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The worse spring, summer, fall...ever


Wednesday, October 24, 2012

The blog title is from my grandson, but he has a good reason...his mother (my daughter) has Stage 4 cancer (melanoma). She first noticed a lump in February & it was confirmed as cancer in late spring. Since then life seems to revolve around doctor appointments & treatment...surgery, radiation, chemo...& difficult news. First the lump on the shoulder...surgery...a CAT scan showed a 2nd on the back...a scan of the head revealed 3 more...radiation...then a chemo treatment that she violently reacted to...so 4 days in the hospital & a couple months just trying to recover from the treatment...more scans showing more tumors...a change in treatment plan...severe pain because the tumors push against nerves...now the wait to see if the treatments will shrink the tumors.

How does someone cope during such a time of high stress & do the lessons learned through Spark People help?

Trusting God is my "first line of defense." His grace is getting my family through each day. We are praying for Karen's complete healing, and even though that hasn't happened yet, everyday I feel God's love, compassion, comfort, & peace that He is holding us in His hands.

I am also trying to practice some of the major themes of SP to maintain my health...drink water, 7-8 hours of sleep, eat fruits & veggies, find support through friends & family, exercise.

1. Log-in streak...a 300 day streak...there's something about just logging into SP that gives me a feeling of "normal" during chaotic days.
2. Watching my health by drinking water, getting my sleep, and making sure I have fruits & veggies during the day. I'm not logging this information, but I understand its importance. Before SP I probably wouldn't have even been thinking of these.
3. No weight gain...I'm not stressing about losing weight, instead I'm working on not gaining any.
4. Although my exercise plan is inconsistent, I walk when I can...it does help.
5. Allow friends & family to "be there" for us. A huge "silver lining" has been supportive people. Karen has friends clean house for her, contribute sick time at work, give money to help with expenses, supply meals, & just be there for her.

Karen is a single mom with 2 kids (15 & 12). I spend my afternoons/evenings at her house trying to help manage her home...cleaning, supervising kids, dealing with paperwork, cooking. Some days it feels overwhelming to deal with 2 houses, but I remember that little steps forward are better than not moving at all.
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PENNEYV 10/31/2012 8:10AM

    Thanks for the update. Will continue to pray for your family and you. Only God has the answers and only He can give the strength necessary for this time. emoticon

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KADULAC 10/25/2012 9:16PM

    Your daughter and you are always in my prayers. I'm glad she has you there to help her; that must be a great blessing for her. I understand what you mean about just logging in to SP making you feel normal. There have been days that was almost all I could do while taking care of DH during his recovery from surgery. God bless you. emoticon

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WILDFLOWERR_ 10/25/2012 2:41AM

    MY thoughts and prayers are with you.
John 14:14-If you ask anything in My name, I will do it.

Complete healing for Karen, in the precious name of our Savior, Christ Jesus!
Isaiah 53:5 But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed.
I pray the "rest" that only the Lord can give over you! Complete and total, rest.
Hebrews 4:9 --There remains therefore a rest for the people of God.
FAITH: 1 John 5:4--For whatever is born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world—our faith.
STRENGTH: Isaiah 26:4 --4 Trust ye in the LORD for ever: for in the LORD JEHOVAH is everlasting strength
COMFORT: 2 Cor 1: 3-4- Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.
Lastly, I pray JOY over you in Jesus’ name!
Proverbs 17:22--A joyful heart is good medicine,
But a broken spirit dries up the bones.
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KKKAREN 10/24/2012 10:10AM

    You're on a hard road but it sounds like you are following it well. I'll be thinking of your daughter and wishing her a full recovery.

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PJ2222 10/24/2012 9:46AM

    I'll be praying for you and your family! Trusting in God!
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