analogy. Thanks.

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LIVNFITNHAPPY 11/15/2012 11:05AM

    Thanks for sharing!
I am in the 5% club too!
Blessings on your continuing journey.
Have a great time Turkey Trotting!!!
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Very well done on three years of maintenance and an amazing 45 years of marriage!! What a foretelling of future anniversaries to come was that rocky start to your marriage!! That you overcame them shows the strong bond you share with your husband and in this day and age of breakups that is so wonderful to hear!
May you have many more and happier anniversaries to come!
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NUOVAELLE 11/15/2012 10:31AM

    I'm sure anniversaries numbers 4, 7-9, 11-19 and 21-38 had lots of beautiful memories to share and so did many other days in your years of marriage. And surely your years of maintenance are made up of many good days and some bad ones. A proof that success doesn't always come with no bad days and no setbacks. But it almost always comes through persistence.
Congratulations on your maintenance and your successful marriage.
Thank you for this inspiring blog!
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CEEBEE33 11/15/2012 9:59AM

    What a great way to think about it. Congratulations on maintaining both marriage and health!

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WINDSURFNERD 11/15/2012 9:44AM

    well said! I've never made the connection between marriage and maintenance but you're right! I guess I needed another 20 years for the idea to "click" ;-)
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MEXGAL1 11/15/2012 9:05AM

    well said....one bad day does not ruin the overall battle.
Happy Anniversary.

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CATMAGNET 11/15/2012 8:57AM

    Mazel tov, darling! emoticon

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62NVON 11/15/2012 8:23AM

    Love this! Congrats on your 3 years of maintenance and 45 years of marriage!

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LESLIE871948 11/15/2012 7:49AM

    Ok, now I feel better this morning, thank you

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TORTISE110 11/15/2012 7:49AM

    Wow, do you know how to celebrate! Holy Cow, what a set of milestones But you made it and are making it. Wonderful blog, wonderful accomplishment. I admire your slow and steady progress. I believe in it too! Thanks for your inspiration. emoticon

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KANOE10 11/15/2012 7:42AM

    Congratulations on 3 years of maintenance. I like the way you say you are in for the long term and one bad day does not matter in living a healthy life style.

Celebrate. I hope you enjoy your day. What an accomplishment1
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MARTHAWILL 11/15/2012 7:41AM

    Thanks for hanging around to inspire others! Well done.

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WATERMELLEN 11/15/2012 7:33AM

    Great blog! As a 10 year + weight loss maintainer (with a llittle blip in there in 2009 . . . yeah) abd a 33 year + marriage maintainer . . . I love this connection.

We stick to it. It's tough. And it sure feels way way better than the alternatives, so it's worth it. Every single day!!

Congrats to you on both maintenance successes.

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AMARILYNH 11/15/2012 7:12AM

    WOW - congratulations on BOTH anniversaries!! Obviously you are one TOUGH lady - just the Vietnam thing was cause for many marriages to falter!! I'm with Blue - I'd have probably considered changing my anniversary date too!!

Great ideas on how to spend Thanksgiving!! I too am in maintenance so I know just having lost the weight isn't the biggest victory - three years is!! emoticon

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SWEDE_SU 11/15/2012 7:05AM

    our anniversary is june 4 (40 this year), it must have been a better day - we had two clergymen at the wedding, and they both showed up:-) in queens, though, not brooklyn.

congratulations on a long marriage (not common these days!) despite those anniversaries, and on 3 years of maintenance!

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MJREIMERS 11/14/2012 9:52PM

    emoticon on your anniversary and for staying married for so long! I thought I had it bad when we are still waiting to go on our honeymoon after almost 20 years of marriage! You definitely are tuff and persistent!!

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BLUE42DOWN 11/14/2012 7:36PM

    By about year 10, I might have considered renewing vows on a completely different day and celebrating all subsequent anniversaries then. emoticon While no fun at the time, I'm sure that is a great little conversational topic.

(And, wow, congrats on 45 years. That's very impressive to be sure.)

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MANDELOVICH 11/14/2012 6:36PM

    Love your blog!! Congratulations!

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NEWMREY 11/14/2012 6:09PM

    emoticon Congratulations!

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MTRACHEL 11/8/2012 6:59PM

    Sometimes the best food is food for thought. Now you've got me thinking about how to celebrate the days worth noting. Thanks for sharing your story.

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SHAYLAGETFIT 11/7/2012 11:04PM

  Congrats on your achievement! You deserve to have an awesome time! Sorry to hear about the sad things through your wedding anniversaries! But beyond those, all the rest were great right?!

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