Saturday, October 06, 2012
My daughter got married this past summer. I believe I wrote a blog about how it ticked me off that I sent all those stamped addressed post cards to make it easy to RSVP, but got so few back. And then of those that I got back 20 said they were coming that did not come.
Well, among those that did not return the card was my niece who plans to get married herself in a few short weeks. (She also did not come to the wedding nor offer any reason why not, no card/gift, no acknowledgement of any kind).
I just read the following on her Facebook page:
"So...when I mailed out wedding invites I included a self addressed AND stamped envelope for the RSVP ... As of today (the day to respond by) merely half the people invited hasn't responded...ill give it one more week but after that whoever hasn't responded I will assume its not attending So send back you RSVP there should be no excuses....:-)"
Because I don't like to start family drama on facebook, I am restraining myself from venting on her post. But let me tell you here is what I want to write there:
"We also sent you a stamped, pre-addressed RSVP card for my daughter's occasion. You never sent it back. You should treat people how you want to be treated."
Thanks for listening.
Oh, and I will add that her mother did attend my daughter's occasion and was very interested in using some of my ideas for centerpieces, and favors, etc. That didn't bother me and if she uses any of our ideas, that is fine.
However, the mother also asked me if I would help them make a DVD that was comprised of pictures of the bride and groom from pictures all through the years until they grew up. They know I am good at doing that sort of thing.
Fortunately I had a good answer for that. I told her that if they supplied all the pictures, already scanned onto a CD or digital media, I would be happy to do it. (It would be very time consuming to scan a pile of photos). I already knew in my heart there was no way she would scan lots of photos herself, or go to Walmart, or such a place and get it done. They probably expected me to do it!
The wedding is a few weeks away now, and I have not heard another thing about making this DVD and I surely do not expect to! I am more and more irritated about living a world of takers that are not willing to give anything back.
Oh, and I hate being the "bigger" person, but yes I sent her RSVP back some time ago; we are going. I also got her a shower gift and will get them a wedding gift.