Trying to Stay Focused with a broken heart and a lonely 4 bed house.

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Hello all,

Relatively new on my new healthy lifestyle kick. On my 6th week infact.

Doing my best to keep head up and keep focused but so hard and so easy to lapse.

My partner decided after being together for almost 2 years and me being daddy 2 her 2 children as biological dad is an waste, i was their for the youngest's birth ect.. She has now left me with no real explanation other than was missing home as she moved away to be with me, she has taken the kids and cut off all connetions i had with them.

To add a little sting to this she did this 5 days after spent £750 UK pounds about $1200 dollars on her birthday and just weeks before mine. She also has visited my home whilst at work and taken her stuff rightly but also lots of mine even taken the quilt of my bed... So angry but much more hurt if being honest as kids were my daughters and mean the world to me. We had such a close bond as im such a playfull, attentive daddy to the 2 and 1 year old (I still have my biological daugher who i see but lives with her mother).

Now its really hard time to get motivation to get up when life has been turned upside down and totally out of my control.

Well just needed to vent and thought were better than the spark community.

Thanks for continuous support during my weight loss journey.
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    So sorry to hear about this. My heart goes out to you. It's just so painful when relationships break up like this. And I'm sure the little girls will be heartbroken too. Forget about the stuff, that's all material, even though it hurts too. Try to get through each day, you have friends here and I'm sure in real life too. Lean on them, that's what they're there for.

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    1971 days ago
    1971 days ago
    My husband stepped in with three girls and loved them all. Yes you can form bonds with children and it hurts when they're gone. The judged split ours up in the divorce. Of course you love your biological child and you can love the others as well. Focusing on fitness will help you get through this for now and hopefully things will improve later.
    1973 days ago
  • ZIGGY122
    1985 days ago
    I am soooooo sorry! I can only imaging how hard this is on you. But PLEASE don't give up on yourself now!!! Stay active on sparkpeople, keep working on your goals and remember YOU ARE IMPORTANT! We are here for you! Hang in there and let me know what I can do to help! I am praying for you!!!
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    1986 days ago
    Oh my! This is heart-breaking! I am so sorry for your loss...I can't imagine treating another person this way. It's so sad that she is denying the girls a caring and positive male role model!

    Yes, what she does and where she goes IS out of your control. But, how you handle it IS in your control. This experience can be an OBSTACLE or any OPPORTUNITY! What is your choice? If you choose OPPORTUNITY - then you get to decide...OPPORTUNITY for what? Maybe there is a young person that could use a mentor...maybe you can take a class (or teach one)...maybe you can volunteer for a special cause or event. Again the choice is up to you!

    Will you ever But, you can turn something BAD for GOOD and become a BETTER person instead of a BITTER person.

    Keep us posted...we are here for you!

    1986 days ago
    So sorry for all you are going through. I hope all of the wonderful habits that you've made and tremendous progress towards improving your health will motivate you to keep going despite the circumstances. Losing weight is really hard when things are going well, so keeping it up when you are down will be challenging. I hope that your awesome commitment to exercise will keep you busy and allow you to let off some steam. I can imagine it would be tempting to throw in the towel, and go to food for comfort. But, YOU ARE STRONGER THAN THAT! One day at a time, you will persevere and you will be proud that you not only survived this, but grew even stronger. Now it's time to prove to yourself what you are made of, and refocus on the goals that center around YOU! Will be praying for peace and comfort, and will be watching for your update soon. emoticon
    1987 days ago
  • CAT609
    It will be the little girls' loss. I am sorry to hear about that. Maybe she will come around and let you visit the girls in time. Keep working out, it will help.
    1987 days ago
    emoticon sorry to hear about the shocking move on your partner's part!! ....You know sometimes, when we adopt lifestyle changes it makes those around us feel very uncomfortable.

    You have been undergoing a tremendous transformation, perhaps she is feeling left behind, or fears the 'new you' would not need/ want her and it was easier for her to simply leave rather than risk you leaving her?

    Then again she may have a different set of reasons never knows unless she is willing to honestly share...

    Please DO continue to focus on YOU and your new lifestyle changes and things will work out as they are meant to work out. I truesly believe if someone can simply walk out of our lives with no explanations or regrets, they were not meant to be there in the first place and in time the right person will appear.

    Congrats on the 40+ pound loss in 4 weeks...that is pictures???

    Have a better week!!!
    1987 days ago
    awwww. Im so sorry to hear about this..... they say time will heal . emoticon
    1987 days ago
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