I'm insecure and unhappy.. I am at fault for that. I haven't been doing my best to change that. Why? Because I tend to forget about what I want just to give the person I love what they need first.
For example I now have a man in my life for some months now. I have been so wrapped up in his world I completely forgot about my own. Now that is not only unhealthy but very stupid on my part. Again why? Because he like many other people, will take and take and not worry about giving back. If they do give back its not on the very same level as you have put out. Not to say you should do to receive, but I am saying know who you are giving to and that's it's worth the effort.
I have found myself to be some kind of nitwit in this department. When I focused solely on myself worth and what I wanted, not only did I get it and feel absolutely amazing, but I also lost weight effortlessly!
Reason behind that is because everyone knows when you are happy you think clearly! You make the right choices. You say NO when need be. And saying NO with gusto I might add is very important from time to time.
No is a powerful word just as strong as Yes! Though no one really complains when you say Yes. Think about it you get the most outrageous reactions to NO! I mean all out crazy childish tantrums at times. Of course Yes has its moments. Its just that a moment of bliss, cloud 9 type stuff and its gone within the hour or day.
Though No, saying No, & really meaning it too, can turn into grudges & wars for goodness sakes. From just that little word alone, two letters!
I have fought with myself for telling myself that damn word! No!!! You can not sit around all day. No!!! Cookies candies junk! No!!! Being a bitch would not work right now!
Saying No is hard yet can be beneficial at the same time. Like telling the people you love No, I can't take you cause I have to go to the gym. No, I am exhausted I think you are capable of doing that yourself. I know if I was to say no, be a bit selfish at times it would be different for me.
I know my boyfriend and I would get along way better. Why? Because I won't be shoved up his butt etc etc. I know I would be where I should by now in my journey. Why? Because I would be in the gym like I was or eating better. I know work wise friendships etc would all benefit in the end if I said NO! Why? Because people, if they are the right people in my life, would respect me more, appreciate me, and feel absolutely proud that I am in their world. Those who aren't good for me will fade into the distance just by one little word, NO!
Now to apply this is another task. Yet I never give up. You can't because once you've learned and felt what it is to truly love yourself even if its for a moment in time, you either don't want to lose that feeling or you remember it and fight for it back. I say fight ;)