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The happy and the sad!

Monday, October 01, 2012

MIL's 89th Birthday! This is part of her huge family!

She had 6 children and they all had 2 each except for 1 who had 3 and another who had 1!

Those children have started having children so this photo is a mix. The 3 younger ones in the front are great grand children.

We had a wonderful day. The weather was a bit too warm so we stayed inside and turned on the airconditioner! A small taste of things to come!

I am now going back to Tasmania as my mother is not doing well so I am going to be a support for my younger sister and my step dad. My mother is in an aged care facility and she is in the final stages of dementia. She needs to be given permission to let go and be at peace and without pain!

It is her photo that I have as my back ground to this page . She is probably in her early 40's here!

She immigrated from Holland after WW2 and was in Holland during the famine. She studied to become a pattern maker and dressmaker. She used to design and make coats and wedding dresses for people , she taught all the women in the village we lived in how to sew. She never charged a cent!

I have wonderful memories of her taking us for big long walks when we were children.

The ravages of both rheumatoid and osteo arthritis really affected her health.
when my parents marriage broke up she developed another auto immune disease of the skin and that was devastating. Oh and she also had Tuberculosis after the war and went to a Sanatorium for 2 years! This was before she came out to Australia!

So as you can see my mum is one tuff cookie!

She has survived a mild heart attack, broken neck of femur with an operation to repair it! All in her 80's!

Any way I am off to give her lots of gentle hugs and Kisses and will be as in touch as I can.

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Member Comments About This Blog Post:
_LINDA 10/4/2012 1:03PM

    I apologize for being so late catching up on your blogs, didn't realize how many I missed!
Your poor Mom sure has been through a whole lot :( She is indeed a very strong woman and a great role model to look up to! That is a great photo of your Mom in your background page!
Congrats to your MIL at 89 and her awesome family -wonderful they could all be there to help celebrate!

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IUHRYTR 10/2/2012 8:34PM

    Such a moving story of a brave and strong woman. Too sad all of you have to deal with her dementia. I went through that with my grandmother. It was emotionally draining so prayers for you and your relatives to have the strength your mother had during this time. Please know many people here will keep you in their thoughts. emoticon -- Lou

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KAILYNSTAR 10/2/2012 8:28PM


My heart goes out to you and your family. Extended and all.

Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

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WENDYJM4 10/2/2012 4:16AM

    so sorry to hear about your mother. emoticon

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SUSIEPH1 10/2/2012 2:53AM

    Hi Libby .
Give your darling mother a big hug from me...
She brought up a wonderful daughter and I will never forget the joy and welcome we got from you and graeme when we called in ..

My love is with you my friend ..
Hugs Susie emoticon emoticon emoticon

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BLAIRJ1 10/1/2012 8:54PM

    So sorry to hear about your mum, but what a wonderful woman she is. xo

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CATLADY52 10/1/2012 7:10PM

    I do wish you the best in dealing with the ssibility of losing her. emoticon

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CATHY63RED 10/1/2012 4:29PM

    It is great that your MIL could celebrate with all that family around her.
Don't forget to be kind to yourself as we'll as your Mum, sister and step dad. I have been there when both my parents passed away it is sad but I am glad I was.
Thinking of you emoticon

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BOVEY63 10/1/2012 12:08PM

    So wonderful that you MIL was surrounded by so much family and love on her birthday!
Prayers for your mom, you and your family.

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BUTEAFULL 10/1/2012 11:20AM

    be the loving daughter that you are and keep those wonderful memories of her while looking at her present self (it will be a challenge/frustration), you too are strong

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SLIMMERJESSE 10/1/2012 9:49AM

    Wow, what a strong, special mom you have! Wishing you the best in your journey and giving her the freedom to leave. Very touching.

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RAINBOWFALLS 10/1/2012 9:46AM

    Safe travles and I hope she can go in peace. My mother suffered the same disease and it is very hard on the family too. Your mum is a very tough cookie and sounds like a wonderful mother. Take care emoticon

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GOANNA2 10/1/2012 8:12AM

    It sounds like you will be away for a bit and we will miss you.
Enjoy the time with your mother - she deserves to have both
her daughters with her at this time. You have a big heart Libby.
As you say it will be a mixture of happy and sad times but just
give her lots of cuddles and hugs. She will be able to let go
when she is ready. God bless and My prayers are with you.
Anna emoticon emoticon

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