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Back home in Perth, miss my family in Tasmania. Bye Bye Mum:-(

Sunday, October 14, 2012

Since my mother's funeral it has been very busy as I flew back to Perth on Saturday, (yesterday).

Prior to me leaving my step-dad and sister wanted all of mum's belongings sorted!

She lived in a Granny flat next door to the house my sister lives in.

We made a start by lunch time on Friday and finished by midnight !

Nearly all her clothes went to the 2nd hand shop. She was a keen Old Time Dancer and made her own clothes. As she was a qualified fashion designer she made some great out fits.

Once the clothes were done, we moved onto the other memorabilia. Things were located all over the place. Even a tin full in the back shed amongst all the general rubbish. emoticon

I felt quite uncomfortable "fossicking " for her belongings as she has been with my step dad for the last 34 years! He wanted us to take all her stuff as he has another female companion in his life! Yes a bit hard to take. But that is the reality of what happens when your loved one slips into dementia!

Any way all is done, and I have letters that I wrote to my mother over the last 32 years since leaving Tasmania in 1979.

I intend to make a book up of all her documents that relate to me so I can pass them onto my children. I see the benefit in having everything in the one place! emoticon The last thing you need to be doing when you are trying to grieve is a general rummage through someone's belongings to make sure nothing of importance gets left behind.

Two of my sister's and youngest niece helped and it certainly made a difference.

Well I am off to get the washing in and do the ironing, then off to bed for an early night and ready for work tomorrow!
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    So sorry you had to do the sorting of your mom's things so soon after her death. That's difficult to do anytime, but especially when the grief is fresh. The book is a wonderful idea, and I know you will enjoy reading through those letters...what a treasure!

    1956 days ago
    I agree that sorting a loved one's possessions while our grief is the deepest may not be a wise idea, but what are we to do? The letter notebook sounds like a wonderful project that will leave a marvelous legacy for others over time. emoticon -- Lou
    1956 days ago
    Losing a mother is difficult. Very sorry for your loss.
    1957 days ago
    That is a hard task - I'm thinking about you emoticon
    1957 days ago
    Sorry for you loss Libby. Hopefully now that you are home, you can rest and destress a bit better...... Sounds like you have some very wonderful memories to cherish of your mother. Take care. emoticon
    1957 days ago
    It can be both saddening and a pleasure to go through the letters and such from a loved one. I've done it for both parents and husbands. emoticon
    1958 days ago
  • BOVEY63
    We have been doing the same with my dad's things even though my mom still lives in the house - she wants the clutter gone and only wants to keep the more sentimental items.

    Great idea for the letters - your kids will enjoy reading them.
    1959 days ago
    You must be so exhausted, what an emotional few weeks. Glad your mum can rest easy now, and the album/book is a great idea!
    1959 days ago
    emoticon for your loss emoticon
    Treasure your memories and share them often.
    1960 days ago
  • _LINDA
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    Sorry you had to deal with sorting your Mom's belongings :( Good you had family helping instead of doing it alone. The book of memories you will make is priceless.
    Its always fascinating to look through momentos of your loved ones's earlier life
    Shame your step dad already found someone new, no loyalty there :(
    Hope you have a good work week..
    1960 days ago
    Dear Libby,

    What an end to your time in Tassie. Going through all your dear Mother's things in such a short time would have been very stressful and you did so well to get it done. it is great to put together a collection of memorabilia to pass on to your children. I hope you have had the chance to catch your breath a little bit before going back to work. You most likely feel like you are in two places at the same time (Perth and Tassie) with the intensity of the past week likely to still be with you in may ways. Be gentle with yourself and take the coming week as easily as you can.

    Thinking of you and sending prayers to you and your family.

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    1960 days ago
    Wow. That's something to go through for sure, just after your Mom passes.

    It's lovely to have had the extra help and get through things so quickly. I'm sure you're going to love reading your old letters to your Mom when you have the time and need the solitude. Memory can be so nice, yet sad.

    You're so strong, Libby. I envy your capability of getting things done.

    I do hope you're doing good.
    1960 days ago
    It sounds like you found amazing strength during a very difficult time. You and your family have been in my thoughts, and I'm glad that you are taking care of yourself in the midst of everything.

    1960 days ago
    I'm happy for you that you got everything sorted. You are so
    right tostart putting everything together for your children.
    I have a letter written by my then 13year old mother to her
    father(my grandpa)and I love getting it out to read from time
    to time. So I will take a leaf out of your book and do the same
    with my letters home to my son. It's never too early to get these
    things organised. I'm also saddened to hear of your stepdad's
    new companion, but it happens, doesn't it?
    I hope you catch up with everything and go to work refreshed.
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    1960 days ago
    Hi Libby !! I am so glad your family are all are on good terms .. and you had help sorting your darling mums things ..
    I think that making a collection of your mums letters and memorabilia is such a great idea ..
    I am sure you and your own children will always treasure it ..
    Hope you have a good restful day tomorrow my friend .. Much Love Susie emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1960 days ago
  • PICKIE98
    You are smart to look ahead and think of what should be passed down to family members. How wonderful that your step-mom and Dad are on good terms with lall.. that is not always the case.

    My Dad had Alzheimers and I cared for him until he died. It was a treasured, yet painful time to watch this, but I too, was overjoyed when I held him in my arms when he died, knowing that he was going to be happy, vibrant and whole again. Your Mum i snow with you at all times, seeing how you are coping and going on with the life she wanted for you.
    1960 days ago
    1960 days ago
  • NCSUE0514
    I am so sorry for your loss.
    1960 days ago
    emoticon such a good idea about putting these things in a book for your children. Such a hard time for you and I know how you feel. I had to help my son go through his Father's things in January and I felt I should not have been there. Not a nice feeling.

    1960 days ago
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