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Do you ever find yourself judging someone else who is overweight? Are you ever distracted by or cond

Thursday, October 04, 2012

I had a tough day yesterday so I decided a blog promt was in order today. I hope you enjoy my blog. Feel free to comment or answer the questions yourself.


Thursday, October 04, 2012
Todayís Blog/Journal Prompts
Do you ever find yourself judging someone else who is overweight? Are you ever distracted by or condescending towards someone who is 100+ pounds overweight? How do you feel when you see a morbidly obese person at a buffet or restaurant?

These are interesting questions. I do not judge people that are overweight. I am a little distracted but never condescending. I think when I see someone overweight I see myself in them. I see them struggling to walk, out of breath and maybe even see the unhappy look on their face. I remember how it felt to be so big you do not fit through small areas or do not fit in chairs. I remember the fear that a chair might break if I sit in it. I remember feeling like people were staring at me when I was eating. I want to walk up to them and hug them! I want to tell them that I know just how they feel. It is not judging on my part but sadness for the person. I am sad they have not gotten to a point where they want to change. Sometimes I wonder if they have begun to eat healthy. Maybe they are like me and are overweight but might be eating good healthy food and exercising. Maybe they are on their way to getting fit and happy.
I donít see people at buffets because we do not go to them anymore. However if I see an overweight person eating something very unhealthy I am sad. It gives me a glimpse of my past self. It shows me what I never want to go back to.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
GIRLONFIRE1979 10/9/2012 5:37PM

    I am guilty of this, and I fully admit that I am projecting feelings on them that I feel toward myself. When I am able to catch myself in this horrible habit, I do try to tell myself that perhaps they are healthier than I am or something to that effect. I wish I didn't do this but it's so spontaneous.

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-WRKNG2ABTTRME- 10/8/2012 10:28PM

    Interesting emoticon

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BMCKEOW1 10/8/2012 1:01PM

    I understand this feeling. It reminds me of where I have come from and to be honest a bit, of where I never want to be. I think I feel the saddest is when I see other people staring or making comments. Do those people really think you can't hear their mean words, or see their rude gestures. We all do, and trust me the person it's being said about they hear it to.

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KRISTEN_SAYS 10/5/2012 10:12AM

    I agree 100% with PMRUNNER - probably the only time I feel sad for someone overweight/obese is when it's a child whose parents are feeding them junk.

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JESSYVIRGINY 10/5/2012 10:03AM

    I have seen large people eating at restaurants. But I would NEVER say or comment or be rude. Everyone has a right to live their lives as they see fit.

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ARKPLE 10/5/2012 9:22AM

    I second your emotions. I love your compassionate stance, and I try to do the same. Would that we all could walk in each other's shoes, or see another's plight as clearly as you.

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PMRUNNER 10/4/2012 4:31PM

    This is a tough one! Whether you know the other person well or not, it is easy to let some judgment slip in. I try to be more conscious about judging it so that I can squelch it when I recognize that I am doing it.

I still have a hard time when I see overweight parents with overweight kids. Or when I see a couple pushing their baby in a carriage and they are both smoking. I know I am not a perfect parent, but I do try to teach my children healthy habits!

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KARENDEE4 10/4/2012 4:04PM

    I said I am sad for them... :) not that they are sad looking or anything. Just makes me feel for them. I know how they might feel. I looked very happy when I was overweight but now I know I was not. However I had to change my lifestyle to realize that.

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NATPLUMMER 10/4/2012 4:04PM

    No judgement here...I've been there.

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JANDK156 10/4/2012 1:13PM

    Assuming they're sad? Isn't that sort of jedging them? Feeling sad for them is your feeling, so you know how you feel. My darts captain is big, but there's nothing sad about her. I doubt she likes her weight but she's a very happy person, and eats and drinks a lot of crap (in my opinion). I think maybe assuming fat people are sad is projecting our own feelings of sadness about our own weight onto them because we got to a place where our size made us sad, and not necessarily how THEY feel.

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KARENDEE4 10/4/2012 12:59PM

    Thanks for sharing everyone!!!

I love all your responses.

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CCHEF1 10/4/2012 11:47AM

    Been overweight, so why would I judge someone else who is in that position? emoticon

I sometimes feel a little sad, even irritated, by the prevalence of obesity in our culture. I used to want to help change that but learned I cannot help anyone else to stay out of obesity, only myself.

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IMISSOATIE 10/4/2012 10:57AM

    "I see myself in them." Such sweet, kind, empathetic words.

When I see someone who is overweight, I see someone who has not been given tools to deal with their emotions. I see someone who has learned to turn to food for joy, anger, sadness, and stress.

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MARITIMER3 10/4/2012 10:52AM

    I wish I could honestly say that I never judge them, but sometimes I do...I'm trying to get over it, but have a ways to go... Perhaps I'm hardest on people I see eating a lot of junk food, because I didn't do that; instead I got fat on "proper meals".

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ALIHIKES 10/4/2012 10:39AM

    Thank you for sharing this blog. It is really important to not be judgmental, but to be supportive and kind instead.

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KALLEN5321 10/4/2012 10:28AM

  I'm with you on this one. When I see someone who is overweight, I feel a little sad for them. Being overweight can be so limiting, and trying to lose weight can be difficult. I've been on both sides of the aisle and see education as the key.

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