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Virtual Friends

Tuesday, October 23, 2012

I joined Sparkpeople with the sole intent of getting a program to lose weight. I had no idea this was also a social networking site and, at first, I had no interest in that part of SP. My kids and grandkids are into social networking but it held no interest for me. As a pre-baby boomer I didn't understand how you could call someone you have never met a friend. Now I understand and my bride of 48 years doesn't mind me having female friends. Well, as long as they are virtual friends she doesn't mind. emoticon

I find that I can be a friend to someone I've never met. When they accomplish something I can feel their joy at what they've done and it's always easy to say the right thing then. When they hurt I feel their pain and it hurts more because all I can do is type words and hope they help. Sometimes I just can't seem to find the right words no matter how hard I try so I probably say something dumb. So friend, I wish I always had the right words but I'm just a guy and we both know that guys don't always get it right.

I have this special friend here and she's gone through a long rough time. We'll never meet but we did connect because she reminds me of my daughters who have gone through the same or similar struggles. On more than one occasion when my daughters have gone through rough times I would sit on the couch, put my arm around them, and they would lean against my chest and cry. Sometimes I could solve their problems but usually not. However, they told me that it helped them to have someone who would listen and care. I hope that I can be that someone for this special friend. I won't always say the right thing but I will listen and I do care. You'll get through this Lady. emoticon

Enjoy the ride,



Member Comments About This Blog Post:
PATTYR81 10/24/2012 3:44PM

    I stumbled across your blog and feel I've found a long-lost friend~

THANKS for sharing!

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RAD062010 10/24/2012 2:04PM

    Virtual friends are GREAT!

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IDLETYME 10/24/2012 11:07AM

    Keep writing your blogs. They help so many people!!! emoticon

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JUDYAMK 10/24/2012 6:20AM

    You remind me of my Uncle Ed & when I saw the photo of you & your wife I thought oh my Uncle Ed & Aunt Shirley. You are a great Dad like he was.Now I can stop by your blog & have a friend I can talk to also..Thanks for being a friend to us all

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CLUMBOY 10/24/2012 2:17AM

    what a wonderful dad you must be. very glad i stumbled across your blog. it is full of simple truth and straightforward "speech". keep writing so we can all keep reading.

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DDJJSS1 10/23/2012 9:33PM

    I'm a each evening while my hubby of 49 years is sitting here watching westerns...I poke around the Sparks Website to try & become familiar with it. I'm not quite up on the "friends" thing it kind of like "stalking"? :) that's my attempt at humor. :) I enjoy reading what all you write.....very heartfelt & encouraging. I hope to add friends to my page and be successful in shedding these excess pounds.

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SCOTTYDOG76 10/23/2012 8:56PM

    I know how you feel about friends on Spark. You feel their pain as things go wrong, and you rejoice with them when everything is going good. I do not think the gender matters with virtual friends, especially when they meet on a site like this. So your wife can rest assured that if we sign our notes with a "Hug" it means nothing to alarm her.
Men and women alike are gathered here with one purpose in mind -- to lose weight and get healthier. For some of us it is a long, hard journey -- for others just a matter of some self-discipline and toning up a bit. But we are combined in our struggle. None of the issues we face are easy, if they were this site would not be nearly as popular as it is.

You are a good person, Lew, and obviously a friend to many!

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TEXASFILLY 10/23/2012 8:29PM

    The Good Lord blessed you with a good soul and a caring heart, Lew. I agree with Ms. MDB~ you're the best of the best. God bless~ *hugs* BB~ emoticon emoticon

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MDBUTTERFLY 10/23/2012 8:03PM

    In my opinion, you always have the right words and a very caring soul! I value your friendship so very much and having your support and friendship is a true honor and blessing. sir are the BESTEST of the BEST! As is your wife for letting you befriend us ladies emoticon HUGS to her and your family as well for sharing you! emoticon emoticon

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REGILIEH 10/23/2012 7:52PM

    How VERY sweet. You are a great guy! emoticon

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DURANGOREDDOG 10/23/2012 7:25PM

    People helping others is a great thing about SP.

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GLORYFB80 10/23/2012 6:24PM

    You've expressed so well how many of us feel about SP, Lew!
I joined because my eating was out of control and I needed help but then found many friends on here and I would stay on the site just to be with them!
Yes, I think it's possible to really care about people we never meet, we feel their pain and share their joy. Some feel like daughters to us, some like sisters, etc., we listen, we share and we care.
Thanks for a good blog Lew!
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Comment edited on: 10/23/2012 6:25:28 PM

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TRYNAGAIN194 10/23/2012 6:22PM

    Your virtural friend is lucky to have you.And good for you for having an understanding wife.
I wish you both 40 so more years together emoticon

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DIDMIS 10/23/2012 6:22PM

    It can't be me Lew as I am too old to remind you of your daughters. emoticon Hope you do consider me a friend though.
I have a lot of good friends on Spark also.

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