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We've Lost A Child --- It's A Good Thing!!!

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Sunday, October 07, 2012

I walked into the kitchen one afternoon in late August to find my wife and daughters sitting with their arms crossed. After close to forty years of marriage I smelled only one thing trouble for me. When Joan begins with Let me start by telling you how much we all love you.. it usually means its the last positive thing Im going to hear for the next half hour. I was half right, lol. She realized Id been through a lot in the past six months with my dad passing away and my back injuries, but, she added, my weight had ballooned to a really unhealthy number. Id gained back the eighty pounds Id lost plus added another ten pounds to that. Like the government, she and the girls were here to help.

Their proposal was simple. We would all make a real conscious effort to live and eat healthy from food choices to exercise options. Maybe that would help me get back on track. We did the ceremonial cleaning of the cabinets and stocked it with good stuff. Katie and Maggie both joined Weight Watchers. Its what works for them. Katie is a lifetime member having reached her goal weight and keeping it off for a year a long time ago but by her own admission she had slipped a bit. Maggie said it would be good to feel good again. Joan has major food allergies so eating is always a challenge for her. She has always used a high protein diet with success and of course I use Spark People.

Our goal wasnt to lose weight as much as it is to live healthy. In the past six weeks we have eaten out much less, gotten rid of the sugar and carbs that always tempt us and its been fun working out with my adulate daughters a few days per week. Its been nothing to adventurous walking and swimming. Joan and I exercise together in the pool three to four days a week and she and the girls have their own regimen. Everyone is much more relaxed. Its good to turn to either side of me and know I have support at home as well as here at Spark. When I open the cabinet I see healthy options rather than all the junk. We go out to eat, as a family, every two weeks, and the options are healthy ones, fresh fish, chicken and veggies. The French fries are fading in the rear view mirror.

I weighed myself yesterday a 1.4 pound loss for the week and a total of close to 16 pounds, in the past five weeks. Katie sat back and said, Between the four of us weve lost right at 60 pounds. Thats a small child.

Its a child Im glad to be rid of.

Namaste

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JAMER123 10/8/2012 8:13PM

    emoticon emoticon Totally awesome!! I love reading stories of families working together!! emoticon

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DIANNEMT 10/8/2012 6:33PM

    Congrats!! I'll bet getting YOU on track has great outcomes for the whole family!!

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IAMAGEMLOVER 10/8/2012 5:47PM

    That is totally awesome. A family that diets together stay together. I hope all of you are losers.

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SPEEDY143 10/8/2012 3:49PM

    From the title I thought you were going to say you'd grown up and become an adult heheheheh Love your blogs... this one speaks to sooooooo many of us. Keep up your good works and please, never stop sharing emoticon

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MRSKATEDUVALL 10/8/2012 3:22PM

    wow! it's quite a visual. Love the team work that you have going.

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PATRICIAANN46 10/8/2012 2:44PM

  What a great group effort............ emoticon

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WORLDSERIES11 10/8/2012 2:25PM

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IREN0169 10/8/2012 2:19PM

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JIBBIE49 10/8/2012 1:54PM

    emoticon Great to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail. What an honor. emoticon

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AMARILYNH 10/8/2012 1:50PM

    LOL I 'tuned in' to your blog expecting it to be about weight loss, but when I read that bit about your wife and your daughter at the table my thoughts jumped in a different direction - that of an adult child living at home but needing to get out on her own. I read on with interest and finished thinking what a lucky man you are to have such a caring and supportive family!

Way to go - sounds like you are definitely on the road to health and fitness!! emoticon

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IRONBLOSSOM 10/8/2012 1:35PM

    That's awesome, great visual!

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LIVELYGIRL2 10/8/2012 1:03PM

  Hi john,

I do enjoy your blogs. I even feel as if I know you somewhat, because of your blogs

Well, you did engage your audience, and it caused them to automatically want to read the rest , as the result of your word picture example.It certainly makes the point, by a visual of how much weight you lost combined.

And you did say, it's a good thing ( about the lost child/ so I was prepared to think of it as either satire, a joke, or a comparison ( like a horse/ or blocks of fat in the wagon.

I have to admit, however, the first emotional reaction and question, that popped into my head, was what is good about that? I have a particular reason.... I lost a child in 1980.

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DALID414 10/8/2012 12:58PM

    In those terms I've lost a big newborn! 9lbs emoticon

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PEGGYO 10/8/2012 12:35PM

    way to go

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CRYSTALJEM 10/8/2012 11:20AM

    This blog actually made me tear up! That kind of support and team work is absolutely heart warming and inspiring. What a great example to set. You are so right - it is about so much more than the weight loss. Congratulations on your successes, best wishes as you continue your path. Namaste. CJ

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SJKENT1 10/8/2012 11:09AM

    Getting back on track with the whole family is definitely the way to go.

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SHOAPIE 10/8/2012 11:03AM

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WALLINMW 10/8/2012 10:33AM

  Thanks for sharing!

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SHERIO5 10/8/2012 10:04AM

    What a great blot! Your family sounds like a gem!

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SH9719 10/8/2012 9:44AM

    That is a team effort if I have ever heard of one.

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TURNINGTABLES21 10/8/2012 9:43AM

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FARIS71 10/8/2012 9:26AM

    That is awesome - support surrounding you in all directions. What an awesome family!

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KATHRYN1955 10/8/2012 9:00AM

    Glad to hear the 'intervention' has been such a success!! Your family must really love you!
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Kathy

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JANEMARIE77 10/8/2012 8:27AM

    wow how lucky you are !!!!to have such loving support around you. where would you be without them. I'm sure you do but be extra sure to show and tell them how grateful you are. so many need to go this lone you from friend are a very luck man

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NEWMOM20121 10/8/2012 8:17AM

    Congratulations. It sure helps when you have support at home.

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TREYONE 10/8/2012 7:47AM

  How wonderful to have such a supportive family - you all gain in the long run by eating healthier!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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FLYINGTOFREEDOM 10/8/2012 7:46AM

    great.

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LOGOULD 10/8/2012 7:25AM

    CONGRATULATIONS - to you and all of your family! It is wonderful that you are doing this together and supporting one another.

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PENOWOK 10/8/2012 6:54AM

    so glad your family is with you on this!! What a thoughtful intervention!

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DNRAE1 10/8/2012 6:22AM

    Supportive family! emoticon Metaphor.....potentially hurtful. emoticon

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KELLYPAQ 10/8/2012 6:01AM

    Having your family with you is a wonderful support. Good for you!

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TRYINGHARD54 10/8/2012 5:51AM

    emoticon but maybe it should of been a different title....

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SUSANK16 10/8/2012 5:40AM

  Congrats! and hang in there you are lucky to have a wonderful supportive family.

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NCSUE0514 10/8/2012 5:06AM

    Great work

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BECKYANNE1 10/8/2012 4:57AM

    Way to Go John! I love that it's a family effort too. emoticon

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DEELB1 10/8/2012 4:21AM

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CLAIREINPARIS 10/8/2012 4:15AM

    I am sorry... this is the first time ever I have written something negative on a blog on SP, but really, this image is extremely disturbing. I am thinking of friends who have lost children, and my heart is breaking. I wish you hadn't used that image.

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TDWANDD2MYK9 10/8/2012 2:39AM

    Fantastic! Gr8 blog!! emoticon

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EZRIN101 10/7/2012 11:53PM

    Fantastic!! It's great to see you have such great support at home!

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GEEMAWEST 10/7/2012 11:29PM

    That's so awesome, John. I wish I could get my husband on board with me. It would make things so much easier. I don't use it as an excuse because I am in control of my own destiny. It would just be easier, and easier is always nice.

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CARTOONB 10/7/2012 11:22PM

    Congrats to you all on your healthy choices! Having support can make all the difference.

Bet that kid was a brat too...I'm just sayin'

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MOBYCARP 10/7/2012 8:14PM

    I don't know how to feel about thinking of lost weight in terms of children. It's picturesque, but an inherently disturbing image. Maybe when the family gets up to a 120 or 150 pound total loss, and can talk about a child moving out? Somehow, that sounds better to me.

Before I was seriously trying to lose weight, I ran across a blog of a morbidly obese guy trying to lose. He quantified his loss in units of 16 pounds each; but instead of small children, he wrote about how many bowling balls he had dropped.

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LYNMEINDERS 10/7/2012 6:47PM

    Woohoo....your doing great...thats an awesome loss

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CUPCAKZ 10/7/2012 3:55PM

    John, you're such an inspiration to your readers. I'm so glad that your family is supporting each other and having fun. 60 pounds is amazing! Congratulations!

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SMOCKON 10/7/2012 3:16PM

    This is wonderful news! One of the recurring themes in your blogs (at least as I view it) is how alone you feel at times. Having this extra, visible support from your family may be what you need when you hit those inevitable bumps in the road. Plus you get to help and coach them, something at which you excel.

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JENAE954 10/7/2012 3:07PM

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POPSY190 10/7/2012 2:47PM

    All for one; one for all! emoticon

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