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"Real" Women

Friday, November 02, 2012

I have been thinking about this catch-phrase lately. I understand the marketing scheme. I understand loving our bodies as they are. I also understand "real women" versus photo-shopped images of unattainable and unrealistic bodies. That's not what I'm talking about. I totally agree with those uses of the term.

What I take issue with is that in some ways it has become equivalent with "plus-size" women. Sometimes I am made to feel I'm not a "real woman" because I am fit and at a healthy weight. I used to be fat, and I was real. I'm not fat now, but I'm still real. I am almost 50 years old, and I will never look like a 20-year-old fitness model, nor do I really want to, but you know what? She's "real" too. Not if she's been photoshopped, of course, but if she puts in the work and dedication to achieve that body because it is important to her, why is she considered not "real"?

Look, I understand loving our bodies and selves as we are. I don't think I loved my body when I was fat, but that's a whole 'nother therapy session. But I get concerned when I sense that some women use the "real women" philosophy as an excuse to not try to improve themselves.

The truth is, we are all "real" no matter what our size or shape. The "real" has nothing to do with physical attributes. It has everything to do with our mindset.

Be real and genuine in everything you do in life.


This blog was somewhat prompted by BROOKLYN_BORN's blog yesterday. It is very good, and I hope you go read it:
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HOLLYM48 11/6/2012 4:29PM

    Way to be REAL! Thanks for stating it like it is! emoticon

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NIKI8911 11/6/2012 11:10AM

    Well put!

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TORTISE110 11/5/2012 9:04AM

    This is a wise blog. I have such mixed feelings about the trend to celebrate overweight too. It seems like a marketing ploy. But then loving ourselves is how we start...I guess I should say, at least loving ourselves a little. And we know criticism doesn't help people get started. You have said it all so well here. Thank you for the post. It deserves stardom!

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SMILES4383 11/3/2012 8:52PM

    REAL women are healthy - no matter what their size.
I don't think women are very healthy when they are so big they can barely walk.

REAL women have muscles - to enable them to do their daily tasks.

Love your blog.


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CHRIS3874 11/3/2012 8:39PM

    I know exactly what you mean - As a guy I may have no real right to comment but then I know I never really did look like one of the cover guys from Men's Health (at least NOT in my eyes) . I think they missed the point by not emphasising how much airbrushing and or cosmetic surgery some people "may" have had.

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TEENY_BIKINI 11/3/2012 8:27PM

    Great blog. Hugs.


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JAZZEJR 11/3/2012 6:06PM

    So true! The media tries to shape our thinking.

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KANOE10 11/3/2012 9:11AM

    I love your real and genuine with everything you do in your life.
Yes we are all real matter what we weigh or who we are.


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MIRAGE727 11/2/2012 3:46PM

    Well said!
"Be real and genuine in everything you do in life."
Men should also embrace that statement!

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MOOSLADY 11/2/2012 1:56PM

    It is a kind of funny thought. I might not be real, I lost nearly 50 pounds and have been keeping it off 4 years. If I am not real, I think I should not have to pay bills, or clean or do laundry. Those are things only real women do.
I actually felt more comfortable with my body when I was heavy. I was not trying to hold myself to any ideals. Of course even though now I am less satisfied with how I look, I also have so much more energy, don't get sick anywhere as often, and am able to do more things I want to.

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ANNAFRECKER 11/2/2012 12:18PM

  I like that. You can still love your body but aknowledge that we need to have a goal of being at a healthy weight so that our quality of life is at its highest level. Thank you!

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