Friday, September 21, 2012
So, I just need to vent a little. Maybe this is something others besides myself have experienced.
I hate it when someone presumes to tell me what I should or shouldn't think or what I should or shouldn't feel.
Whenever I vent to someone, I get "oh, cheer up, it's not that bad." Or, "you shouldn't get so angry," or (my favorite), "you need to just get over it & move on." Then there are those who see this as an opportunity to not only tell me about their own problems, but try to out-do me with "my problem is so much worse than yours."
I think these people believe they mean well, but it frustrates me. One of the reasons for my emotional binging over the years is that I have been stuffing my real feelings down because they seem to make others uncomfortable.
I can't do that anymore.
I love my family & friends, & the last thing I want to accomplish is to alienating anyone. I know most of them think they're helping, but . . . .
Am I the only one who is tired of being criticized for having feelings about something that someone else thinks you shouldn't, simply because THEY DON'T feel that way?