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Hey Single Moms...How Do You Do It?

Saturday, October 13, 2012

What the heck happened to my awesome plan for the week?

Monday - Good work! Two classes of tae kwon do!
Tuesday - Blame the PTA?
Wednesday - Rush home, make dinner, take kid to soccer for an hour while reviewing spelling words with other kid, come home, showers, bed for kids, too exhausted to work out.
Thursday - Work until 5, deliver items for PTA, home at 6, make dinner, work with kids on homework, bed for them at 8, too exhausted...
Friday - Helped my daughter throw a "Girls Party" from 5-8
And Saturday? Forgot about my hair appt. Then lunch at 2, library, grocery shopping, read to kids, make dinner...I DID actually get some pilates in tonight.

So what's the deal? I need some advice here. Because plenty of single moms get their workouts in. And plenty of people work until 5. So how do I do it, and not neglect my kids? So help me out here, please. Where do I find the time, the energy, and the motivation?

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STEPHM-ARATHON 10/23/2012 1:17PM

    I am a single mom. I run at 5 AM or on my lunch break at work. I do videos at night. Sometimes my daughter participates, sometimes she does something else. Sometimes I take her with me to exercise (hikes etc.) I look for opportunities to exercise while she has her activities. I have signed her up for gymnastics class and spent the hour at the adjacent gym working out. That's a win for both of us. I take her to the park and run the stairs while she plays, do jumping jacks on the sidelines. You just work it in where you can. Sometimes it requires being more creative and stretching yourself in ways you'd prefer not to. I never thought I'd be a 5 AM runner, but it leaves the rest of my day open. I never imagined I'd squeeze runs in on my lunch breaks, followed by quick rinse off showers and back to work but that's what I have to do some days.

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FANGFACEKITTY 10/16/2012 5:44AM

    A crock-pot is my savior. Throw everything in it in the morning & dinner makes itself. Often enough for leftovers or to freeze. So on the weekends many times I would make a few larger batches of different meals, portion out & freeze so that on weeknights all anyone had to do was pull it out of the freezer & reheat (avoids having to eat leftovers several days in a row).

Plus, like the others said, make a list & prioritize and see where you can just say "No"? Are you one of the moms who winds up involved in every single activity? What can you cut out? Where can you delegate to other parents (including your hubby)?

I also got used to doing my exercise at night, like 7-9 time frame. Early mornings were just never going to happen so I wound up going to the gym at night. An added benefit is it was less crowded.

Of course, my kids are both teenagers and don't need as much hands on care & help anymore either, so that does make it a bit easier.

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ANNIEONLI 10/14/2012 1:23PM

    You know I'm in the same boat with you with just not getting it in...but I just keep trying my's all you can do.

Donnetta has it right with the to-do list of priorities...and sometimes, the list doesn't get done that day but will get the laundry for example..its ALMOST done today after being washed but not sorted for days! We haven't had such a crazy buy week like this in AGES, but it happens.

As for the exercise part, some weeks are better for others for me, but I just keep trying my best to fit it in....even if it's 40 bicylce crunches while vegging out a bit to the tv at 9pm and I remember to acutally do them! LOL You have to have veg time too i.m.o...or else burnout hits...big time and then, let's face it...we start to lose our minds and yell at the kids, and that ain't a great thing either. Right? right. Hey, we are only human.

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    How feasible would it be for you to do a workout in the morning? For me, I'd have to get up at 4 am and I'm not willing to do that. I do make time to work out right away when I get home so I can get it out of the way and get on with the rest of my night. For dinners, I'm thinking I might have to start using my crockpot or making dinners on Saturday or Sunday. Good luck, my friend!

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DONNETTAGAMBLE 10/14/2012 12:27PM

  I am a single mom as well from Ohio and I struggle staying with my plan of action because there is just not enough hours in the day for me to get everything done. The thing that helps me the most is that I have a list of the most important things that I must get done throughout the day and then I work my way done to the list from top to bottom.

Even though I don't accomplish everything, I am still able to get the majority of things done.

Donnetta Gamble
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