Wednesday, October 10, 2012
Listening a lot to podcasts on the power of using visualization to change habits. I love this notion. The idea is that if you go somewhere in your mind, it's as if you are actually going there either emotionally or physically. And the more you play this mental movie, over and over again, the more you create new neural pathways so that your mental movie ultimately becomes a new habit. And according to Renee, it's so effective that it can change the habit quickly. How great!
My hope is that doing this will help me with two habits I want to change:
1. Overeating in social settings or at dinner.
2. Reacting stressfully or angrily when I'm feeling harried.
In my mental movies, here is what happens instead...
1. Going into the event, I'm feeling calm, balanced and slightly detached from the food. I'm excited about seeing everyone. I am fully present with the company and enjoying the conversation. I focus on my friends, family, the atmosphere, and helping! When food becomes part of the event, I sit and eat slowly, savoring and chewing well, eating a reasonable portion. Then I stop eating, feeling sated, and go back to focusing on company and helping. And I end the night feeling terrific, light, satisfied, and proud of myself.
2. At getting ready for school time and bedtime (a very harried time at home), I'm happy to be with my family. I'm feeling grateful and loving for my wonderful husband and daughter. I am calm, balanced, and full of love and warmth for my family. I help my daughter get ready with a smile. I even steal some hugs and giggles and we are both really happy to be with each other. Because I'm in such a happy state, my daughter and husband are really happy to get ready quickly and we all leave on time (or get to bed on time). More importantly, we do this with a warm, open heart, and start (or end) our days, full of each other's love.
One other point, it's really important to neutralize the guilt and amp up feel-good resources. Instead of focusing on feeling guilty for slip ups (which only reinforces the negative habits), let go of guilt, forgive yourself, and get right to the mental movies of how you want things to be!
Sounds so much better to me!!