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Just start over

Thursday, October 04, 2012

Again I'm full of gratitude and amazement at how I keep getting the right messages at just the right time.

Today I began to reread Chapter 3 in Full Filled. I read Renee's message that when we slip up, it's a wonderful learning opportunity. I believe she said we can think of it as feedback instead of failure. This is a wonderful lesson to take in.

Then I went to the gym. When I work out on the Elliptical Trainer, I let myself read lots of health, fitness and wellness magazines. That is my treat. Today I read Yoga Journal and came across this fantastic article by Phillip Moffit:

The article is about a practice called "Just Start Over" and I am so thrilled to have read it just as I did. The big takeaways are that when you are acting unskillfully, moving away from a goal you've set for yourself, be it about eating, spending, speaking, relating, etc, instead of beating yourself up and continuing the unskillful behavior, say, "I got a bit lost and I'm starting over." That's it. And then start over right there.

I love this!

Today I was in a slightly negative space earlier and found myself snapping at my daughter. I set an intention everyday to speak with loving kindness, and every day I slip up. Then I was talking to my mother and starting complaining about something. I set an intention every day to focus on positivity, gratitude and all the abundance in my life, and everyday I slip up.

So as I walked over to the gym, I was playing a very negative tape in my head about what a complete failure I was and will always be.

Then magically I read that article! And I realized that all I had to do was say, "I got a bit lost and I'm starting over." Done! New chance now to choose a different way.

Renee talks about the DIF (duration, intensity and frequency) and that we should notice when our unskillful behaviors last for shorter, less intense moments, and happen less often.

And Judith Beck always talks about how when you are binging, if you stop at the first piece of cake instead of eating the whole cake, you prevent a 500 calorie slip up from being a 3000 calorie slip up.

Just start over.
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

MISSIFISH 10/5/2012 10:03AM

    What a super message. I think you are so right - as you watch the mistakes get less intense and shorter, you can really see that changes are happening.

I'm excited that you are noticing, and glad that you can forgive yourself and start over when mistakes happen. It is a good message for me to remember when dealing with others too - I can't hold them accountable for mistakes to me forever. I'll keep this in mind today as I deal with a particular colleague who is really pushing my buttons!

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PIXIE-LICIOUS 10/5/2012 9:00AM

    Your blog is so inspiring, thanks!

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HEATHOG 10/4/2012 10:46AM

    Loved your update today--very inspiring! I always tell my kids (and myself) that tomorrow is another day in which we can try to do bigger and better things for ourselves and each other. While they are too young to fully understand, I hope I am planting a seed for their future. And it helps me re-group as well!

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