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The ups and downs of life...and weight release

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Today is a day to get back on track.

I was listening to a great Renee podcast this morning in which she reminded us that no one is every perfect and that it's unrealistic to think "I'll never overeat again" or "I'll never have a negative thought again." She also wisely stated that when we do overeat or feel negative, we should be grateful for the message this slip up is there to teach us.

Well, I've been slipping up, overeating, and feeling a bit negative about it, so it's time to find the gifts...

I recently got to my goal weight, right around my birthday, and right around receiving some disconcerting health news (I'm in the early phases of an auto-immune disease, and getting holistic treatment to try to fix it before it's full blown).

Anyway, for the past two weeks, I've been overeating at dinner on an almost nightly basis. I'm not binging per se, but I'm eating until way past full, and often hoping no one is seeing me. Then I get uncomfortably stuffed and wake up feeling bad physically.

At first I felt relaxed about it. I did my redos, journaled and blogged about it, and practiced self-correcting and EFT. However, the behavior hasn't stopped.

I'm trying to get at the root of it all.

I know I'm afraid about the health news. I feel grateful to know about it at a relatively early phase, and for the professional care I'm receiving from a trusted healer. However, it's still disconcerting because it seems to have come about due to stress and lack of sleep, two areas I have little power to improved dramatically. Also, as a mother, it's scary to think about having compromised health.

I'm also quite exhausted now that the school year has begun again, and dinner has always been my trouble time. It's that time of day when I really want to just veg out, but I have to clean the kitchen, get my daughter bathed and into bed, and get to bed myself.

Anyway, I'd love some support, insight, wisdom from the group.

I've never gotten to goal weight and stayed there. I really want this to be a permanent weight for me, and I really want the great changes I've made with IOWL to stick. Before this self-destructive overeating gets out of control, I'm reaching out.

As for the gifts, let me see...

Overeating is letting me know that something is going on. I'm anxious about my health. And maybe I'm anxious about being able to stay at my goal weight. And I need to rest more and stress less.

My body and my behavior are giving me very clear messages. The trick is to listen, hear the lessons, and take actions to change.

Through IOWL I know that eating the right portions feels so much better. It's more pleasurable. And certainly sleeping enough feels pleasurable. And furthermore, reducing my stress can only be great.

It sounds so simple when I write it. Today is a new day and I'm committing here to starting over.

Please help me take the easier, more pleasurable path!
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

CAREN_BLUEJEANS 10/16/2012 4:42PM

    You're going through such a hard time!

If you don't mind, I had a thought. I think that overeating, the gift is distraction from your fear. I think you need to take a little time, and just sit with your fear. Really feel it, honor it, accept it, don't avoid it. Then maybe this part of you won't need to overeat to get your attention. Don't worry, as Renee says, you never have an emotion that last forever.

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CHANGING-TURTLE 10/16/2012 3:54PM

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CATMAGNET 10/16/2012 10:41AM

    I wish I had magic words to help you through this, but as a single, childfree person, I obviously don't have the responsibilities that you do in the evening, so I'm usually able to just eat a small dinner, then go to bed soon afterwards.

My major problem time is in the afternoon. For some odd reason, I'm just ravenous at that time of day! Granted, I eat relatively healthy, but those calories add up. That's probably why I eat such a small dinner...

Just know that you're in my thoughts...with best wishes for successful treatment of your medical condition!

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MISSIFISH 10/16/2012 10:39AM

    I'm sorry about the auto-immune stuff. I hope that you'll get some good support for that.

As for the maintenance, I'm finding help by still getting on the scale every day. I track fluctuations, and try to be more careful about my eating on days I see increases. I'm sticking with my exercise routine, (I didn't change that at all) and I'm generally just making myself EVERY DAY think about how good my body feels when I'm at this weight.

My favorite thing to keep me going: I keep thinking that working out is "hard" for an hour a day, but being overweight is HARD 24-7.

I don't want to go back to that place, EVER.

Congrats on reaching your goal, I wish you all the best!

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DIET_FRIEND 10/16/2012 10:17AM

    I have the same problem of eating too much at dinner. Don't know the answer except to focus on portion control and have more veggies at dinner. I hope you find a way to get your program going as I am also on a plateau. The thing we both know for sure is that giving up is not the answer. Keep on sparking.

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MYBULLDOGS 10/16/2012 10:01AM



my sister walks 15,000 steps a day at 63 years
old and has lost 105 pounds. she went from a size 24 to a size 10. all her health issues dropped off as the 105 pounds dropped off. took 16 months.

i gave up grain and sugary products and have lost 44 pounds at age 60. i went from a size 18 to a size 10 shorts and medium tops from a 1 or 2x. took 7 months.

we are both still loosing weight until we reach our goal


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