How Much Have You Lost/How Does It Feel?

Monday, September 17, 2012

So I know I haven’t been active much on SP and haven’t blogged in months but I am still here and still on my weightloss journey. Has my road been perfect? No. But the fact is I'm still motivated and still losing…

What I wanted to blog in this post is the fact that now, my weightloss is starting to feel like something I wish everyone would just stop asking me about. For example, I had a vacation in the summer where I went to Puerto Rico for a family reunion. I had a lot of family that hadn’t seen me in over a year and they kept asking me questions: “how much have you lost, how do you feel now etc.” Now these questions aren’t new to me as every now and then ill see some family friend or acquaintance I hadn’t seen for a while and they’ll ask me the same thing. How do I answer these questions you ask? I simply say “Ive lost a lot but have more to lose” and “I feel healthy.” I never disclose how much ive lost because I don’t feel comfortable stating the fact that yes not only was I more than 100lbs overweight, but I still have more to lose. So instead I circle around the answer and they usually just guestimate on their own without me confirming it. The reason I'm blogging about this is the same thing happened again this weekend. I went to a family birthday party and there were people who hadn’t seen me in a while , and instead of focusing on my uncles birthday all anyone could talk about was how great I looked and how did I do it etc. And the same 2 questions popped up. All I could do was smile and say thanks. Does anyone feel embarrassed when anyone you hadn’t seen in a while has brought up multiple questions about your weight?

p.s. I still have 24lbs to lose till I get to my goal weight of 157. Wish me luck!
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    I can understand what you're saying. I tell people the actual number I've lost all the time, and I do feel weird sometimes admitting I have lost 144 pounds. It's just strange. I am glad you're doing so well. My weight loss is very slow since I started the half marathon training. I am hungry all the time! I can barely go over my calories and I gain weight. It doesn't make sense, but I am of course never going to give up.
    2007 days ago
    I'm like you, other than my closest friends and my mom (and well, you guys) no one knows how much I lost or how much I have to lose. It's nice that they notice your weight loss, but at a certain point you start to feel like just a number. Instead of being you, you're the girl who lost 100 pounds. They mean well, but unless they've been in your position, they can't understand how annoying those questions can become.

    I think you're going about it the right way, because no one needs to know the number that you lost. That's like saying to someone, Hi, you're hot, how many people have you slept with? It's rude and it's no one's business but your own and they should respect that.

    By the way, congrats on your success so far, and I know that you'll reach your goal.

    2013 days ago
  • GLC2009
    it's better than when you haven't seen someone for a long time and they say it looks like you've GAINED alot of weight!! emoticon
    2013 days ago
  • ERIN1957
    Not me, I am proud what I have done and want people to ask and I will tell them straight out and take the compliment and live happier.
    Finally through all my emotional baggage and my eating I am doing something right.
    I love the idea that I may also help someone else.
    I have 24 pounds to go. When that comes off I will still continue to be proud of all the hard work I have done and health changes I have made.
    I also have changed the lives of my husband and daughter who is 14. We believe in what we are doing and want people to know, hopefully they can make changes as well. I LOVE IT!
    My very best to you and always remember to enjoy your journey!
    ~Erin emoticon
    2013 days ago
    I am starting to know what you mean as well. So far I've lost 40lbs and it's just now getting to the point where everyone is noticing. I am typically a humble person by nature so it's been a little overwhelming at times when I receive a lot of compliments. I really relate to that comment someone made about not being able to hide behind the weight anymore.

    It's always going to be a part of you, but the weight loss doesn't define who you are. Just remember that your weight loss can be such an inspiration for other people. I still go on here and love to look at before and after pics and read success stories because that is what gave me the motivation to know I could do this too:) emoticon
    2014 days ago
    I know how you feel!! When I lost my weight I lived in Ohio and I had worked at the same place for 10 years so people knew me as the morbidly obese Marie to the skinny Marie. It became my identity!! And I got really tired of talking about it and having everyone else talk about it. But it started to calm down as the years went on but then I moved to Texas. In Texas, nobody knew me as the morbidly obese Marie. Suddenly that important part of my life and identity (that others knew and saw) was gone. It was then difficult for me because I still feel like people here in Texas don't really know me. But that is a problem I'm trying to work on within myself, because I shouldn't put so much emphasis on my weight as part of my identity. I shouldn't be offended that people don't "know me" just because they didn't know the "fat me." So I'm realizing that it's not only a problem externally, but it's also an internal problem. You should be so much more than your weight loss. You're doing the right thing by realizing this now!
    And congratulations on all of your success!! I nominated your for Spark Motivator... you are awesome!
    2014 days ago
    I'm actually looking forward to that day...hasn't happened for me yet. But...I've only lost 12 lbs so far. I'm sure they'll get used to the "new" you in time and will stop asking about it. Good luck on the24!
    2014 days ago
    So far, I dont mind. It is a medal of honor, I wear with pride. :)

    But I know what you mean. I dont think it has ever overshadowed whatever the main event was, but I am frequently asked. Mostly ppl want to know how... and then wait for me to hand them the magic beans.
    2014 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/17/2012 10:38:46 AM
    I know right!? It's like a) you are proud of yourself and don't mind talking about it on here, but b) in public its embarrassing to admit it.

    So what I've done is to just say it. Just say it out loud, and everyone will be impressed. I usually get "oh I never realized you had that much to lose." One person asked me this weekend why I started and I apparently was too honest ;-) I made them blush and they didn't ask me any other questions.

    Just take it with a grain of salt. People have a picture of you in their head, and when they don't see you that way anymore a part of their brain is going "wait, what?!" Its their unconscious response to ask, because they're probably either jealous or proud of what you have done.
    2014 days ago
    Meh. It's a lot like beating cancer. You give people hope by your example, but you just DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT ANYMORE!

    You have a "good problem" here. You don't really want to talk about it, but now you're a role model, whether you meant to be or not.

    Wait. It gets worse. For the rest of your life people will be watching to see if you gain it back.


    This is one of the reasons that some people become actually "afraid" to lose all the weight, because they can't hide behind it anymore and people now hold them to a higher standard of wellness and beauty.

    "Good problem", but problem nonetheless.
    2014 days ago
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