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Isn't that fattening?

Monday, October 08, 2012

Those are the words that are resonating in my head right now. I hate those three little words with a passion.

I don't post updates on Facebook very often. This weekend, I did, stating that on Saturday I had had a very productive day and among other things was making a lasagna for dinner. My grandma, who always has to comment on EVERYTHING I post, wrote "Isn't that fattening?"

First of all... Yes, it is. You already know the answer to that. Obviously, after losing 146 pounds, *I* know the answer to that also. But yet, you have to be condescending and ask a question we both already know the answer to.

My family, my grandma included, are all very supportive and happy for me, so I know she doesn't mean any harm by it, but it still makes me FURIOUS!! Yes, I know lasagna is fattening, Grams, I didn't lose almost 150 pounds by eating lasagna. In fact, for months I didn't have pasta at all. I have become more lenient now that I'm getting closer to my goal weight and lasagna was what I was hungry for. I don't regret it at all. I had one piece and the boyfriend has been eating the rest as leftovers.

Those words just take me back to when I was 330 pounds and she'd say the same thing when I would pick up a brownie or another piece of pizza. I've worked my a$$ off for that lasagna, I know the effects it has, please stop making it seem like I don't know what I'm doing.

That's all... I haven't been able to stop thinking about it for a couple of days so I decided to try to get it off my chest here! Thanks for listening!!
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    I hear you!! I was eating leftover spaghetti at work yesterday and was so embarassed when a peer said in front of a group.... wow that is a HUGE plate of spaghetti. A friend of mine came to my rescue and said she is carbo loading for a run. The truth was .... I was hungry and I watch my calories and I try to live by: breakfast, eat like a king; lunch eat like a prince and dinner eat like a pauper.

    I know my peer didn't mean anything malicious but I was embarassed none the less!
    1899 days ago
    Sounds like you are doing great and have the right mindset. My weight loss does not compare to yours (congrads) but I lost 50 lbs and occasionally ate Lasagna, pizza wings etc. But in moderation and ate healthy 90-95% of the time. Unfortunately I had a really bad year (3 siblings passed) and got off track. Now I am back and I know with spark I can do this by making the right choices and believing in myself. Keep up the good attitude!! You Sparked me !!!
    1906 days ago
  • PANDAS10
    My grandma was like that... Now she doesn't say much about anything being fattening - and I think it is because she doesn't really eat much anymore. I recall very vividly a time, when I was in my early teens, that I was at Grandma's and she had made homemade pie (she is the best cook and baker ever!). She was a food pusher too - so of course, when she insisted, I had a piece. After I finished and was taking my plate to the sink, she looked at me and said (rather rudely) "You really shouldn't eat things like that!" Implying that I was too fat (which I was). That hurt. I know she didn't mean to hurt me. But to still have that vivid memory nearly 20 years later just shows the impact.

    Just remember that she loves you and cherish your time with her. If you can learn to laugh it off, then it will be easier to deal with her comments in the future.
    1948 days ago
    Oh my! This sounds like some of the women in my family! I know how frustrating it can be! And right now, I'm being compared to my sister, who lost over 50 lbs in the last 9 months. "She's shorter and older than you, so it should be easier for you. Why can't you do that?"

    Really?!?! Maybe because I work an office job and am gone 10+ hrs a day, sitting on my a$$ for at least 8 of them. I'm not an at home mom with 3 kids in school, that has more time to plan and prepare meals and snacks, more time to work out, and the time and 3 girls to go on bike rides, play ddr and wii fit, etc. with. (In no way am I saying that SAHMs have it easy; trust me, I know how hard that job can be and I'm not a hater. but all 3 of her girls are in school all day so it's much easier for her to have the time to do the things that need to be done.)

    In light of that, glad you're able to recognize that you earned it. And, I have a really good recipe for vegan lasagna that's so tasty, even my picky eater boyfriend likes it. Let me know if I should send it to you. :o)
    1952 days ago
    "I've worked my a$$ off for that lasagna"

    And literally, since you've lost 146 lbs! emoticon

    We have to live in the real world and eat real foods. And as you said, you obviously know what you're doing, so enjoy your lasagna and vent as needed.

    1954 days ago
  • GRANDMA0627
    Those closest to us have the greatest impact...good or bad. Sometimes the ones we do know love us seem the least supportive. Obviously, though, you've got it ...what it takes to succeed at anything you set your mind too...nearly 150 pounds!!wooohooo! And the self control and moderation to bake a yummy dish and have a healthful portion. Its certainly not just everybody that has your drive and determination. So...there will be those annoying comments from probably well-intentioned people...isn't it great to be able to come to a forum like this and just vent and get rid of their poison darts. Let nothing cloud your thinking or weigh you down or hold you back :)
    1958 days ago
    Everything in moderation... those are three words I DO like!!
    1958 days ago
    I try to be a positve thinker & try to live my life that way. So here goes, you did not like her comment I get that. With all of her flaws I am guessing she loves you. Who doesn't stick their foot in their mouth everyonce in a while, right? All of my grandparents have passed, but if they were alive today I would be grateful for any remark they would make because I love them for all they are~ bad & good. That said, loved the blog hope you give her a big kiss next time you see her & tell her you love her just the way she is. emoticon
    1958 days ago
    emoticon SP is the perfect place to vent about these things.
    1958 days ago
    My Grandma is always good for the, "You're still losing weight, right?" I know she thinks she is supportive, but I just feel like no matter how much I lose it will never be enough for her! Keep up the good work!
    1958 days ago
    yah people try to be supportive but sometimes it goes in the other direction , glad u let it out here, ur doing great job :)
    1959 days ago
    I have to admit, that would get to me too.
    Good for you for blogging about it.
    1959 days ago
  • EMMYLOU010409
    I hear you. A couple of different comments:

    - First off, it's my mom who will tell me, often in one breath, to "not eat that" but oh, hey, go out to dinner and eat [whatever] regardless of calorie intake because someone invited me. Or the office brought in food. Or whatever. I have a whole blog post dedicated to this rant.

    - Second: grandparents should not be allowed to comment on FB. Ever. At all. Except to each other, and never to grandchildren. My grandma saw a picture of me at a (dancing) bar and commented, "Walk slower, sweetie." Well, Grandma, it's about 80* in here, we're dancing, I'm wearing a long-sleeve shirt and jeans, so yes-- I'm sweating. My BF's grandma says some of the most random things, too. Age limit, people. We need to allow grandparents to look, but not comment.
    1959 days ago
    Heard it b/4 myself. Now it's nothing is off limits, just moderation. Deprival just leads to failure.
    1959 days ago
    I didn't know my mom is your grandma! emoticon
    You did the right thing to vent here--grandma's don't often change.

    Now enjoy your lasagna! emoticon Everything can be PART of a healthy diet.
    1959 days ago
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