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Friday, October 12, 2012

Just a moment to whine....
I have a wonderful best friend but it is very rare that we spend any time together. I literally am the one that calls one or two times a month to say "hello". I find our calls frequently interrupted by grown children and often am put on hold for every other call on the planet. Yes, I do hang up, I have a little self respect left. What got me was that I jokingly said at the end of a call, Hey, you know, you can call me sometime, (and then said-I'd love to hear from you). She actually said, "I don't have time". At least it's finally said. Feelings hurt- oh yes. Will I move on. Yes. I just really felt like this was one of those best friend soul of my soul situations, we've known each other for many years. I really think that she is a wonderful person but it's as if she has gone out of her way to let me know that I really am not important anymore.
I have so many aquaintances, I guess that I just need to start branching out and working on friendships.
Done venting, moving forward. Thanks for the time and support. Got the raincloud but have worked for years to have the umbrella.
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MRSWHITEWOLF 10/23/2012 1:31AM

    I can so totally relate. Life does move on. One thing a counselor taught myself and husband, you marry because you love each other and are best friends. You are the ones to pay your bills, so remember and ask yourself, is your friend or best friend really going to be there for you? Are they going to be there when you are sick, or if your bill needs paid and you are unable too pay? Who is it that will always be there by your side, your spouse. (That is way it supposed to be) However, you may have good friends, but always keep in perspective priorities, and who is there for you. I have found that I have very few people that I could call really really good friend, but I have one best friend and I am married to him. I do have some good friends, but that is what they are...most are acquaintences, or distant good friends. The two best friends that I had for years and years went poof on me and it hurt, but I learned life has many twists to it. Sorry you had to experience the hurt. Hugs!

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HEALTHY4ME 10/22/2012 4:37PM

    I totally can relate, when we moved to the country, the neighbour next door said hi I am Sue and proceeded to tell me about herself, she stopped part way said OMG I have never done that before, I am very private. So we were close very close for 6 years. Then we decided to move back to the city cos my mum was dying and was easier on us all to move back. Well she didnt take that well, having lived in that small town since she was 13. Anyway I said doesn't have to chanage, yea but it will. I called, she called, I called..... and she visited more than we cos she went to a dr in town ( literally in my back yard). Then I would call and say we may be able to come out well......... I have to.... IMAY have to.... Then I have called always to leave a message to call me, or hey give me a call. OH we had to put our dog down( she is a huge dog lover had 3 and 2 cats) adn then called, got her said can I use you as a reference we want to get a puppy. I called her saying we got the puppy. haven't heard from her. I call at least once a month but am goign to give up as you say. only for so long.
Sad but oh well. it does hurt though. HUGS

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LYMEY74 10/20/2012 8:27PM

    Janice, you've got me! I even call you :) I'd be so happy to have more Janice in my life! emoticon

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BE-THE-CHANGE 10/14/2012 1:13PM

I know how much that hurts.

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MY9STONEJOURNEY 10/12/2012 11:18PM

    emoticon I know exactly how you feel.. Sometimes we have to just let some people go out of our lives.. Painful? Yes! But neccesary!


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DIANER2014 10/12/2012 10:32PM

    I'm sorry that happened to you. emoticon

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PINKNFITCARLA 10/12/2012 7:47PM

    I'm so sorry that happened to you!

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EBURGITE 10/12/2012 11:14AM

    i feel ya! it's hard to let go of someone you love who won't make time for you. i have a couple of friends like that. for a long time, i resented i was the one who always kept up contact, then i finally decided to stop doing that. i rarely talk to them, but i don't have a simmering anger. it frees us up to pursue relationships with people who want to share life. i'm sorry for your loss, but hope you can fill your life with people who know how to be in a healthy, mutual relationship. emoticon

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PIXIE-LICIOUS 10/12/2012 11:13AM

    I know how much that hurts. So sorry that happened. emoticon

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MTNGRL 10/12/2012 10:51AM

    Ouch! That hurts I know. While it can be hard to move on and let go of all thing great times you shared, sometimes it is the only thing to do.
My best friends now are right here on Sparkpeople.

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WISLNDR 10/12/2012 7:09AM

    Oh, I've been there many times! A wise friend pointed out to me that as our lives change, a lot of relationships run their course and then it's time for us to branch out and expand our experiences.

One day it finally sunk in that I respect myself and my time too much to put up with careless treatment from others. It's still sad but I've learned to be grateful for the time we had and to look forward to new adventures!

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BEEJAY49 10/12/2012 7:06AM

    I'm so sorry. :( That kind of happened to me once and we even traveled to another state to spend time with my friend. After that she pretty much ignored me, but said nothing was wrong. She gave me the impression her book reading was more important than a few minutes emailing or talking to me on the phone. I mailed her one last time and said goodbye. We do move on , but it still does kind of hurt. HUGS!

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