Wednesday, October 03, 2012
eventful day yesterday--rob's birthday, but he and i both spent the day at my folks new place helping them settle in. things are still rocky there--a leaky dishwasher and a complete inability on the part of at&t to get anything right (they still do not have phone service) has made the transition less than perfect. my folks are in their mid 80's and my dad has dementia and my mom is trying to manage after a lifetime of throwing her hands up and looking helpless to deal with crises. so its challenging for both of them. but i have to say they are both trying their best--dad to be graceful and help when he is able, and mom trying to rise to the situation. but its really pushing both of them to their limit.
yesterday we hung pictures and the place is looking like THEIR home now--their housekeeper/helper, judy, told us that as the place begins to look like home to dad, he will begin to feel better. and i know when he is acting happier, mom will be less upset too. rob came by on his lunch and spent 3 hours trying to get their phone figured out--2 hours talking on the cell with a supervisor from the phone company resulted in a service call ticket for last night--except no one ever showed up. no call to my mom's cell phone to inform her what was going on--nothing. i am so impressed. so she is going to have to call them in the morning and find out what is going on. of course she has to remember her secret question and her password--which she swore up and down she didn't have--finally remembered something she had written on a scrap of paper. so the process will probably be a little painful. rob is not far away, and she can call him if she needs help--hopefully they will show up this morning and actually DO some customer service.
when rob got home from work, he told me that the 3 frustrating hours at my parents actually was the BEST part of his day, so since it was his birthday and he really needed the break we went to our favorite trattoria in a nearby town and had dinner. we always have dinner for two--spinach/garlic ravioli and a white cheese and artichoke pizza, caesar salads and a single serving of spumoni. we always eat all the ravioli (about 5 pillows each--in marinara) and 1 slice of pizza each--the rest comes home. i had a fair number of calories left over since i ate lunch with my folks at the retirement home dining room and the portion size of the salad i ordered was very small. but i am fairly certain i went over for the day--don't even know how to begin tracking the meal, so i decided i wouldn't try. but its back on "track" today with no difficulty. exercise continues fine--i rearranged my usual schedule to accomodate having to leave fairly early yesterday and it all worked out fine. and i communicated with both my brothers--i am lucky that they are pretty engaged in this process of transition for mom and dad, so the whole load is shared by the three of us. so hoping for good news today to keep the trajectory upward! have a lovely day everyone!