The big and the little...
Saturday, November 03, 2012
I've had two big disappointments over the last couple of months. One professional and one financial. Without going into a lot of detail, they are the kind of things that make me want to grab my favorite bottle of scotch, cuddle up on the couch and drink and cry. But I haven't. I've actually fared really well.
I'm kinda surprised and have really been reflecting on how it is that I've managed so well. It's simple. I've focused on the little things that I can control.
1. Exercise - I know that I feel better both physically and mentally when I exercise regularly. I went back to my 5 am boot camp class. In the spring I was really burned out, but after a few months off it feels fresh and exciting. I'm running regularly. It feels great.
2. Nutrition/Alcohol - I'm cooking at home on most nights and DH and I are eating at home together at lunch. I plan my meals for the week on Sunday and get all my grocery shopping done at once. Eating a slice of pizza or a cheeseburger feels good when you do it once a week, not so much when it's every other day. I'm also drinking less often and less when I do drink. It's nice to have more control there. This also saves a lot of money, which also makes me feel good.
3. Housework - I started a schedule. It's a 2 week rotation and without going into the whole thing, its perfect for me! I have a to do list on my iPhone and I get my housework done without a fuss. Once I have all of my items for the week checked off I relax without another thought of what should or shouldn't be done around the house. It's nice.
4. Money - We've never been the type to budget. We saved and spent as we pleased without much thought beforehand. We are doing a cash envelope system for gas, groceries, spending money and it seems to be going well. We have a plan for saving and paying off some debt. We have put pencil to paper and are on the same page. I like it.
When you have a crisis (or two) it is easy to let the little things go by the wayside. The havoc that these small things can create when they are neglected just magnifies any other problems. I found when I focused on the things in my life that I could control (even something as simple as keeping my laundry done), the big things occupied less of my time, energy and emotions. I'm also at the lightest weight I've been in almost 2 years! Coincidence? I think not.