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Beating ourselves up mentally and emotionally (learning to love ourselves)

Tuesday, October 02, 2012

Why are we SO hard on ourselves? Why do we sometimes say horribly mean and sometimes mentally and emotionally abusive things to ourselves? Would we tolerate this from someone else? The sad thing is, I used to tolerate others treating me like this and even called some of them close friends. The world is hard enough on us, so why do we think we need to be so hard on ourselves too?

I have realized enough is enough! I will not accept myself being so mean to myself anymore! I didn’t reach this point overnight, as many are aware of. A few weeks ago I “only” lost 0.8 pounds, but instead of being frustrated about this I decided to celebrate that loss. 0.8 pounds lost is a positive step towards reaching my goals. Also, I am not just a number on a scale!! There is so much more to this journey. Fitting into smaller and smaller clothing, seeing more and more muscle tone and definition, learning to love working out, learning to love myself….. Yesterday I noticed I have an increase in excess skin on my stomach but I am quite okay with this actually. If I would have noticed it a few months ago I know I would have been upset about it…. But I so will take the excess skin any day than being obese again. I do not want to face the same health problems that the rest of my immediate family is facing. They have high blood pressure problems, and now my dad, mom, and sister (she just got told this past Friday that she is on the verge of full blown type II diabetes) all three have type II diabetes…. Leaving me the only one w/o out it. This only reinforced the fact I am not a number!
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    Such a great post! We tend to beat ourselves up instead of building ourselves up. Focusing on our positive traits and leaving the negative out of our daily lives truly makes life enjoyable!
    1894 days ago
    I used to beat me up myself a lots of time and get more depressed. but not anymore.
    I have changed way of thinking about myself. I should appreciate who I am and what I am doing good for myself for transforming to better me. I now can appreciate so many thing in my life and my surrounding. I have lost my ex husband in pancreatic cancer back in 2008. I was very sad and devastated back then, but when he was alive, he used to say "Enjoy the gift of life." Now I can understand what that really means.
    Thanks for a wonderful reminder,. I love your blog. Take care. emoticon
    1939 days ago
    Awesome post! We tend to beat our selves up, and we all know we wouldn't allow someone else to treat us that way (at least not intentionally!).

    Thanks for the reminder!

    1971 days ago
    I found the following poem/story on a website (www.dwlz.com) a few years ago. It's still hanging on my frig and every time I think that I've "only" lost a pound (or less) I read it.

    Only One Pound

    Hello, do you know me? If you don't you should. I'm a pound of fat, and I'm the happiest pound of fat that you would ever want to meet. Want to know why? It's because no one ever wants to lose me; I'm Only One Pound, just a pound. Everyone wants to lose three pounds, five pounds or fifteen pounds, but never only one, so I just stick around and happily keep you fat. Then I add to myself ever so slyly so that you never seem to notice it, that is until I've grown to ten, twenty or even more pounds in weight. Yes, it's fun being Only One Pound of fat, left to do as I please. So, when you weigh in, keep right on saying "Oh, I only lost one pound." ( as if that were such a terrible thing!) For you see, if you do this you'll encourage others to keep me around because they will think I'm not worth losing. And I love being around you - your arms, your legs, your chin, your hips and every part of you. Happy Days!! After all, I'm Only One Pound of fat!!!
    1972 days ago
    Good job! You have say the words rightly and they are of great impact. Thanks
    1972 days ago
  • MISSG180
    I've often said that I wouldn't care if I weighed 500 pounds, so long as I fit into a size 12! Weight is the least important measure of our progress, but because it's one of the most concrete we tend to get really obsessed with it.
    1972 days ago
    emoticon emoticon Love this Blog.. and how true it is that we spend so much time looking for what's wrong with ourselves that we forget to look at what's good in ourselves.. :)
    1972 days ago
    This is a very good blog! It take a long time to finally realize our self worth! I'm proud of you for not only discovering how important you are but for realizing you are more than a number on a scale!

    1972 days ago
    I liked your blog. It is so true that we beat ourselves up and you're right we wouldn't take it from anyone else so why should we do it to ourselves. Thanks for writing that. I really enjoyed it. It's food for thought. emoticon
    1972 days ago
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