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Diary Of A Fluffy Chik... I AM PISSED!!!!!

Friday, October 05, 2012

As I am trying NOT to turn to food, I decided I had better get on here and vent!!!! I AM PISSED!!!!! I at pissed at my soon to be 16 year old, who REFUSES to any homework, and though I have taken everything away from him that I can, he still insists on sitting in his room and doing absolutely nothing. I have his teachers calling me, and I then do everything that I can do, and instead of trying he just sleeps!!!!! I am out of ideas there.... THEN my Husband informs me a month ago, that we really need to cut back and start saving money, so he is FINALLY going to start taking his lunch to work, IF I make it for him, and pack it. So being the good little wifey, I have been not only getting up and packing his lunch, but I have also been making his breakfast... Now that in itself is not so bad, but I then have to point out that this is anytime between 4:30 and 5:30 in the morning. Now I don't sleep well at night, so about the time that I am getting some decent sleep I have had to get up and do this for him.... But, that was fine because I was helping him save the money that he normally would spend, and since I am unable to work a job outside the home, I thought that is what I should do..... HOWEVER he comes home last night, and informs me that since he saved all this money on taking his lunch he decided to go and buy a $100.00 phone!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHAT THE?????? So I have been NOT getting much sleep, and cooking and preparing food early in the morning, so he could go buy a new phone, which by the way he does NOT need and will put us short this week on grocery money yet once again, and I am supposed to be happy about it!!!!! I sure don't think so!!!! Well, I can guarantee you this, I DID NOT get up this morning and cook him anything... Of course that won't bother him any because he will just eat out anyway...... I could just scream I am so angry!!!!!

I am sorry to vent, but I can't turn to anyone this morning, because it is to early to call any of my friends, and all I want to do is go and abuse myself with food..... So I would rather vent here, and this is what this is for.... Anyway, I am sorry that this is not my normal funny and uplifting self, but this is me being real..... I am on my 5th day of no fried food, and I have faced temptation and beat it already, but I have got many days to go, and today, is going to be hard because I am angry..... But, I at least feel some relief, now that I have left out some steam.... So I am going to go and make some pumpkin spice coffee, and find my "Happy Place" and hopefully the day will go better...... HUGS!! Shannon
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

LJCANNON 10/21/2012 1:15AM

    emoticon You are dealing with 2 of the Biggest Mysterys in the world -- Teen-Age Boys & Husbands!! Vent Away!! You have EVERY Reason to be Frustrated, Pissed, Mad, and Tired! After you vent here, you will be better able to Deal with the Crazies!!
emoticon Just remember that eating Crap won't help you be better able or Stronger to Deal with the Crazy Men in your Life.

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LEANJEAN6 10/21/2012 1:03AM

    Oh my Lord!--You are right upset!!!--Crazy!! But you are --or were a good wife to make the lunch--but--at 5-30am???-----Oh my Lord again!-----I hope the 2 of you work it out-----LOL---Lynda emoticon

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NEWLIBRARIAN 10/8/2012 6:07PM

    Sometimes life just hands out sticks and stones and lemons. Feel free to vent.
I have been in that kind of place with my son and it's tough.
Not sure what to say about your hubby.

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CANBDONE 10/8/2012 3:00PM

    Great job of releasing the toxins! Teenagers can be a mystery...and communication is tricky, especially when they don't want to share what's bothering them. Letting them fail is an option, but a painful one for both mom and child. Talking with the hubby will be an easier job...feeling unappreciated and resentful. Give him a chance to get it right. You're lovable, Sister, and we really care about you. May it get easier....soon! Fabulous job of staying food sober!

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SNOWANGELDIVA 10/5/2012 9:53PM

    emoticon I miss a good soul-bearing-get-the-poison-out-and
-move-on vent like you have NO idea.

I know you love your man (or you wouldn't have said, "I Do!"). I know you're frustrated that he was absolutely oblivious to your sacrifices (sleep deprivation IS a form of torture). I know you are not feeling cherished because he took the victory as his own and didn't share the spoil or observe if there was really any 'spoil' with this saving. He was not thoughtful and it's not for lack of love (or he wouldn't have said, "I Do!").

You guys aren't enemies. It feels like it, it looks like it, and it sounds like it...but, feelings do not equate facts.

The fact is finances are bringing up insecurities and clouding communication. He loves you in his way. Hold guys are worth it.

I wasn't planning on being like that. I just want you to get from this comment that I get venting and clearing out that hurt and coming to people that aren't being clouded by the storms in your marriage for support. You indeed are fabulous company. You're sweet, gentle, kind, loving, and an inspirtration in so many ways. Hold on through the hurt. The sun will shine again.

As for your son and his allergy to sunshine. Is he going through a growth spurt? Gigantor used to only need 6-7 hours a night then just this summer he bumped his night sleep to 12 hours. I was worried it was depression...then he slapped on 3 inches in his height. Hopefully your son is just going through that growing spurt. It makes the boys a little slow in the cognitive skills when their body is sucking all their energy for growing...I was just wondering if it may be the case.

You are so fantastic, Shannon. I hope that you were able to resist until the devil fleed with the comfort food.

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SHERYLDS 10/5/2012 12:51PM

    MEN !!!
when God created Adam,
He realized it had he made a defective
He created Eve.
But He forgot to do a recall on the Adam model.
And He thought Eve could just compensate for the flaws.
And to his day...all of Eve's daughters continue cleaning up after the men.

now...don't you feel better emoticon

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SPOOKY_GIRL13 10/5/2012 7:42AM

  I'm sorry to hear you're having a rough time, but major props for writing it out instead of resulting to overeating. I hope you don't mind some friendly-stranger advice (if so, ignore anything below and keep the kudos, you deserve it):

Maybe a silly question, but have you ever sat down with your son and just asked him why he's not doing his homework? Perhaps he's bored/not being challenged enough? This was my issue; and it still saddens me of some of the opportunities I missed. I'm intelligent, but I was a VERY poor student (my teachers both loved and hated me. lol), considering the work "not worth my time". My parents, despite their efforts, didn't understand, had eventually mistaken it for laziness. I'd say it's worth a shot, for the sake of his future.

Is it possible that your husband didn't realize he was being inconsiderate? Have you guys talked about it(I'm kind of big on talking things out. lol)? If it was a "we" decision to cut back, then I don't see why it shouldn't be a "we" decision for a large purchase; maybe talk about different ways the whole household could assist in cutting back, without putting so much pressure on one individual. Sometimes we need to be assertive to get the changes we want.

I have to say, I disagree with Jacqui1963, it's been my experience that if you talk it out, share your feelings, then more often than not things can be amended. I'm bred from a partnership type of family (no real "head of the house", big decisions are made together, etc), and have created one such family with my significant other; I believe communication is key.

I do hope everything works out alright.

Comment edited on: 10/5/2012 7:50:04 AM

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JSMC10 10/5/2012 6:49AM

    I hope releasing on this blog has helped. Well done for coming on here and writing about it instead of turning to food emoticon

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CANDOSUE52 10/5/2012 6:24AM

Never be sorry to vent! It's the non-venting that walks us right over to the refrigerator!
I can certainly understand your frustrations, I would feel exactly the same way.

Just a thought about your son, please listen to it or discard it as appropriate, but do you think your son might be depressed?

Wishing you a good day. You have come such a long way, and you can go ALL the way toward good health if you keep up your good habits of reaching out to us instead of the food.

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JACQUI1963 10/5/2012 6:16AM

  ah bless you.i have been where you are now husband and son doing exactly the sorry to say they wont change,well your child will stop liking sleep and start liking the opposite sex.trouble is then they hog the bathroom then so no one can get in. in the end you just love your man for what he me they dont husband didnt just buy phones for himself lol. ive got 4 cars outside my house (demented)good job i love him emoticon

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