So, as you may have seen last week, I was a nervous wreck thinking about going to spend the weekend with my parents (blog from 10/17/12). By the way, for all the positive, uplifting, and encouraging words, thank you from the bottom of my heart!
So, this morning, I will gladly state that this was a really wonderful and healing weekend for me with my parents. For the first time, in a very long time, there was no negative talk from my mom and very very few negative comments by my dad. Progress!!! My mom never pays me any compliments, but this weekend, I was delighted to hear positive things coming from her. She EVEN said, she thinks that I have a pretty face.
I was a little shocked, I will admit! I admitted to her that I have been having some self image issues too. Rather than her usual response of, "just get over it and move on" she actually said things to me like, "there is no reason that you should let anyone make you feel bad," or "be confident and proud of who you are." My mom has not been this way at all for a long time!
My dad was even very positive towards me. He was a good listener and wanted to know how things were going in our lives. When I commented on our new healthy lifestyle, instead of saying what I expected, "Could have fooled me by lookin at you," he would acknowledge how great it was that we were making these changes. He made just a couple of comments that were a little out of line, but nothing compared to the way he once spoke to me. There were no comments made about my image, how I ate, anything! For the first time in a very long time, I felt as though my parents treated me as though they accept me for who I am. They have even opened their hearts more to the idea of my husband and I wanting kids. This is a whole different story, but they have always been very opposed to the idea of me procreating for some reason. I don't know what is happening to them, but I won't question it. I will rejoice in the positive changes!
As for me, I tried to make healthy choices throughout the weekend. No, it wasn't my usual broccoli, or salad or cottage cheese, but didn't do bad overall. Also, got a bit of a new makeover. I chopped my hair off into my usual norm of the short pixie cut. I have had it grown out for three years now, and I decided that I could simplify my life by chopping it! I feel so much better already!!! All in all, the weekend was excellent! Thanks again so much for your kind and loving words!!!