So much of what I deal with today, started with words.
Let’s forget about body image for a second…I’m talking real world right now.
I have a weight problem; I wear my flaw on the outside. There is no real way to camouflage that weakness. Sometimes, I’m good at dressing to look slimmer…but I can’t hide it from myself. I see myself naked in the mirror (I know …you didn’t need that mental image, but live with it…this is my blog). To thine own self be true.
There are all kinds of people in the world…some are dumber than others.
And of the less intelligent population of the species comes:
The CLUELESS who don’t know the right way to say something …but mean well
The HYENAS who do know what they are saying … and like to be funny at your expense
The VULTURES who know what they are saying…and enjoy feeding off of your pain
The SNAKES who know how to imply something without directly saying it…and intentionally hurt people because that’s who they are.
I’ve had them all in my life…I’m guessing these are also familiar to you.
I can talk to the CLUELESS and try reasoning with them. And sometimes it does work…Sometimes. But human nature being what it is…flawed…I may have to deal with this over and over. So I choose not to get myself all worked up, and pay the price…I brush it off and realize, I’m dealing with a benign idiot.
Sometimes I try communicating with the HYENAS…but more often than not, these parasites feign the guise of ‘only kidding’, so it’s not worth the effort. I mention that it’s not funny to me, and I don’t appreciate it…but insensitive people hear only what they want to hear…and …the rest is history.
I try to steer clear of VULTURES. I find these sadistic people are spiritually corrupt...and I have no use for them. They are the bullies of this world. They have internal issues they can’t deal with so they take it out on what THEY consider easy prey. I can’t deal with their crap. I keep my distance…because I am a pressure cooker…I simmer quietly until I explode. But when I simmer…I try to ‘anesthetize’ my anger with…you guessed it … eating. I don’t trade potshots with them…I don’t bother keeping company with them.
The MASTER of this jungle is the SNAKE. These are the worst of the villians because they attack and leave you bleeding and you don’t even realize you’ve been cut. They use subtle put downs quietly aimed at keeping you still while they fill you with negative toxic words that echo in your head long after they leave the scene. What you are left with, is a self loathing that has no place being there. These people can’t stand THEMSELVES…so they want to infect others with their own venom. They feed on your pain. It took me a lifetime to recognize this type of person. You can find their fingerprint on your psyche, by how you feel after they leave. And if you find yourself feeling worthless, demeaned, depressed, and hating yourself after being with someone…and YOU didn’t do anything…chances are you’ve been poisoned. I want nothing to do with these people.
And no matter how smart you are…you sometimes find yourself doing the same to others. I do not want to become one of these people. I try hard to recognize that behavior and stop myself immediately.
So where am I going with this?
Words have the power to hurt…or heal.
If you keep echoing the negative thoughts in your head, they will keep bouncing around in there until they destroy your dreams.
You have to STOP that.
Silence the put downs and lies…and fill that space with hopes and dreams and the knowledge that YOU are worthy and strong and You CAN do this.
PUSH THAT TUSH -- because you're worth it