I, like most people in the world, once compared myself to what society classified as being beautiful. You see women in magazines, not just on the covers, looking flawless. But through out the whole magazine, in ads and so on. The Diet Coke and Pepsi ads show flawless women holding cans of soda. It's a good way of getting people to consume their unhealthy products by promoting that if you do so you will look good.
I really have struggled my whole life believing I wasn't good enough. Wasn't pretty enough, thin enough etc. I was wrong and if you feel that way about yourself so are you. With the ever changing and growing trends of today, with the desire to be popular, accepted, and loved, people change who they are, inside and out, to try and fit what society's opinions are of what beauty is.
I am not talking about health either, I am talking about the fact that we damage ourselves, our souls, with our constant judgemental attitudes we carry towards ourselves. It has to stop if we want to lose weight and become healthy. It stopped for me, I no longer see myself as damaged, ugly, disgusting, inadequate, etc. I see myself as beautiful. Because I am, I am imperfect, I have flaws, I have scars, but I am unique and perfectly imperfect and beautiful.
Losing weight will never make someone beautiful. People are not beautiful because they look a certain way. They may be attractive, but every one can look good with the right make up and clothes. Beauty comes from deep within.
I found that in order for me to lose weight, to become healthy. I had to change the way I saw myself. I had to heal from the inside in order to have it reflect on the outside. We are beautiful, just the way we are. And when I realized that about myself, the weight was easier to lose. When I didn't see that I was beautiful, I would only lose and re-gain weight, or struggle and become depressed because I lost no weight.
You must find your inner beauty and love yourself for who you are. Do not let other people's opinions of what they see and don't know affect how you feel about yourself. Do not become as ignorant as they are when they judge you, without knowing you, by believing them. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!!