The worse spring, summer, fall...ever
Wednesday, October 24, 2012
The blog title is from my grandson, but he has a good reason...his mother (my daughter) has Stage 4 cancer (melanoma). She first noticed a lump in February & it was confirmed as cancer in late spring. Since then life seems to revolve around doctor appointments & treatment...surgery, radiation, chemo...& difficult news. First the lump on the shoulder...surgery...a CAT scan showed a 2nd on the back...a scan of the head revealed 3 more...radiation...then a chemo treatment that she violently reacted to...so 4 days in the hospital & a couple months just trying to recover from the treatment...more scans showing more tumors...a change in treatment plan...severe pain because the tumors push against nerves...now the wait to see if the treatments will shrink the tumors.
How does someone cope during such a time of high stress & do the lessons learned through Spark People help?
Trusting God is my "first line of defense." His grace is getting my family through each day. We are praying for Karen's complete healing, and even though that hasn't happened yet, everyday I feel God's love, compassion, comfort, & peace that He is holding us in His hands.
I am also trying to practice some of the major themes of SP to maintain my health...drink water, 7-8 hours of sleep, eat fruits & veggies, find support through friends & family, exercise.
1. Log-in streak...a 300 day streak...there's something about just logging into SP that gives me a feeling of "normal" during chaotic days.
2. Watching my health by drinking water, getting my sleep, and making sure I have fruits & veggies during the day. I'm not logging this information, but I understand its importance. Before SP I probably wouldn't have even been thinking of these.
3. No weight gain...I'm not stressing about losing weight, instead I'm working on not gaining any.
4. Although my exercise plan is inconsistent, I walk when I can...it does help.
5. Allow friends & family to "be there" for us. A huge "silver lining" has been supportive people. Karen has friends clean house for her, contribute sick time at work, give money to help with expenses, supply meals, & just be there for her.
Karen is a single mom with 2 kids (15 & 12). I spend my afternoons/evenings at her house trying to help manage her home...cleaning, supervising kids, dealing with paperwork, cooking. Some days it feels overwhelming to deal with 2 houses, but I remember that little steps forward are better than not moving at all.