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Creating A Mindful Plan For Ourselves

Saturday, September 22, 2012

Being overweight is not a punishment for some past transgression. Youíre nodding your head in agreement but the first time there is a misstep the mind monkeyís start making all those monkey noises and suddenly youíre reliving the second grade when you pilfered your best friendís dessert. Iím not preaching, Iíve been there and I have done that. When I joined Spark close to three years ago and lost weight in massive chunks I was, as Travis Tritt once sang ďTen feet tall and bullet proof.Ē I was never going to hit one of them there plateau things nor was I going to ever regain any weight either. Wanna know whatís worse? I would sorta-kinda look down my nose at those folks who did have ďissues.Ē Poor people, they just didnít get it. Well, my plateau lasted close to two years and did I tell you during that time of self-punishment I regained all the weight Iíd lost?

We punish ourselves for so many things that go beyond our control. We are overweight for a variety of reasons but lack of character and moral fiber isnít one of them. (I know lottsa skinny people who are mean.) When things donít go as planned we donít look at adjusting the plan to suit our own circumstances we immediately stare at the floor and pull out the whip and begin telling ourselves to ďDo better,Ē whatever that is. I mean, we had to do something wrong, right? If we hadnít then weíd be like all the beautiful people we envy so often.

Question for you, do you ever take your car to the mechanic, tell him your check engine light is on and then proceed to let him know it probably happened because of something you did when you were 18? Nope, you let him diagnosis the problem, repair the car. You ask what caused the situation. You donít pull over to the curb and look in the rear view mirror and say ďYou nasty, nasty person you!!!!!Ē This journey is yours and yours alone. Itís like going to buy a suit or a dress. We all donít walk around wearing the same thing because our tastes are different and some things fit other people better than others.

We stumble, we fall and get back up and say ďHmmmmmm what do I need to adjust here?Ē Real health is about establishing mindful behavior. Itís about looking at yourself, no matter how painful that process may be and making corrections to move you towards balance. Iím in the middle of that process. I am an emotional eater. I have started asking myself, why? I wonít bore you with all the details but Iíve found my thoughts and ideas are linked to my behavior. Tara Brach writes that things that are real arenít always true. We may feel hurt and alone and engage in all kinda of destructive behavior because we believe that we are not capable of being loved. The feelings are true and real. We hurt, we suffer and we are in pain. Are we unlovable? Uhmmmm, no. As long as there is a Divine Presence in this universe we are bound and joined by love. Our pain is real; our reasons for being in pain arenít always true.

Okay, enough Saturday philosophy. That will teach Joan to leave home all alone while she goes to a craft show!!! (I know I coulda gone but Iím not in a crafty mood today.) I tell you all this stuff to illustrate a behavior. I changed my weigh in date from Sunday to Saturday. It fits my schedule and my comfort level much better and I just feel more relaxed doing it that way. I listened to myself and my body and soul. I became mindful to the real purpose of this journey. Itís for me to be happy and healthy. They go hand in hand.
Weight loss is not a punishment and nutrition should not be a restriction because we donít see ourselves as other people see us. It is our loving practice of making the whole us all we can be and during that process we find the real love inside of us.

So I weighed myself this morning and there is two pounds less of me then there was Sunday. Itís almost inconsequential. Iím learning so much more the second time through. Itís all about me. You Too!!!! Listen to yourself, love who you are and then go out there and light a dark corner with one of your best smiles.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
SPARKENISTA 9/28/2012 8:26PM

    You certainly make some great points here, as usual. I am really having a problem with my weight lately. Of course, I need a reason for this apart from eating too much.

I had a hunch an googled the medication I'm on. Sure enough, others are having the same problem. I'm going to have to speak to my doctor. Very frustrating.

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JANIEWWJD 9/26/2012 7:57PM

    I loved your blog. Weight loss is a positive thing. Keep up the good work!!!!
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FITBODME 9/25/2012 12:15PM

    Weight loss is not a punishment and nutrition should not be a restriction because we donít see ourselves as other people see us.

This is going to stick with me today, thanks John! I was searching for a blog that would help get me back on track emoticon

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 9/24/2012 5:05PM

    Love your blogs! Thanks for posting this!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 9/24/2012 10:45AM

    The all or nothing attitude gets us nowhere. We will have set backs just like in other areas of our lives and we have to accept them with grace, try to correct our failings, and move on. Congratulations on the weight loss.

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MARCYNA 9/23/2012 1:27PM

    I agree!!!!!I normally tend to lose weight when I stop punishing myself and let myself free to follow my body's instructions., thanks for ths blog!!!

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KATHIC2 9/23/2012 10:59AM

  Words to live by.

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NASFKAB 9/23/2012 8:28AM

  thanks great blog

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KELLYPAQ 9/23/2012 7:43AM

    CartoonB, funny comment about feeding the skinny people. You may be onto something. John, good post. I'm glad I found your blog.

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LYNMEINDERS 9/23/2012 12:02AM

    A big Amen to this blog John

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CARTOONB 9/22/2012 11:13PM

    What was Joan thinking, leaving you alone? Doesn't she know that you need constant supervision? emoticon

Great post, as always.

BTW, skinny people who are mean are just hungry. Feed them.

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    Great post. I'm also an emotional eater and really can relate to this post. Thanks for sharing and letting His light shine through.

Peace -

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ANDASI 9/22/2012 7:53PM

    Excellent blog. Lot of truths here. A journey of exploration trial and error and success and through it all having patients love and understanding with yourself.
Many answers lie within and around us waking to them and being receptive to them is a gift.


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JEANNETTE59 9/22/2012 4:11PM

  Another emoticon Blog

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DEBRITA01 9/22/2012 4:00PM

    Figuring out the Why is an important piece of the puzzle...until then, we are destined to repeat the behaviors. Another good blog, John...thanks. emoticon

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MEME102 9/22/2012 2:20PM

    Thanks for your great blog and insight!! I, too, have fallen off the wagon one too many times and would let it override any other thought process I might have! I am s-l-o-w-l-y learning that I can do this but with COMMITTMENT (hence my blog I'm being Committed) I had the motivation to change - but I couldn't commit to it longer than 1,2, 3 days or if I was lucky even 5!! I am on Day 7 of my commitment now -- and I intend to keep it. Reading words you've shared will help!

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JENAE954 9/22/2012 2:02PM

  Thanks for the wise words.

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    Thank you again John.
Love the Go out and light a dark corner with one of your bright smiles.

I have been a bit sad today. I had a mild difference of opinion with a friend(my scale) It gave me back 2 pounds that I don't think I should of had returned to me)

I am not going to let it rule my day. I am going to keep doing all the right things, planning healthy meals and exercising. I know next week the scale will reflect my committment to myself in a more favorable way.

God Bless you and May he keep Lighting your pathway. emoticon

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NEWMOM20121 9/22/2012 12:36PM

    Well said.

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ONEKIDSMOM 9/22/2012 12:33PM

    "As long as there is a Divine Presence in this universe we are bound and joined by love. Our pain is real; our reasons for being in pain arenít always true."

Deep and apropos! Thanks for this one.

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REGILIEH 9/22/2012 12:27PM


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