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Ever thought... why bother?

Monday, November 05, 2012



I'm in a funk. I've pretty much been in a funk all year. I have a few good starts here and there, but then I just fizzle out. I don't know if it's due to depression or anxiety or laziness or thinking I will never reach goal or self-pity or whatever. But I can't seem to stay focused. I just get to a point of "why bother" and then don't really try for a while. I'm at that point right now. I have a challenge I'm currently barely staying afloat in... and then another challenge that begins tomorrow and I want to really rock it... but in the back of my head are those words... "why bother?" I have plenty of motivation and I know all the reasons I want to lose weight, being healthy is right at the top followed immediately by no more embarrassment..., but how do I shake this funky mood I'm constantly in? Has anyone else felt like this? How do/did you shake it?


Yeah... this has a lot to do with it.




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MAGA99 11/9/2012 5:18PM

    ur off to the right start by reaching out
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TWEETYKC00 11/8/2012 7:54AM

    I get that way alot and it bites. You know you should do better and you want that, but that inner voice says 'screw it, it'll never happen' right? It can happen and will happen if it is up to you. Sometimes it's a matter of digging down deeper than that nasty voice and going for a few more steps or doing just one more task.

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WISHICOULDFLY 11/8/2012 6:40AM

    WOW. This is exactly where my head has been at for two weeks. I am trying to pull myself out not by getting off the binging, sugar, fat, sodium, carb train. It IS hard, but do not give up. Keep on keepin on! emoticon

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NEWLEAF16 11/7/2012 2:07PM

    I have certainly felt this same funk you describe - often!! Sorry you are going through it right now. Hang in there and just take one step at a time, like some others have said focus on some small things. And challenges tend to refresh my motivation. Hope you can find yours again! emoticon

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LIBRA73 11/7/2012 1:16PM

    How did I miss this blog?

Whew girl! I know what you mean!

I know you. You can come up with a dozen reasons to keep bothering! It's just so hard to stick to it.

I wish I had some words of wisdom!

I think the biggest thing is keeping the goals small and reasonable. Don't do things you know will upset you. For instance, when I see myself naked, I get really discouraged and think I will never transform this saggy blob of flesh!

So I avoid putting myself in front of the mirror in the nude. I avoid things I know I cannot control myself with or trust myself near - like fresh baked bread.

I have to keep myself in line. And that is a full time job! I am so not a rule follower!

Take a deep breath, and for goodness sake, we are due a phone call!

You can let me know when you can talk, or I may have to nag you or come to your place, so we can talk on the porch! I would LOVE that! Don't make me come to you girlfriend!

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MIDNIGHTER1 11/6/2012 10:05PM

    You are dealing with what I like to call an"Inner Demon' It will tell you to quit. That you can't achieve your goals. It will tell you to give up and settle for being miserable. I will tell you to have a snicker bar and call it a day. It want you to do all of these things. Don't give in to it. If you throw in the towell will you be happy with your decision? Can you live with wasted effort? That's what it will be if you give in to him or her.(inner demons are both genders)
This year I decided to not give in. Last year I did and it put me in a bad spot and frame of mind. It is extremely hard,but guess who has lost almost 70 pounds? Guess who is not a type -2 diabetic? Guess who runs and exercises when last year he sat on the couch and wasted time? Guess who has normal blood pressure and norman cholesterol? Yep,all me.
Life can sometimes knock you down, but you decide if you are going to stay down. Now get up and show yourself it is worth the bother. emoticon

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JJAQUES41 11/6/2012 12:01PM

    Maybe instead of looking at the entire, big, overwhelming picture you can just pick one little piece of it to focus on. It always seem less intimidating to know you can accomplish small things over and over and it will add up to a successful big picture.

Is there one thing you can commit to for one week? Drink 8 glasses or water/day, cut out 1/2 hr of tv time, walk the stairs instead of riding the elevator, etc. Any little thing that you can be successful at for a short time. Then repeat the process the following week with something else.

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BIGPAWSUP 11/6/2012 11:48AM

    I'm kind of there with you right now. Feel like a little kid stomping my feet going "i don't wanna". The only way I've ever gotten through it is just pushing ans will power. I know that doesn't help. Just know you're not alone.

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LOSER05 11/6/2012 9:48AM

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BUSYGRANNY5 11/6/2012 7:03AM

    I don't have any great words of wisdom, but for myself personally, when the why bother mentally seeps in... I truly have to FIGHT it... sometimes I'm successful and sometimes.. I give in... for a SHORT period of time... it's at those times that I believe my body needs a "brief recharge"... and then I CHOOSE to get back on track by looking at how far I've come, how much better I feel, and where I'm heading!!

I guess, I would say to you, "Don't give up on YOU!! You are worth the HARD work and EFFORT that you are going to have put forward... Refuse to give up...

Blessings!

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GMO_JEN 11/5/2012 11:35PM

    I'm right there with you-this has been an off year. I don't think I ever even lost-just gained, maintained, gained...in the last couple weeks, I found a little exercise mojo, and now I'm just faking eating better. So don't feel it, so don't want too....but I'm making myself. Why bother? Life is so freaking hard, I just want to enjoy it a little which to me means food. But...I need to be healthier, stronger if I'm going to haveva healthier future. I just wish that was a more motivating!

I'll second a few of the others-baby steps. Focus on something simple, and then get momentum...then find the why hopefully!

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JUSTME29 11/5/2012 11:05PM

    I'm right there with you. I don't have any advice since I can't seem to get myself out of my own funk. I'm barely staying afloat in my own 5% challenge, actually I think I'd be sinking if fat didn't float so high.

Seriously though - I think the answer is to just do it anyway. I'm definitely on the "why bother" boat, but the thing is we both know the answers to that. If you find the answer let me know will you? All I can offer right now is company.

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SEASONS__CHANGE 11/5/2012 9:21PM

    you can do it sweetie! It's hard, but when you want something bad enough, it will happen.

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SHERRYGAYL 11/5/2012 9:08PM

    Oh yes that sounds like a pretty serious funk emoticon Since it has lasted a full year it might be worthwhile to get a checkup. You could have some depression issues or even a hormonal imbalance. Possibly even ADHD. I was misdiagnosed and mistreated with depression for years. Adderal has changed my life emoticon

Other than that, I'd like to reiterate what the other posters said. Don't try to make too many changes at once! Start with one change and when it becomes habit add another. (A method similar to both Flylady at Flylady.com and the diet book "The Lean", by the way.)

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JANEMARIE77 11/5/2012 8:29PM

    One of my favorite quotes. Losing weight is hard ... living fat is hard... choose your hard.
One step, one food at a time. Be kind to yourself and make your choice.

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FATBASTICH 11/5/2012 7:59PM

    Hang in there, you can do it.

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MS_HEATHER121 11/5/2012 6:42PM

    I got in a funk like that a couple of years ago after I had lost 50lbs. I was doing so well. I was down to a size 18, then I decided who cares. I found a game (world of warcraft) and that became more important to me than weight loss. Instead of exercising, I was raiding... instead of eating with my family, I was sitting on my butt eating mindlessly. I really just didn't care. I went from 250 back up to 330.

Some days I still get the who gives a $#@& feeling, but them I also try to remember that I don't want this weight for the rest of my life.

I suffer from depression, anxiety, and bi polar disorder. I thought having the first 2 meant bipolar, but they say its all 3.

I think we all get those feelings. In my opinion, the best thing to do is blog, journal, and talk about how you feel. Spark is here for us to find others who are in similar situations, so we have others to talk to that understand where we're coming from.

I know you'll do well in your challenge. Keep pushing and take it one step and one day at a time.

HUGS!

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SAMMIE-I-AM 11/5/2012 6:37PM

    I'm just slowly getting out of my funk and here's what I did. Baby baby BABY steps, like as small as steps possible but it was still something in the right direction. First off I gave up on setting a weight goal for now, I wanna focus on one thing at a time and it isn't time for that. My first goal was to just get moving. It didn't matter how long, or what distance I just wanted to do some kind of exercise 3 times a week. That's it. Not worried about what I was eating, all of that would come later. I figured I always failed when I tried multiple goals at once so I was going to forget about everything else and just focus on the one thing.

After a month of that I got into the habit of doing something 3 times a week, and it made me feel really good. So my next (and current) baby step is to add food in. But again it's a baby step. So my goal is to eat dinner out only once or twice a week and the rest of the time cook at home. Lunch doesn't matter, what I eat at home doesn't really matter. Just that I'm sticking to something is what means the most.

So try extremely baby steps and let everything else happen as it comes, it's helped me and hopefully it'll help you! emoticon

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NOMORENOMORE 11/5/2012 6:14PM

    I can relate. I've been in a funk for ~6 months. 6 months of eating everything I wanted and as much as I wanted. I'm so disgusted with myself-especially with how I look and feel.

During my 6 month binge "why bother" was my motto. It took me awhile emoticon but I now care. I don't want to be fat. I don't want to be embarrassed when I climb a flight of stairs and gasp like a fish out of water when I get to the top. There are so many more reasons.

I've chosen to change my life. Eating healthy and staying within my caloric daily intake is just a start. I'm on my 5th day lol.

I too, think I'm depressed. Depressed about not being able to do things without getting out of breath, how I look and what I've done to myself. I'm going to join a weight loss center at the hospital my PCP works out of. They deal with diet but you also work with a psychologist.

I'm hoping this helps me figure out why I haven't been bothering.

Maybe you have too many challenges right now? Maybe just focus on one?
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MISSHATTAWAY 11/5/2012 6:12PM

    I have thought this many times in my life, recently I adopted out my newborn son and afterwards I had to start thinking about getting a job and starting my life over but I kept asking myself "why should I bother? What does any of this matter?"...I considered taking my own life and gave it great thought and power over me until one day I realized that...either I gotta do it or start taking responsibility for my life and do what needs to be done because no one will do it for me. It's still hard, I have to take every day as it comes and I practice a lot of mindfulness/meditation and journal writing which are both a lot of help. You have to take control of your life, whether you're depressed or not no one can change it except for you, you just have to start out with baby steps and go from there. Good Luck and Always look on the bright side.

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BECKYBETZ 11/5/2012 6:02PM

    Don't get discouraged. I've been doing this for three weeks and I've gained two pounds. :-( However, I'm giving it a solid three months before I give up. I have to work on staying motivated, because it's so easy to say "why bother" and skip exercise or not make the effort to eat produce. Way to easy!!


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