Wednesday, October 03, 2012
I recently got married to my partner of six years. We had a wonderful day in our favourite place in the world, Chester Zoo! The entire day went perfectly and a month on most of our guests wish we could do it all again every weekend. It's very easy to say that this was the best day of my life, and the start of a new beginning.
My partner and I both agreed that we did not want to be over weight when we got married so, 18 months before the date, I started exercising and watching what I ate. With the best intentions in the world I lost 28 pounds and was within 2 pounds of having a healthy BMI.......then we went on holiday. I lost all of my momentum for exercise and resolve to eat well and by the time we got back I had put on 7 pounds, all of my motivation was shattered and I felt like I had failed. That was August last year, one year before the wedding.
In December I found a new job and we moved to a new house and we both felt that this was the push we needed to start a healthy lifestyle, so in the January we took out a gym membership and we started going after work 3 times a week. We both lost over 7 pounds each in the first few months but then we got sick and didn't go for a week. This tiny crack in our routine gradually became a huge hole and soon we were only going once a week or once a month.
In April my partner had her first dress fitting and was determined that she would drop the weight so that when her dress came in in July it would need taking in. Once again we started up at the gym 3 times a week after work and we also met with a trainer there to give us a new programme. Neither of us were that keen on the new programme so we didn't put in that much effort, then in May I was made redundant. This really hit my confidence and my self worth, initially I was trying to stay positive but I knew I was putting on a front for my partner. Soon I started finding excused not to go to the gym, injuries, illness, what ever I could think of. It was unfair on my partner but she didn't need much of a reason to stay at home either because she was so unhappy with the programme we had been give.
July eventually rolled round and I had been measured for my suit and the dress came in for my partner. We were both surprised to find that we had lost some weight since being measured because we had not been to the gym in months, however we had maintained a healthy diet. We both but this down to wedding stress but neither of us were happy that we had not been able to achieve the weight we wanted and it was too late to do anything about it.
The big day came and went far too quickly and before we knew it we were back at home trying to figure out where to go for our honeymoon. We settled on Rome and jetted off a few days later.
I have never been to Rome before but my partners family are Italian so she was very keen to show me as much as she could in the few days we had. We walked so much in those few days and we ate really healthy, fresh food. As well as learning so much about the history of Rome I had a huge personal change. I realised that I didn't need to make exercise and diet something challenging, I needed to fit it into the life I already have. We decided that when we got back we would continue to eat the freshest products we can find and make every meal healthy and fun. We also decided that we would start walking more at home.
When we got back we began planning our meals and only shopping for the things that we needed but the exercise side of this didn't materialise straight away. I knew I had to do something about our lack of interest in going back to the gym, after all, we were paying a lot of money for something we weren't using. That didn't sit right with me so I looked at our routine and decided that going to the gym in the evening was the problem. We both get very hungry in the evening and my partner sometimes isn't home until 7pm so we would often not get dinner until 9pm or later which would put back going to bed so we were tired in the morning, leading to lay-ins and the whole this repeating itself everyday. Neither of us are particularly hungry people in the morning and we are generally very good at getting up early if we need to so I decided that we should try going to the gym at 6am when it opens, cutting the programme down so it is only 30 minutes and alternating between cardio and strength.
This is what we have been doing for the last two weeks now, and it is really working. Getting up early and getting the exercise out of the way has made a significant change to my attitude, I don't feel like a I'm failing in my life anymore. Having those 30 minutes in the morning to sets me up and wakes me up for the day ahead. I have also started including more walking into my life, rather than getting the bus everywhere I walk, it takes slightly longer but I feel like I've done something with the day.
I've not lost any weight yet but I'm not measuring my success on the scales anymore, they cause far more heartache than they solve. Instead I'm paying attention to what my body has to say and my body is saying THANK YOU. My knees don't hurt as much when I walk now, my back doesn't hurt as much or for as long when I wash up, my posture had improved greatly and my body shape has totally changed. I was shocked over the past few days to see that my hips have really got smaller, t-shirts and trousers that used to be tight are fitting better and my belly doesn't stick out further than my chest anymore. When I sit I don't have to rearrange my clothes to cover my belly because it's not sticking out anymore.
I have never had such changes to my body happen so quickly before, I actually have to keep asking my partner if I am seeing things because I have always struggled to see changes before. I think I have found the way to organise a healthy lifestyle and the routine we already had into one daily lifestyle. I almost don't have to think about what to eat or how to exercise because it is so easy and because it is so easy I know I'll be able to do it everyday.