Friday, November 02, 2012
I have been thinking about this catch-phrase lately. I understand the marketing scheme. I understand loving our bodies as they are. I also understand "real women" versus photo-shopped images of unattainable and unrealistic bodies. That's not what I'm talking about. I totally agree with those uses of the term.
What I take issue with is that in some ways it has become equivalent with "plus-size" women. Sometimes I am made to feel I'm not a "real woman" because I am fit and at a healthy weight. I used to be fat, and I was real. I'm not fat now, but I'm still real. I am almost 50 years old, and I will never look like a 20-year-old fitness model, nor do I really want to, but you know what? She's "real" too. Not if she's been photoshopped, of course, but if she puts in the work and dedication to achieve that body because it is important to her, why is she considered not "real"?
Look, I understand loving our bodies and selves as we are. I don't think I loved my body when I was fat, but that's a whole 'nother therapy session. But I get concerned when I sense that some women use the "real women" philosophy as an excuse to not try to improve themselves.
The truth is, we are all "real" no matter what our size or shape. The "real" has nothing to do with physical attributes. It has everything to do with our mindset.
Be real and genuine in everything you do in life.
This blog was somewhat prompted by BROOKLYN_BORN's blog yesterday. It is very good, and I hope you go read it: