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Little joys and pleasures other than foods. Ideas??

Thursday, October 25, 2012

Ok- I have been going at this weight loss ride for many years. Most recently the last few weeks(4) I had been really watching, record anything that crosses my lips and making a real effort to gain control.
I am passed the point of physical cravings....the first week was hardest. I missed heavy carbs and sugar. However, I still have a mental craving for that pleasure part of the food and eating. ( I am not hungry but a cupcake would be yummy! or a handful of chips!)
( does that make sense? )
I have been trying to find joy in things other than food. I select my favorite songs to listen to in the car on my drive to and from work. ( Little joy :-) I make quick calls in the evening to my parents, siblings or friends to say hi and I am thinking of you. ( Little Joy:-)) I spend some quality time with one of my kids or husband even if its just a few minutes, ( Little joy:-)

What are the little joys you add to life to make up for the food moments that your are trying to avoid?? I really want to hear some ideas! Thanks emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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HYDROQUEEN 10/26/2012 12:48PM

    Do you have a hobby you are interested in picking up or perhaps resurrecting? When I'm "in the zone" creating something, it brings me joy. Walks in the woods, a museum, or a trip to a little used book store, also bring me joy. A good book, watching the wind blow thru the trees, and having a clean house (dare I dream?) bring me joy. I guess ultimately, allowing myself to explore, even if it's not "productive", has brought me the most joy.
Great job on your progress! emoticon

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RULEBERG 10/26/2012 11:39AM

    I'm trying hard to rewire that connection in my brain that links food and joy. I suppose that on a rare occasion something exotic and exquisite activates every sensory pleasure in that first bite...but seriously, how often does that happen? I'm trying to focus on the joy of companionship with a meal, or the cause of a celebration, with food just being a serving on the side. Pay attention to the first bite of something good and savor it, but notice how after the second or third bite, that feeling diminishes--sometimes to the point where I'm just wolfing it down and no longer even aware of the taste. That so called joy is very destructive for me and short-lived.

What is longer lived than the joy of a handful of chips (and when you stop and think about that line, it's pathetic to equate chips with some of those moments in my life that have really been joyful) is the remorse or disgust that often comes later when I don't feel so well, or when something doesn't fit anymore or when I get winded going up stairs... Even as much time as I used to spend stuffing my face, if I compared the minutes spent "joyfully" or mindlessly eating compared to the minutes where I was thinking why did I do that, or I don't feel good, or I look so fat, or darn it is hard to get up off the floor... the negative feelings outnumber the joyful ones exponentially. And yet, I used to remember and replay and focus on the "joy."

Since my cravings are much diminished at this point it is getting easier to get my needs met in other ways. And best of all, these ways don't generally come back and bite me. Joy is special because it doesn't happen often. Trying to make it happen with a bag of cashews or a pizza is no different to me than thinking a line of coke will make everything better. Today I am finding joy in the freedom of not having to run out to the kitchen to "find that magic something" or being bombarded with thoughts of chips or cake. Today I am getting my life back. Is that joyful? I don't know, but the likelihood of having a long life is getting better and better.

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MIATIA1 10/26/2012 12:10AM

    Oh can't you guess its doing exercise. .......Not really just the feeling I get when I see it through.. glad you are finding replacements . Wish I could shed some insight but we each walk the path of trial and erro to see what works best. You'll find yours I'm positive.

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VODKALIME 10/25/2012 7:56PM

    Good for you for realizing that this not just about self-control. So many people assume eating is purely about self-control when really it is often a coping mechanism. It is good you have recognized generally what you are using food to fill.

Can you narrow it down anymore as to what exact emotions tend to trigger?

I pet my dogs, do art, call someone, watch tv, it all depends on what emotion I think I am trying to fill.

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