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This Thing Called Life...

Friday, October 05, 2012

Negative Event:
Without going into great detail, I had to end a friendship with someone I truly liked and thought very highly of. We had a lot of fun together and she was always a great source of advice. Our ending was mostly on my side, but I think itís something that had to be done. Why be friends with someone who thinks itís exhausting to be around you? I suppose Iím better off. If she only knew what I'm going through...

Positive Event:
I found a grief counseling group that meets weekly on Wednesdays. My first meeting is on Wednesday and I really look forward to meeting other people who have experienced what I have. Making PROGRESS.

My boss has also okayed my next 2 doctor's appointments! WOOHOO!

Healthy Lifestyle Stuff:
I've been doing fairly well with my eating this week despite all of the stress. It is a constant battle though, and I often find myself giving in and eating SOMETHING, just not junk. If I feel cravings, I grab my salad or fruit or tea. I haven't been blowing my calories out of the water thank goodness, but it could definitely use some reeling in. It's kind of helping me get more veggies and fruits in, so it's a double edged sword. All I can do is the best I can right?

Exercise has been completely absent from my world this week and I do miss it. This entire week, I've been in bed by 7:30pm the latest and have been so exhausted. Depression takes a toll on could I forget that?

This Weekend:
I have absolutely NOTHING planned this weekend which is very rare for me. It'll be me, my mother and my cat since my Dad will be gone. It should be a nice break for us with all of the drama going on. The 3 musketeers! That reminds me, I need to get a picture of the 3 of us together...

The weather has been nice and cool here in CA, such a nice break from the horrendous heat.

Have an amazing weekend SparkBuddies.

Miss B

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
LYNNWILK2 10/6/2012 7:56AM

    I hope you are able to relax and regroup this weekend and spend some great time with your mom and the two of you may even be able to get out side for a walk.... Have a good weekend.

I have ended a friendship with someone who thought they could always get me to do whatever she wanted me to do, and the attempts at manipulation were totally unseen by here... but it was so difficult to have to deal with each time I talked to her... it was/ is heartbreaking and I was just thinking about that yesterday and wondering how she was doing.

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DREAMGIRL-14 10/6/2012 6:50AM

    Sounds like you did what was best for you. I had to do the same thing a while back with some negetive people in my life, and it really does work out to be better in the end. Hope you can have a good day today, and just're sparkfriends are only a click away!!! emoticon emoticon

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RUNNER4LYFE 10/6/2012 6:35AM

    The emoticon is starting to peek thru those emoticon , baby! Im so very happy for u! U have done AMAZINGLY in taking charge of ur situation, ur health. U saw the downward spiral u were in and sought help....a lot of ppl stay in denial and wait til they are too far gone to even reach out. Score 1 for MISS B - ZERO for Depression!!! emoticon
It sux to lose a friend, baby, but I MUST remind u that sometimes friends are only meant to be there for a short period of time. But who knows, maybe she will reach out to u at a later time if yall were truly meant to stay friends. Doesnt make it any easier, but its reality.
Sounds like a nice, restful weekend. emoticon Enjoy it!!!!
I love you baby,

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MERRY_XMAS 10/6/2012 3:14AM

    People around us are a mirror to ourselves. We need supporting, loving and good people around us. If this friend couldn't give you these things, it was the best choice to walk away.

I can understand your friend, maybe she has her own problems but a good friend is there during the bad days, not only the good ones.

You HAVE to do what is best for you! Many people will come and they will like you and love you for the real you.

Have fun during the weekend!
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DIANER2014 10/5/2012 10:34PM

    Maybe it was for the best. We all need positive and supportive people around us. emoticon

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SPARKLE1908 10/5/2012 9:32PM

    Sometimes cutting off "negative" sources of energy is a wonderful boost in our lives...might not seem like it now but that was very brave of kudos to you for recognizing what needed to be done!

Have a great weekend!

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1CRAZYDOG 10/5/2012 8:52PM

    I know it's difficult to end a friendship. But I do agree . . . seemingly @this point of your life you need to put yourself first. If this person wasn't supporting you, then you did the right thing.

Throughout life, you'll find people come into your life. With any relationship, things get stressful when one or the other in the relationship changes and the other changes in a different way. But it does seem like there are people that come into our lives @ a specific time in our lives and for a specific reasln, then they just kind of drift from us. Part of life.

Concentrate on you! Sounds like you're doing that, and clearly, that's what you need to do for you.

HUGS to you. Have a wonderful weekend with your cat and your Mom. Sounds like just what youneed right now.

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SHERYLDS 10/5/2012 8:42PM

    next time ...just consider this...
You don't really need to burn bridges...
Just let things cool off with some distance for a bit....
it may be all that's needed.

Not everyone is going to be on the same page all the time...
They may not fully understand what's going on with you...nor you them.

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SCHAPIN1 10/5/2012 5:22PM

  It is always hard to break a friendship. I am a recovering alcoholic and I had to get rid of people from my life that would not help in my recovery. This included sober people who did not support me as I needed. It was a hard choice, but I had to put myself first. I do support groups outside of AA and they are wonderful. Finally, people who understand. I always feel better, though sometimes a little drained. Keep up the great work and it is okay to be selfish right now. We all have a time when we have to put ourselves first. emoticon

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