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AND THE MAN SAID "CLEAN" ...

Monday, November 05, 2012

I HAVE BEEN PUT ON VERY LIMITED MOVEMENT FOR A WEEK. NO WALKING - UNLESS ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY. TOTAL REST IN A RECLINER OR ON A BED. SINCE I SLEEP IN A RECLINER, THAT WAS MY POSITION OF CHOICE. BUT THERE WERE ISSUES.

I CANNOT, AND I DO MEAN CANNOT; STAND A DIRTY HOUSE. I REFUSE TO PUT FRESH FOOD ITEMS IN THE FRIDGE WITHOUT CLEANING IT OUT FIRST TO BE SURE THINGS DON'T GET SHOVED TO THE BACK. I REALLY HATE THOSE LITTLE PACKAGES OF SOMETHING GREEN WHERE YOU HAVE NO IDEA AS TO ITS ORIGIN OR FOOD GROUP OF CATEGORY. AND OF COURSE THERE IS ALWAYS, "MYSTERY MEAT" WHERE YOU LOOK AT IT AND WONDER WHAT THE HECK IT IS. THESE ARE THE THINGS I WANT OUT BEFORE I PUT FRESH ITEMS IN.

I AM A" NEATNIK "WHILE DH IS A HOARDER. WHEN WE MOVED TO THIS CONDO, I TOLD HIM THAT I WOULD NO LONGER BE CLEANING HIS ROOM AND OFFICE, NOR HIS BATHROOM. I DID THESE THINGS FOR HIM WHILE HE HAD CANCER. HE GOT VERY SPOILED. IT IS REALLY, REALLY DANGEROUS GOING INTO HIS ROOM. AND I HAVE TO GO THROUGH IT TO GET TO THE LAUNDRY ROOM. I HAVE CONSIDERED ATTACHING A STRONG WIRE FROM THE BEDROOM DOOR FRAME TO THE LAUNDRY ROOM DOOR. THEN I COULD PUT A CABLE ON THERE IN CASE I GET LOST AND ALWAYS FIND MY WAY OUT. KIND OF LIKE A ZIP LINE.

SO HERE I WAS - DOWN FOR THE COUNT AND THE PLACE HASN'T BEEN CLEANED IN TWO WEEKS. THE FRIDGE IS A DISASTER AREA AND WE HAVE BEEN LIVING ON TAKE OUT AS DH DOES NOT COOK - EVER. SO HE ASKED ME TO MAKE A GROCERY LIST AND HE WOULD GO SHOPPING. NO! NO! NO! VERY DANGEROUS. DH LIVES ON SUGAR. SENDING HIM TO THE STORE MEANS HE NEVER GETS OUT OF THE BAKERY AISLE. SO I HAD HIM GET ME DOWN TO THE CAR AND PULLED OFF THE SHOPPING MYSELF USING ONE OF THOSE RIDING CARTS. BUT THEN THINGS HAD TO BE PUT AWAY. HE WANTED TO JUST THROW EVERYTHING IN THE FRIDGE AND PANTRY. I AM SO OCD THAT I ROTATE MY PACKAGED GOODS AND ALPHABETIZE THEM. IT'S A SICKNESS, I KNOW, BUT I NEVER, EVER HAVE TO SPEND MORE THAN TEN MINUTES TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHAT I NEED FROM THE STORE.

SO I CAME UP WITH A WAY TO CLEAN THE FRIDGE BEFORE NEW THINGS GOT PUT IN. DH SAT AND WATCHED TV - ALWAYS FOX NEWS - 24/7. I PULLED A CHAIR UP TO THE FRIDGE WITH A SMALL PAIL OF WATER AND WASHED THE SHELVES OFF. THEN I LEANED ON MY ELBOWS TO WASH ALL MY PRODUCE. I PUT EVERYTHING THAT NEEDED REFRIGERATION IN THERE AND THEN ATTACKED THE PANTRY. OMG! DH HAD BEEN DIGGING IN THERE ALL WEEK LOOKING FOR THINGS HE COULD EAT WITHOUT COOKING! IT LOOKED LIKE A DISASTER ZONE! I HOLLERED AT HIM AND HIS REPLY? "YOU NEED TO PUT A ROAD MAP ON THE CABINET DOOR SO PEOPLE CAN FIND STUFF IN THERE".
HMMM .. NOT THAT BAD AN IDEA!

THEN HE ANNOUNCED THAT HE WOULD DO THE CLEANING. "JUST SIT DOWN AND REST BEFORE YOU HURT YOURSELF AGAIN. I JUST WANT TO LISTEN TO THIS ONE SPEECH". (WHICH HE HAS HEARD 10 TIMES ALREADY) SO I DID AS HE ASKED AND WENT AND SAT DOWN - 1 HR. 2 HRS.. NOW I WAS GETTING TICKED OFF. "WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO START THE CLEANING?" "AS SOON AS THIS SPEECH IS DONE." RIGHT! SO I GOT UP AND ATTACKED THE KITCHEN AND MY BATHROOM. I SCRUBBED EVERYTHING I COULD SEE. I LEFT THE FLOORS FOR HIM TO SCRUB. THEN I WENT AND RESTED AGAIN. 1 HR. 2 HRS. - AGAIN - NOTHING FROM HIM. "DO YOU PLAN ON DOING THE FLOORS AND VACUUMING? I HAVE DONE THE DUSTING AND CLEANED EVERYTHING ELSE." "YEAH, YEAH, BUT I DON'T FEEL SO GOOD RIGHT NOW." WHAT? HE DID GET HIS FLU SHOT A FEW DAYS AGO AND WAS CONVINCED HE NOW HAD THE FLU.

I GOT MY BIG BEHIND UP ONCE AGAIN, ICE PACKS NOW TIED AROUND MY HIPS - VERY STRANGE LOOKING BUT PAIN RELIEVING. I SWEPT AND SCRUBBED THE FLOORS AND DID THE VACUUMING. NOW HE DECIDED HE BETTER GO TO BED WHERE HE ALSO WATCHED TV (FOX NEWS). HE TOOK HIS TEMPERATURE 4 TIMES. AMAZINGLY, THIS MORNING, HE WAS PERFECTLY FINE AND WOKE ME AT 6 AM TO SEE IF THERE WAS ANYTHING THAT STILL NEEDING TO BE DONE. "YEAH! YOU CAN TAKE THE CLEAN DISHES OUT OF THE DISHWASHER." I GOT UP AN HOUR LATER AND HE HAD DONE EXACTLY AS I HAD ASKED. HE TOOK THE DISHES OUT OF THE DISHWASHER AND SET THEM ALL ON THE COUNTER. EVERY ONE OF THEM. AND HE ALSO FORGOT TO TURN ON THE COFFEE (THAT I HAD MADE THE NIGHT BEFORE) WHICH REQUIRES PUSHING ONE BUTTON.

I TRULY BELIEVE THIS IS A THING THAT SOME MEN ARE BORN WITH. THEY WILL KILL THEMSELVES WORKING ON CARS, WATCHING FOOTBALL, AND HANGING WITH THE GUYS, BUT ASK THEM TO DO SOMETHING, IN A PINCH, AT HOME AND THEY SUDDENLY HAVE A RAGING CASE OF THE" FAN TOADS" OR THE "SCREAMING HANG NAILS". I FAR PREFER MY OCD TO THIS SLOP ANY DAY. AND I WILL BE BACK TO DOING WHAT I DO REGARDLESS OF WHAT THE DR. SAYS. IT DIDN'T HELP ANYHOW. IS THERE SUCH A THING AS OBSESSIVE/COMPULSIVE WHINING?

ERIN
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RAINBOW_LADY 11/11/2012 4:41AM

  I can totally sympathise and relate to the OCD thing but you must put your health and recovery first hun.
Take care
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JILL313 11/5/2012 9:16PM

    Erin, I'm afraid you're going to hurt yourself and your health is important so you need to follow your Dr''s orders and rest. I'm afraid your going to hurt yourself and overdo it. If you can I would look into getting a High School or College student a couple of times a month to clean. It would be worth it for both of you. Get some rest and stop the scrubbing. Hugs. Jill

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_KATHY 11/5/2012 4:59PM

    Erin, I liked what you said about whining being a part time job. Some days it's a full time job with overtime. Sounds like that is what you have going now. The overtime. Hopefully, things will get better. If not, venting is a good thing now and then

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MILLISMA 11/5/2012 2:41PM

    ERIN, I FEEL SO SORRY. WHEN MY HUSBAND AND I GOT MARRIED, MY MOTHER-IN-LAW HAD CUT OUT AN ARTICLE FROM THE NEWSPAPER "WHEN MISS NEATNESS MARRIES MR. SLOB!" iT WAS SO TRUE. AFTER I KIDS WERE BORN, I LEARNED NOT TO BE SO "CLEAN" AND HE TIRED NOT TO BE SUCH A "SLOB". WE NEVER MET HALF WAY BUT AT LEAST IT WAS AN IMPROVEMENT. PLEASE DON'T DO THINGS YOU SHOULDN'T BE DOING. IT WILL MAKE YOUR RECOVERY THAT MUCH LONGER.


HUGS....MARY ANNE

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RURAL3 11/5/2012 1:55PM

    wow yes, Erin OCD whining a new category I have to say although it seems funny, I would probably be afraid to do anything because it wouldn't be good enough....what do you think? Although it sounds like he is to the other extreme. How long have you guys been married?
I hope you didn't injure yourself more by doing all that. Do you know what rest means? I think not. Love you still, Carol

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