Sunday, November 04, 2012
Interesting things have been showing up in my inbox lately. Today, for example was a story someone shared about a woman who survived the holocaust. She related that her last words to her brother, they were both youngsters, were angry and critical. She never saw her brother again. 'Act as if the words you speak may be the last words you speak' is the lesson she shared and the way she dedicated her life to speaking thereafter. She suggested that our words be able to stand the test of being our final words.
How would that change the way I speak? This question really flummoxed me! My first thought was that I would never open my mouth again! But I really wanted to treat this seriously so I looked a bit more. I would certainly hope that I would think more before I opened my mouth. I often blurt out things without fully considering their impact, usually in an effort to be funny, cute, informative, or attention getting . Slowly, very slowly this is changing for me. But my main focus has been less on the words and more on where I'm coming from, or my intentions. I want to make sure I am coming from a place of love. I do believe that we communicate more with our intentions than we do with our words. Words are certainly important, but so much of what we communicate is non-verbal, both what we send and what we receive, that that's where I've been putting my focus. I know that when I am convinced that the person I'm talking to loves me, I can listen to just about anything they have to say.
I still feel like I'm just hitting the surface here of what this question is asking. As usual i have layers of bs to get through before i get to my truth, but I was so intrigued about what this question might mean that I thought I'd put it out there while it's still a work in progress for me.