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The F Word

Thursday, September 20, 2012

Did you know we are hard wired for survival? It goes back to primitive times when literally walking out your front door was a coin toss. Our bodies and minds adapted to those circumstances and as we evolved as human beings we were taught that survival was our top priority. Hopefully there is no one waiting for us outside our front door this morning. We’ve morphed in a way, though. We view each challenge, and each new experience as a threat to our security. If we’re not on top then we are surely on the bottom. Ever heard the saying, “Second place is first loser?” Since there are no dinosaurs around to snatch us off the front yard we look for other ways to satiate our survival instinct. We even use our kids. They have to be smarter, prettier, more athletic and popular than the kid next door because if they’re not, well they “won’t get ahead.” (Whatever that is!)

Okay, enough of the rant. I could go on for days telling you things you already know and some of you are starting to feel your survival mechanism beginning to kick in. So I have a question for you. It pertains to this journey we are traveling on together. You know this march towards health? Are ya having fun? Are ya looking for new ways to replace the old behaviors and are ya treatin’ them like an adventure rather than an obligation? I’m not talking about running around grinning from ear to ear. I’m talking about plain old down in the dirt fun?

Come close I’ll whisper a secret to you. I tried doing this without a lot of fun and I failed. I got close to my goal weight and because I hadn’t replaced a number of negative and unhealthy thoughts with fun activities and adventure…………..

Lemme put it this way: You pull all the weeds from the garden before you plant your flowers, right? Otherwise the flowers don’t grow. We put our minds and bodies through a bit-o-hell when we decide to become healthy. We “remove,” we “take away.” What do we replace it with other than carrots, celery and fruit? Because we are hard wired to survive after a bit our bodies take back over unless……….

We have to weed the garden, till the soil and ENJOY it. Slowly the weeds die out and they are replaced by an amazing bouquet of flowers. We don’t say, “I used to have weeds there!” We care and tend the flowers and we have fun doing it.

So maybe you had a gain this week, maybe the scale didn’t move or maybe the siren song of ice cream was too hard to resist. It’s over, it’s done and you can’t change the past. Smile and look for something energize you.
Go have fun and don’t worry a lot about survival, unless a dinosaur pokes his head in your kitchen window tonight and tries to snatch you up.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
TRIANGLE-WOMAN 9/22/2012 9:13AM

    A dinosaur might make me move a little quicker, but it probably would not be too much fun.

Thanks for the reminder....


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THESLIMMERME1 9/22/2012 12:50AM

    emoticon food for thought! emoticon emoticon

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NASFKAB 9/21/2012 10:48PM

  great blog thanks

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THEHAPPYSUSAN 9/21/2012 6:00PM

    Oh, John, what an awesome blog today! I can so relate to weeding the garden because it seems as though I did a lot of that this summer, and more weeds remain! I enjoy the dickens out of a freshly weeded yard and using that analogy for my journey to health is perfect. I need to plan better, stick-to-it better, believe in myself better. Thank you for the inspiration! emoticon

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GALINAZ 9/21/2012 1:58PM

    You are a wonderful writer! I'm thinking a lot more about how to "play" each day

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MORTICIAADDAMS 9/21/2012 12:48PM

    I discovered long ago that I'm not too good at suffering so for me to do an exercise or even a certain diet it has to be fun for me. Otherwise my tiny attention span leads me astray.

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DR8561 9/21/2012 12:16PM

    I needed that today. emoticon

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KELLYPAQ 9/21/2012 5:45AM

    You helped me to start my day with a smile on my face. Thank you

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LYNMEINDERS 9/21/2012 1:55AM

    I ,love it...thankyou so much for writing this.....this is freedom

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JANIEWWJD 9/20/2012 11:32PM

    Very well said!! Have a great day tomorrow and God bless you!!!!
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CARTOONB 9/20/2012 10:05PM

    Excellent plan. I will enjoy my garden.

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JENAE954 9/20/2012 8:53PM

  Love the idea of the weeding of the mind before replanting.
Thanks much!

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JEANNETTE59 9/20/2012 3:22PM

  emoticon blog

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SGRAY478 9/20/2012 2:35PM

    I like the idea of weeding the garden of our minds before re-planting. Well said John!!

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FITBODME 9/20/2012 1:16PM

    Thanks John, I'm going to have some fun today choosing and eating a healthy lunch. emoticon

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CRYSTALJEM 9/20/2012 1:13PM

    Really liked this and you are so right! I like how you pointed out about what we are striving for (e.g. the kid analogy) only to realize that "whatever that means". How often don't we say things exactly like that without giving any thought to what it really means to us, or to others. Too much of life is just "filler" for the sake of "filling" whether it's thoughts, food or wasted activity and opportunity. Just incase, though, I'm keeping my eyes peeled for dinosaurs. lol.

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DEBRITA01 9/20/2012 12:05PM

    Sometimes we have to let our inner child loose and have fun. I loved the garden analogy, too. emoticon

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ADELE66 9/20/2012 11:24AM

    I absolutely love the garden analogy! And I am completely with you!

Adele (planting flowers as we speak!)

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SLIMLEAF 9/20/2012 10:42AM

    Hello John.
I'm tentatively posting on Spark People again and I like your blog.
Thought you'd like to know.
Slimleaf / Lindsay

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 9/20/2012 10:22AM

    Great way to look at things! I always enjoy your blogs.

Hey, maybe the ice cream is today's "dinosaur!" emoticon (closest to a dinosaur they had! ) RAWR!

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STEADFASTNSEE 9/20/2012 10:17AM

  Having FUN on this journey; or another way to see it JOY-filled Journey. Good idea. Maybe that's why I gained back. Hmm.

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PATTERD707 9/20/2012 10:13AM

    I've had the privilege of marrying two family members (via internet ordination) and in both I talked about a marriage being like a garden (you have to weed it, and feed it). I think our inner self is like a garden too, as you've alluded to it.

I also like the idea of "getting over" the concept that it's bad to weed, that we should be "above that" or "beyond that now." That's just our inner self trying to trick us, maybe for the survival-type reasons you mentioned above.

Thanks for your blog.

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