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Feels so nice to be healthy

Saturday, September 29, 2012

Today I attended a family day at my husband's lodge. I felt so good in my skin. My butt looks fantastic in these jeans, which doesn't hurt.

All of the women there are overweight (myself included.) I made sure to compliment one friend who has clearly done something... she looks a lot better!

It felt good to know I was making healthier choices in a situation where there really WERE no healthy choices. burger, hot dogs, chips... not a veggie in sight.

But I had my one hot dog. Light on the condiments. Piece of cheese. I had some cheese balls, but just a few. I didn't finish my pepsi (there was only Mt Dew and Pepsi to drink. Literally.) I had just enough to wash the food down.

I was disappointed that my husband chose to gorge a bit, but I didn't say anything. He had two hamburgers (bacon cheeseburgers, no less.) A giant hot dog. THREE servings of cheese balls, at least, PLUS a small back of ruffles. Two pepsis.

I worry so much about him. He's trying, but sometimes I think he doesn't think about what he's doing. I wish I could do more, but I know that nagging him won't help. It'll just make him feel guiltier.

So I'm down another pound. A little bloaty after a pizza hut day a few days ago, but comfortable in the clothes I'm wearing.

I am progressing well on decluttering. I need to do more in the bedroom... I was going to wait until tomorrow, but you know? I have a couple hours before the next family engagement, so I think I'll go through some stuff in the bedroom.

Potentially interesting experience coming: one of my daughter's hispanic friends is having a birthday party this afternoon. Her family has invited us, and I enthusiastically accepted the invitation. I love her mom to death. They're a great family! I can't wait to go. It could be a culturally different thing, or it may be exactly like what I'm used to. :) Can't wait to see, either way. New friends, fun times!
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    I used to eat like that when I got around free food. It goes beyond not knowing or caring about calories to a feasting pattern, I guess. Fortunately such opportunities do not arise everyday.
    1969 days ago
    It is nice when you not only feel good, but others can see it too. You are doing great.
    1970 days ago
  • MPLANE37
    Often if you insist to much on something, it backfires. Somehow you need to make it look like it is his choice to make a lifestyle change, by preparing the right conditions for him to make this choice.
    1972 days ago
    Nice job! emoticon

    It's so hard to keep on track when everybody seems to be derailed or when it seems there is no healthy option. Yet, you managed to succeed! emoticon

    I hope you enjoyed yourselves at the party and your daughter had a great time!
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    1973 days ago
    All the best, on your SparkPeople journey !
    1973 days ago
    Have you considered talking to the person who puts on the events at the lodge and asking for healthier options? Even if all they do is provide a veggie tray it gives you better options. Between you and the other person who is looking healthier and putting a few veggies on your hubby's plate you could make a good dent in the veggies. Showing them that people are eating it should help them bringing the veggies back. If nothing else, how about offering to bring a veggie plate and maybe a fruit plate too. Again, showing them that people will eat it may help them realize it's worth providing it.

    As for your husband, have you talked to him about your concerns? If you approach it as an honest conversation about your concerns instead of 'I expect you to do this because I said so' it might help. In that case, remind yourself you're not nagging him, you're expressing your concern and wants for him to be around and healthy to have a long, happy life together. Sure, it's up to him to make his choices, but that doesn't mean you can't make the point how seeing him hurting his life span and body is affecting you. Heck, let him know that you'll be a big part of his changes - walking/working out with him, making the food and helping portion it out for him, etc. Making it easier for him to be healthy than it is to be unhealthy (like if he wants to eat more he has to make it himself) might help give him a kick in the behind.
    1973 days ago
    Good for you, you strong, strong woman, YOU! I empathize with you -- and your husband's plight. It's just so hard to resist high fat, high sodium, high sugar foods when they're right in front of you -- and very few always-thin people understand what an endless, lonely battle it is, every single meal, every single day.

    Hey, you haven't updated your full-front photo since March - bet you look even better now! Your profile pic is awesome!
    1973 days ago
    I usually end up bringing a veggie tray so there will be something for me to eat if I'm going to an event where I'm not sure there will be healthy choices. Good for you that you stuck to your eating plan. It is easy to just throw in the towel when you get somewhere like this, good for you that you HELD FAST!
    1973 days ago
    It's tough to affect someone else when you're trying to improve you (their) health. When my father had a tumor on his spinal chord and could only press 90 pounds with his legs he got serious, and dropped about 100 pounds. He would try to council me a few times, but I didn't listen. Then, many years later, when my knee really hurt, I got the message, at least for a couple of years and about 70 pounds. A few years later I had a neurologist who had a fit and was yelling in my face - so I yelled back and demanded to know what weight I had to get to. He told me, I did it, and made a miraculous recovery. Unfortunately, I did ruin my body of about a40 or 50 year period by eating like your husband just did. And I enjoyed every minute of it. Now I wish I had been smarter then, but I can't go back.

    It's every man for himself, and the best thing you can do is to set a good example.

    1973 days ago
    Sounds like you did well under the conditions. I do have to question if you HAD to drink fizzy drink... Did they not have a tap? Or is the water not safe to drink from the tap? I sometimes take for granted that I could walk into any house in NZ and have safe drinking water
    1973 days ago
    Is it me or is it weird they didn't serve ANY healthy food at your husband's meeting? I mean most people like a bit of salad with their burgers don't they? Or a gherkin? good for you staying in control though tbh faced with food like that I wouldn't have been too tempted myself (says the woman who's eaten pasta twice today).
    1973 days ago
    Sounds like you had a good time and stayed under control. Good job!
    1973 days ago
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