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Feedback, not failure

Saturday, October 06, 2012

Just listened to a great podcast for the fourth time, about continuous improvement.

The idea is that every time we slip up, it's an opportunity to learn and improve for the next time that we're in the experience.

We do a redo in our minds, thinking about how we want to feel, behave, exist in that situation, redoing it, imagining and feeling what it's like to do it the way we dream of being. With practice, we start to engage in those behaviors and feelings because of these rehearsals in our minds.

I can attest to the power of this exercise. It has taken me through my weight release journey in a way that I was unable to do for over 30 years!

Today, while I listened again, I heard Renee talk about the fact that there is no such thing as failure, only feedback. I heard her say this before, but never really took it in. Today I thought about the slip up tracking exercise I engaged in for a few days. I decided to stop doing it because I realized that it was an exercise in which I paid great attention to all the mistakes I made, every moment I made them. It was making me feel really bad. My intentions were positive because I thought it was a way to heighten continuous improvement. But in the practice of doing it, I realized it was too much.

Renee suggests doing one redo a night, before bed. And the emphasis in the redo is on the new behavior, imagining and feeling it in the way you dream! This is a very positive, uplifting practice. The log was not! In fact, it was really bringing me down.

And in keeping with the wise suggestions of Rick Hanson, to see progress, and Phillip Moffitt, to just start over, I'm very grateful to have listened to this part of Renee's podcast again.
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

ROSEWAND 10/6/2012 2:22PM

    As someone said: "Turn a bad day into good data."
We can always mine our 'mistakes' and 'missteps"
for new deeper learnings about ourself.

The key as you wisely understand is to shift the
focus, from self-hate to self-love.
And just start over.

Edited to add: I love your blogs. Your
expressed thoughts and shared ideas are emoticon

Thank you

Comment edited on: 10/6/2012 2:25:17 PM

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PINKNFITCARLA 10/6/2012 12:40PM

    Re-do's are often needed...but hey, it's progress!

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PIXIE-LICIOUS 10/6/2012 11:51AM

    Yes, as long as we make it a learning experience, we are making progress.

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MANDELOVICH 10/6/2012 10:20AM

    That would be ideal! I agree that this is the major goal for a redo. Some habits are so deeply ingrained for me, however, that I'll need a lot of redos! :)

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CHUM48 10/6/2012 10:07AM

    I believe in redo's, my thing is learn from the situation before the redo so there will not be another redo necessary!

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