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MOVING MIL, DAY 10


Tuesday, October 02, 2012

We were exhausted yesterday after moving and prodding and unpacking and moving again. My back was singing. Everything went fairly well but I've got unpacked boxes sitting all over the house. Don't know where we will put it all. I did pack a couple of boxes to go into the shed of my own stuff and today I guess we will have to go through her boxes and let her decide what to keep and what to pitch or donate.
Last night I had lasagna that I had previously made and frozen, a nice tossed salad and brownies for dessert. Then MIL watched dancing with the stars and we watched our usual Monday night Antiques Roadshow in the other room. I helped her get a bath which turned out easier than imagined. We put a bench between the tub and toilet and she sat on the end of that and I helped her swing her legs over into the tub where she could stand up and then sit on her shower chair.
My husband helped her get into bed and all set with her oxygen tank going. She is still asleep at 7:17 int he morning and we are trying to keep our two dachshunds away from her door. Wally will go down there and scratch and whine. Its like having another kid in our home, bathing and putting to bed.
I guess this is my life for the next how many years I don't know. My biggest fear is that our youth will be gone. This is the time of our lives when we could be traveling and visiting our son in North Carolina and going places.

I had two clients call for appointments yesterday. One asked if I was still in business. In fact I have 5 prior clients who want me to help them at the moment and a couple are fairly sizable. Plus a funeral home wants me to come and give them a quote. I guess I"m not quite ready to retire yet. Maybe this will put some steam under me to get me out of the house. I have always been able to set my mind to the task and get things done in a timely fashion. Maybe this will rejuvenate me. This year I've been putting my business aside to sew and quilt instead but now I feel I might need to get out and work. I zero in on the project and get it done so I can get on with other things.

We still have things to move out of her apartment and the movers to come and pack up the china and get it out of there. Pray for me.
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CARLANNIE 10/3/2012 7:54AM

    I've been MIA so I'm just now reading about your new life change. I can only imagine the changes that this entails. It sounds like taking on some work for hire jobs will give you a chance to get out and about more and be a good thing for you, with quilting in between. Families are so important - you are an angel.

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FIFIFRIZZLE 10/2/2012 1:40PM

    You must be worn out.
Isn't it great that the chance to get out and work has come, just at the right time! Someone up there is looking out for you.

Can I ask, who helped MIL before she moved in with you? Can they still assist with care to free you up when you need it?
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JAMARIGOLD 10/2/2012 11:11AM

    All the new business might be just the ticket. Getting out of the house sounds like the break you'll need. I hope it will give you the energy you're looking for and not be another burden. Bless your heart for what you and your husband are doing for your MIL. My DH and I are living at my mother's taking care of her and escaping to our own home for a couple of days every couple of weeks. What you're doing is much more time and stress producing than what we're doing but I still understand your feelings about wishing it were different so you could travel, etc. But, maybe someday we'll need the kindness of someone too. Prayers coming your way.
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KASEYCOFF 10/2/2012 9:20AM

    I never thought about funeral homes and such places (nursing homes? motels / hotels? show-homes?) in terms of decorating - I can see where that might prove to be a good corner of the market!

Re sorting her things: one of the things my cousins did for my aunt was to inventory her treasured belongings (no matter how frivolous it seemed: she kept a circa-1960 manual ice crusher!) and put them into labelled boxes - I think they used large plastic totes, but you get the idea. Then if she started fretting about "Where's my--?" they could assure her "That's in this box labelled 'Mom's Kitchenware, box 3-A' " and if she was determined that she REALLY needed it, they could easily retrieve it. They had a sort of storage loft built into the top of their garage, and while getting out the ladder to get up there was a bit of a nuisance, at least they held onto her things and she was usually okay with knowing where it was stored. After she died, they had a much easier task with family, because they could say "Mom held onto thus-and-so, do you want it?" or could quickly determine where the donations were located, things that could be sold in a yardsale, whathaveyou. So since you're at the beginning of this part of the process, maybe now would be a good time to sit down with her and 'package' some of the extraneous items while assuring her you aren't getting rid of them, just storing them in the house where they're easy to find, easy to get to, but not filling up closets or cupboards needed for the everyday items.
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