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A letter to fat bashers/haters

Thursday, October 25, 2012

This letter is to all the people who think that everyone with a weight problem is lazy and if they do have a medical issue, think it's just an excuse to be "fat and disgusting."

Dear Fat haters,
Stop telling others to lose weight and go to the gym. You don't know what each individual does for their body and no, you cannot tell just by looking at them. If someone got fat from eating too much, that is not called a glutton. That is called an EATING DISORDER. If someone has weight issues because of medical reasons, it's not called an excuse. It's called an OBSTACLE. Your disgusting words of ignorance and hatred are not and will never be motivating or encouraging. Your disgusting words just that; your display of ignorance and hatred. It's sad and pathetic that your insecurities, fears, and mistaken beliefs lead you to treat people as though they are less than because of their physical appearance. Don't make assumptions BASED on MY health because of YOUR Ignorance!
Obesity can cause health issues but so can BULLYING. Your words are not and never will be enough to cause me to feel less than. I work on MY health every day. My blood work is fantastic. It's probably better than yours because size doesn't necessarily dictate health. (Not that I have to justify anything to you!) You have the right to your opinion but that doesn't make your opinion right. My body, my health=My business. I will Not allow your poisonous attitude to impact how I feel about myself!
Stop trying to get under the skin of others and go do something productive with your day or even better, your life! Bashing others because of their weight or any reason will not change anything and it's not going to get you anywhere. You would be amazed at how much you can learn and accomplish if you opened your mind.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I have some things to accomplish! emoticon

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  • SYZYGY922
    AMEN TO THAT. It's so weird how people are so willing to accept that a thin person can live on fast food and not exercise, but not willing to accept that a fat person can be healthy.
    1966 days ago
    Well said!!! This is why I love Spark so much. My body, my health, my business is also another reminder to take care of yourself. This getting healthy is a serious struggle and I look at like a second job. Ignoring idiots, rolling up my sleeves and getting to work on ME! HIGH FIVE!
    1971 days ago
    BRAVO!!!!!! You said it, girl. I always have to remind myself that someone who would say something or do something to hurt my feelings about my weight must be a really miserable person. Fantastic blog!
    1971 days ago
    There are many cruel people in the world who will hate on anyone and everyone different than you, not only for weight, but also for being underweight, less than perfect in appearance, sexual orientation, race, religion, and even for no reason at all. In the end, those of us who are ridiculed and berated end up paying the price for someone else's mental health issue (I believe hatred and treating someone else so badly is a mental health issue). Keep pushing forward and know that you've got more going on for yourself than they do.
    1971 days ago
    Thanks for the blog. You are saying if for a lot of people so devastated by careless, cruel comments they find it hard to get up from under them. If these toxic people are actually in your social sphere and not just strangers I would shed them fast! If they are relatives, I would not see them often. They are weightist and elitist and just plain destructive. I think the next time one of them says something it would be tempting to say, "Well, I can lose weight, what are you going to do about your ugly personality!" Oh, if you only could say that and get away with it! Maybe..... emoticon
    1971 days ago
    YOuuuu goo girl I love your blog it rocks soks :D
    1971 days ago
    Was thinking about this same thing for several days.

    Got a few people "throwing" what they think are suttle "hints" at em. Like I don't know that I am over weight? Pahlease!

    You made me feel better just reading.


    u. Are. A. True. Done. Girl!
    1972 days ago
  • CRAZYONE72289
    Couldn't agree more! People are cruel but I just learn to ignore them and move on. The people who judge others the most are the ones most unhappy with themselves.
    1972 days ago
    What a fantastic blog! I doubt the bullies who attack fat people will listen, but your eloquence has resonated with me. It gives me a good feeling to know that you not only understand, but say that words that help us stand up to such bullies. Thank you. My numbers have also been fantastic most of my life, and yet because I was overweight (according to weight charts), I have been subjected to bullying, derision and patronizing treatment as though I were less intelligent, less valuable, less worthy--well, simply LESS THAN anyone else. Simply because of weight. This is the last remaining discrimination that is considered acceptable in our culture. We look down on people who belittle someone based on race or nationality, but weight is still acceptable material for comedians and bigots alike. Thanks for posting.
    1972 days ago
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