Monday, October 08, 2012
I heard that when I was young and didn't grasp the absolute truth in those five words. As time went on and I muddled through the ups and downs of life I began to understand. It doesn't matter if we're rich or poor, really smart or dumb as a box of rocks, married or single, the tests that life throws at us are stressful. I've seen the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale before but if you need a refresher take a look at this life event list. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ho
It shows us how many different things in our lives cause stress and to what extent they're stressful. I'm sure that different people will have different responses to these events but there is something to learn from it.
The more of those events we have to deal with the higher probability that the stress will have an adverse effect on us. If enough of them hit us in quick succession the load becomes oppressive. When a ship at sea encounters a big storm the only thing to do is close all of the watertight hatches, secure everything, and ride out the storm. Isn't that what we sometimes do. We batten down the hatches and ride out the storms of life. I look back and the worst time of my life taught me a lesson that made me a much better husband, father, and human being. When I went through it I never imagined that life would get better. That lesson was family first. The career I had been passionately pursuing moved down on my priority list and suddenly the career took off. Go figure.
Changing our lifestyle to a healthier one is stressful. When life's other events sap our emotional strength we have to offload something to survive and sometimes it's our lifestyle change. I suspect that all of us have done it at one time or another. In order to succeed at this change we have to get back on the program when we're ready and keep looking forward. Backing off isn't failure. Sometimes it's self preservation. Backing off isn't quitting. It's just getting our second wind so we can run longer and harder for the rest of the game. Never quit.
Enjoy the ride,