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I Want To Be That Other Guy.

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Sunday, September 30, 2012

I went for a ride after work on Friday. In a word, simply epic. The path to get to such a place was tough though. I went home knowing that such beautiful days with perfect temps and conditions are going to be few and far between, especially when you lose alot of them working on the off shifts. In spite of my desire to go, i was coming up with every excuse in the world why i couldnt go.

It isnt as simple as just hopping on and going, i have to drive to an area where the road conditions are suitable for a racing bike...ie pot holes, debris, wide shoulder to safely ride etc...

As the number of things i had to do to make this happen mounted, so did the internal resistance, mental bargaining, and exercise promissory notes (ever write yourself any of those?) I finally dragged myself out there....reluctantly.

With my gear and fuel on board, i clipped in and went.

Awkward, unfamiliar, estranged. No woo hoo, just dutifully cranking. My internal environment, uncooperative. Some things you do because you want to, others because if you dont, the opportunity to do so will be lost. I went because I knew I needed to, not because I felt like it. After all, the good weather days up here will be few and far between and will become unpredictable.

Then after a few miles I came face to face with the REAL reason why I do what I do.

It's because of the other guy.

The other guy is who I become when I am engaged in endurance sports. Something happens to me while I'm out there. In ''real life'' I'm a procrastinator, sometimes hairbrained, awkward at times and totally without confidence when it comes to home improvement. Heck, I can't even commit to mowing the lawn until I have to don a safari hat....well it sure seems like it anyway.

But when I'm out there.....

I'm focused, confident, strong and willing to take it to the next level. I produce results whereby I manage to earn my own self respect with a determination that is admirable, even by my own standards.

Almost like Clark Kent finding a phone booth.

Nothing is more empowering that walking away from a swim, a bike, or a run having given it my all, even after a tough day. To be able to do distances with the grace and strength that whispers hope to my heart, that my dream of a Half Ironman is slowly coming true, mile by mile, step by step.

To find the focus that puts me into the zone. Hard to describe this state but if you're even remotely serious about endurance sports, no explanation is necessary. I cannot even begin to tell you the number of times i have mentally run up the finishers chute. The cheers, the clanging of cowbells, the joy that only triumph can bring.

Someday dreams will be reality. To prove that obesity can not only be overcome but it can be dominated, owned, and brought into submission. To do something that fat people aren't expected to do...win.

Things in life will come and go but some things can never be taken from you. One of those is the knowledge that one day you found your inner superhero and overcame the impossible against long odds.

This is who I want to be...I want to be that other guy. When I'm out there, I am him, but I'm only visiting.

I feel the euphoria of a job well done and will talk the ear off anyone who can stand to listen because it is such a big deal to me. It tells the world ''I'm strong'' and reinforces my worth to myself.

Then, in the morning, i get dressed, grab my lunch, and before i boogie out the door i look in the mirror. I am looking at my own reflection through Clark Kent glasses.

Someday, i will outgrow the perscription but for now, i am looking forward to my next visit..with him.

Btw, my ride results... 42 miles in 2hrs 29 minutes. Average speed 16.9 mph, max speed 38.6mph (yes, that was quite a hill!)

Superman would be proud.
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4RASCALS 10/2/2012 2:51AM

    Yeah Robert, you did it. You pushed yourself to do it..look at the results.
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SIBLEYHONEYBEE 10/1/2012 8:43PM

    Wow! Congratulations on a great ride. Keep snatching up those opportunities to go for a ride. IT IS WORTH IT!

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DUXGRL1 10/1/2012 7:57PM

    Great feeling, isn't it?

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CATIATM 10/1/2012 7:53PM

    I know just what you mean. I'm retty pathetic most of the time, but my inner superwoman emerges just often enough to make realize that I could be so much more.

working on it.

Good for you for getting in that ride, overcoming those obstacles!!!!!

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KATHY_NATURELVR 10/1/2012 3:45PM

    Love it Robert.
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RUDITUDI2000 10/1/2012 2:02PM

    Beautifully put!!!!
Awesome job...you have what it takes to get to the finish! So excited for you as you continue on your journey! emoticon

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NIGHTSKYSTAR 10/1/2012 12:21PM

    i'm proud too!! YOU ROCK!!! Great job, Robert, made greater because you MADE yourself do it, then got into it after a bit!!

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STHAX10 10/1/2012 11:06AM

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STEPHM-ARATHON 10/1/2012 10:04AM

    I think you're exactly right. I recently had to complete a personality analysis for work and it was difficult! Because it is like having a split personality. I couldn't mark yes or no to any of the questions. Do I have grit and determination? Yes...to training and running. To work goals? To completing mundane tasks around the house? Not so much. I think my results were skewed.

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CHANGINGSAM 10/1/2012 9:48AM

    I, too, can relate! emoticon

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LIV2RIDE 10/1/2012 9:22AM

    I tend to get that way at the end of the year. Sunday was perfect. Started at 50 degrees at 6am and didn't get above 65. Not too hot and not too cold. I pushed myself out the door and within 3 miles I was on top of the world. Sometimes you just need that little push to have an awesome experience. Way to go on the times! One of these days I should work on my speed.

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AUTUMNBRZ 10/1/2012 7:29AM

    I can totally relate. I feel like 2 separate people much of the time too. I have healthy, enthusiastic, eager Carrie and just Carrie. lol

Great job on your ride! :)

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FRACKTHATNOISE 10/1/2012 7:02AM

    So proud of you, my friend. Keep your head up and your eyes focused on the prize and there is nothing that you cannot accomplish.

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123ELAINE456 10/1/2012 1:52AM

  Awesome Blog!!! Congratulations on your 42 Mile Ride. You are doing Great. Keep It up!!! God Bless You and Have a Wonderful Week.

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GOING-STRONG 10/1/2012 12:12AM

    Well done... you are doing awesome!
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NANHBH 10/1/2012 12:10AM

    Indeed Superman WOULD be proud! Great blog. Great ride, Clark!
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GINA180847 9/30/2012 10:34PM

    I love your analogy to the Clark Kent/Superman persona. Some days I feel like that, it all depends on wether I got enough sleep or not and I like the weather to be pleasant. If it is all in place I am invincible but just about anything puts me off. I also like the left/right brain stuff, it makes sense. Marvelous when it all falls in place.

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REALLY_ROBIN 9/30/2012 9:15PM

    Robert...after you told me your results of your ride...I had my cycle day at the gym. I do a half our of cycling and then my weight routine. At four minutes in I realized if I kicked my pace up I could be doing 4 minute miles. The next 26 minutes was with dogged determination to make up the 45 second gap. I ended up 15 seconds off. Cycling does make you a beast!!! Way to go Iron Man....you've got this!!!

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ANANDA82 9/30/2012 9:08PM

    I love your blogs! These sports make us feel invincible, on top of the world, superheroes as you said. It would be great to incorporate this feeling in other aspects of our lives... and I'm sure we will.
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AMANDAROX 9/30/2012 9:04PM

    Nice! Sometimes you gotta drag yourself out there, but by time your done it was totally worth it!!

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MAGGIENCALI 9/30/2012 8:10PM

    I've been feeling that way while preparing for my first full marathon. It's like I become a whole other person....determined, focused, almost invincible (almost). Here's to your inner superhero, Robert emoticon emoticon emoticon

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KATHIC2 9/30/2012 8:08PM

  Great blog! You are an accomplished cyclist; 16.9 mph average rocks!

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KATHIC2 9/30/2012 8:08PM

  Great blog! You are an accomplished cyclist; 16.9 mph average rocks!

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ROXYZMOM 9/30/2012 8:00PM

    I call it "getting in the zone". What you described happens to me a lot with running. But a half a mile in I am "in the zone".

I read something - I think in the Jeff Galloway "preparing for the Half Marathon" book about what you are describing. He explains that the left side of your brain is
logical and tries to talk you into stopping, quitting, not pushing your limits. The right side of the brain is creative. He says to use the right side to talk the left side
Into keep going in increments. For example: your left side tells you to stop, your body is tired" - with your right side brain say" ok. I will bike three more miles then stop". Then when you get to the three miles say "ok. Let's just go down around the bend". And so on.

Hope that made sense. That's what I do when my left brain is complaining! My right brain wins out every time!!

Stay in the zone!!

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FITFOODIE806 9/30/2012 7:29PM

    Nice ride!!!! And just so you know, you are that other guy to me. Ben when you write about your stresses, fears and work troubles. I see you as a go getter, a confidant guy, an athlete. You're THAT guy!!!

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CJOHNSTON2001 9/30/2012 6:24PM

  I am so inpressed by you,what a great blog,you should be very proud of yourself,you are your own motivater!!!keep up the good work emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MUSOLF6 9/30/2012 5:33PM

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LIGHTNINGRUNNER 9/30/2012 5:29PM

    So pleased for you that you got out there and became the other you.

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ADAGIO_CON_BRIO 9/30/2012 4:59PM

    What a great blog entry. You are that other guy when you blog on Spark People and when you find the time and the place. You can, I hope, focus and learn how to tap into that guy on inclement days or in inconvenient places. emoticon

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NESARIAN 9/30/2012 4:32PM

    Here you are being your own motivational coach and I am so motivated by your all successes and wisdom also! I love your alter ego! You inspire me to search for mine now. Next time I do not "feel like it," I will put on my Wonder Woman suit and think of you!
As always, thank you for walking us through how you stay so successful. emoticon

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LINDAKAY228 9/30/2012 4:31PM

    I know how hard it can be sometimes to get over the mental obstacles to get out and do whatever it is. For you its biking. Sometimes for me it's running or hiking. But I also know the awesome feeling that develops once it's really underway and when finished. Glad you fought the guy you think you are in day to day l life and became the guy that you are out on the road. That guy really is you, he just has to be let out more often.

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STRIVERONE 9/30/2012 4:02PM

    I guess your body has completely adjusted to the fit of your new bike. Enjoy the autumn weather. "Baggies over your socks time" is coming.

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CASSIOEPIA 9/30/2012 3:43PM

    I know about having less chances to ride at this time of year. The days are much shorter, and I'm a little fearful of all the hunters in our area. But when I get on that bike, I too am a different woman.

Go Superman, go!

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LOGOULD 9/30/2012 3:38PM

    Superman would be proud, and I"M PROUD TO!!! Of you, of me, of all of us! Those who dare to defy what we previously knew to be true of ourselves and make those changes that will transform us into something we never dared dream before!

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LIVEDAILY 9/30/2012 3:34PM

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I don't do endurance sports, but of course I compete with the "negative nellie" that lurks in me. It is a PITA to drag myself to the gym, BUT, once I'm there I am always glad I came!! We have to learn to tell that negative part of ourselves where to go!
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Congrats on an amazing ride!


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DALID414 9/30/2012 3:32PM

    You made ME want to be that other guy, and I'm a girl! emoticon

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MRSDAVIS09 9/30/2012 3:26PM

    Way to go overcoming the excuses! You are going to get there, and you are always that other guy, whether you see it or not. You are a finisher :)

God Bless!

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SCHNEBL 9/30/2012 3:25PM

    Great job.....I share your frustrations of not having a safe place to ride. I only live about five miles from a local metro park but it is certainly not safe to ride there...ugh. You keep up the good work and we'll all be cheering for you when you run through that finishers chute after doing your half Ironman.....

Keep fighting the good fight!

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TRILLIUM22 9/30/2012 3:14PM

    I'm always annoyed that it is so hard to get somewhere to go for a good ride. I mean here I have a perfectly good form of transportation and I'm loading it on the back of a car. Good job going out for the ride, great pace. I hope you are wearing a helmet, speeding down those hills.

Remember that other guy is always with you.

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TAMMYINPA 9/30/2012 2:58PM

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As always you are amaziing. I love reading all of your blogs.

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GAMEON123 9/30/2012 2:35PM

    Awesome ride!!
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LDRICHEL 9/30/2012 2:30PM

    I'm so glad you recognize that these long rides and tough workouts are a prescription. I know you pretty well and I always wondered if you were aware of this pattern. To acknowledge that you are searching for feelings of self-worth in your athletic endeavors is a really big step for you.

But it's like I've told you so many times before, Robert...you are special and worth fighting for and you always have been. No ride or run or workout will ever be the reason. You are special apart from anything you do...because you were made beautifully in His image. Are you getting this? The same beauty that you see now after a ride like that was there when you weighed in at 385 lbs. YOU are worthy. YOU are strong. YOU are beautiful. You always have been.

You will reach your Ironman goal...but THAT is not what will define you. YOU define you. And YOU are amazing.

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LINDAK25 9/30/2012 2:28PM

    Wow! emoticon

(Why are there no superhero emoticons!?! There's a pirate and even a hula dancer, there aught to be a superhero!) My husband wants us to start riding bikes together (not like your biking). I don't know where we would ride them. The roads around here are narrow with no shoulder, just a drainage ditch down each sided! Not too many hills, though.

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ALIHIKES 9/30/2012 2:27PM

    What a great blog. We all need to aspire to be our best selves! emoticon

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RUNNERRACHEL 9/30/2012 2:24PM

    You ARE that guy! You are Superman. You are in disguise when you are Clark Kent...your true identity is your superhero status. emoticon

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MIMOTOGO 9/30/2012 2:21PM

    Great job Robert! WooHOO! Your story is so familiar, when I am able to do it, I am so there with you. I understand how the transformation happens and the clarity of thought matches the action. So cool to be there. I am a work in progress, have to take care of things so the injury doesn't happen. I am the slow and steady snail. Taking my time, but I will get there with you. Your a great inspiration and we love your journey. Keep up the GREAT WORK! Very impressive.
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COOP9002 9/30/2012 2:21PM

    I would agree with Jaotao. You are that guy. Great job.

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DIANER2014 9/30/2012 2:19PM

    I'm impressed. You did an awesome job! Love your blog! Oh! and BTW you are that guy! Have a great Sunday and week! emoticon emoticon

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ONEKIDSMOM 9/30/2012 2:18PM

    Identify... for sure with being "different" when doing certain activities! Go, Iron man! Speaking of which, two weeks to Iron Man Kona! As a fan, I'm puzzled. I thought they were always done under a full moon, and it's scheduled for the dark of the moon this time! The late finishers will have a dark run!

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