Sunday, October 14, 2012
Since my mother's funeral it has been very busy as I flew back to Perth on Saturday, (yesterday).
Prior to me leaving my step-dad and sister wanted all of mum's belongings sorted!
She lived in a Granny flat next door to the house my sister lives in.
We made a start by lunch time on Friday and finished by midnight !
Nearly all her clothes went to the 2nd hand shop. She was a keen Old Time Dancer and made her own clothes. As she was a qualified fashion designer she made some great out fits.
Once the clothes were done, we moved onto the other memorabilia. Things were located all over the place. Even a tin full in the back shed amongst all the general rubbish.
I felt quite uncomfortable "fossicking " for her belongings as she has been with my step dad for the last 34 years! He wanted us to take all her stuff as he has another female companion in his life! Yes a bit hard to take. But that is the reality of what happens when your loved one slips into dementia!
Any way all is done, and I have letters that I wrote to my mother over the last 32 years since leaving Tasmania in 1979.
I intend to make a book up of all her documents that relate to me so I can pass them onto my children. I see the benefit in having everything in the one place!
The last thing you need to be doing when you are trying to grieve is a general rummage through someone's belongings to make sure nothing of importance gets left behind.
Two of my sister's and youngest niece helped and it certainly made a difference.
Well I am off to get the washing in and do the ironing, then off to bed for an early night and ready for work tomorrow!