Good Enough for Me

Monday, October 08, 2012

I fall pretty clearly into the perfectionist type in almost all areas of my life -- Straight-A student, known for my dedication and diligence around the office, reliable and punctual. If I'm doing anything for someone else, you'd better believe it will be held to the highest of standards. Which is great, in a way. Only, I can't seem to extend these standards to the things I want for myself. I struggle with this in a lot of areas of my life, but the one that seems to come up most regularly (not to mention, the one that is most outwardly visible) is weight-loss. I often wonder how someone so productive, driven, diligent and hard-working can be so lazy and unmotivated about something they've wanted/needed for so long. How can I accept failure, missed deadlines, continued slip-ups and a general lack of effort for something I want so badly? Is it really just because I'm the only one with any stake in this? And, if so, isn't that kinda sad? I'm realizing more and more as I grow up that I need to do things for myself. I'm starting to learn to say 'no'. I'm starting to learn to manage my time and set aside some just for me. I'm starting to get better. But I'm still met with this attitude, this idea that mediocre is good enough (for me). I would never slack like this if I was reporting to someone else, if the end result affected anyone other than myself. It's entirely backwards to what should be the case. Of all people, I should be doing my best for me. And before I go feeling guilty and selfish, I need to remind myself that I can only be my best for others when I've first accomplished this for myself. So here's to my best -- for ME.
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    The roots of poor self-love run deep in our psyches, so there's no quick answer I can offer you for the discrepancy between the attention you give to everyone/everything else and that which you give to your health.

    I can, however, congratulation for your self-awareness. The first step to making a change in your behavior is to acknowledge there is a problem, and you've done so effectively in this blog: you don't love yourself enough to be as good to yourself as you are to "things" such as grades and work.

    Well done.

    BUT...I'd also like to suggest that you rid yourself of such words as lazy and unmotivated. We don't blame children for a lack of motivation because they can't walk when they're born. They need time to learn how. We don't call them lazy because they don't speak at birth. They need time to learn how.

    You need time to learn more about yourself, specifically about what drives you NOT to succeed in this area of your life.

    Also, you wrote, "..before I go feeling guilty and selfish..." Again, your word choice reveals a great deal--there is a goldmine of information for you to explore in the fact that you'd even consider taking care of yourself to mean you are selfish or that it is something about which you should feel guilt.

    I wish you the greatest of success in your efforts to regain the good health your body deserves.
    1991 days ago
    You can do it! You are worth it.
    1991 days ago
    I couldn't agree with you more! I'm starting to realize that if I don't take care of myself first, I won't be able to take care of anyone else! So I'm setting aside "me" time as well! I am just as important as anyone else! emoticon
    1991 days ago
  • TIG123GER
    You are so right and I think many people fall into a similar category. They do everything for others and nothing for themselves. We just have to realize that we are just as important, and really more so, than others, and that we deserve happiness and good things just like others. We all need to learn to start treating ourselves better because no one else will. Good luck and hope you keep this positivity moving forward!
    1991 days ago
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